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I'm Lianne Avila, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and the founder of Lessons for Love. For close to 20 years I have worked with couples and individuals, helping them to thrive through life's challenges.

If you are dealing with an issue in your marriage like infidelity or worried that your relationship is in trouble, I can help you. As a Gottman trained therapist, I use many tools to help couples explore what's needed to fix or heal their partnership.

If you're a parent, the struggle to deal with kids is very real. From technology to peer pressure, stress, grades and more, being a modern parent takes a lot of support.

Finally, if you're navigating a transition in your life such as retirement, divorce, leaving a job or searching for deeper meaning in your life, I can help you.

I created Lessons for Love as a resource for couples and individuals to explore the best tips for how to heal and ultimately thrive through life's unpredictable challenges.

If you're in San Mateo, CA and in need of a therapist, please reach out. Otherwise, please sign up for my newsletter list to get my monthly Lessons For Love delivered to your inbox.

Family
“Play is our favorite way of learning.” Diane Ackerman
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Couples
“Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse.” John M. Gottman
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Thriving
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” Louise L. Hay
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What are people saying?

When combining cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness clients saw significant improvement in anxiety and depression which was maintained for 2 years. * PsychNet
Parents that take a genuine interest in their child's emotional intelligence feel closer and more connected with their child. *Gottman Institute

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17 Sep 2019 02:56 You can solve relationship problems without breaking up. Here are a few simple tips.

There are times where your relationship will feel stressful. You may feel overwhelmed. Not only do you have your relationship to manage, you have outside stressors as well to manage. All relationships go through highs and lows. What's important is that you can manage the lows in your relationship. Keep in mind that relationships go through cycles. Once you get over one bump, there will be a time  [ ... ]

"How Can I Reduce My Stress Level?"
26 Aug 2019 04:04 "How can I reduce my stress level?" It's actually not impossible. Here are a 10 simple tips.

This is a question I get a lot in my practice. Unfortunately, people are more stressed out these days than ever. I know you feel like you can't slow down. But, if you don't your body and your mind will eventually give out. This can show up as physical problems or emotional problems. You may feel like you can't stop, even for 5-10 minutes. If you feel this way, then the stress in your life is taki [ ... ]

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20 Aug 2019 03:35 Don't let social media ruin a perfectly good relationship.

Who would of known that social media would of taken over like it has. I don't think it's going away anytime soon. This means you need to get used to it. I've always felt if you don't want people to know something about you, then don't post it on social media. Does social media damage your relationship? Sounds simple, but you know that is not always the case. I hear this a lot, someone posted som [ ... ]

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