Have you ever felt your life is going in a downward spiral? If you answered yes, then you are like many folks out there. We have all felt that way at one time or another.
Fall in love with your life.
Your child won’t stop whining, you didn’t get that promotion you had hoped for, or your cat barfed again. When you feel this way, you don’t want to get caught up in catastrophic thinking. This is also known as negative thinking.
When you think about it, life is a process and we are all a work in progress. If you are going through something that is absolutely awful, it will eventually pass. It may change you, but you will get through it.
When bad things happen, you tend to compare yourself to others. You may feel that almost everyone out there has a better life than you. I need to stop you right there. When you compare yourself to others, you are setting yourself up for failure.
One of my favorite affirmations is to remember that there is always someone with more than you, and there is always someone with less. What does this mean? You aren’t special and life is full of ups and downs.
Don’t give up on yourself or the world you live in. Learn to become your own best friend.
Here are 10 tips that will help you fall in love with your life:
- Learn to receive love. Receiving is just as important as giving. I think this is a hard one for a lot of people. When you don’t receive you begin to feel resentful of the people around you.
- Practice gratitude. I have seen this transform peoples lives, including my own. Write down three great things that happened today. It could be someone holding the door open for you, or the fresh air. Try it for two weeks. Keep it different everyday. That way it won’t get old.
- Live for today. This means live in the present. I see this all the time, people have many regrets about the past or are obsessed about the future. You can’t go back, and you can’t predict the future.
- Put yourself first. This doesn’t mean you are selfish. This means that you care enough about yourself to be kind to yourself. Don’t say yes when you mean no. If you need more rest, then take that time for yourself. Your mind and body will thank you for it.
- Evaluate your expectations. Don’t get caught up on one outcome. This is another one I see a lot. It has to be a certain way. Meaning you must work at a certain company. When it doesn’t work out you are extremely disappointed or even depressed. Be open to lots of outcomes. You may find that you have more opportunities than you think.
- Love your body. It’s easy to compare yourself to the woman on the cover of a magazine. Remember, women come in many shapes and sizes. Also, a lot of those women have been photoshopped, or may have an eating disorder. Eat healthy food, drink plenty of water and exercise. This will help you feel good about yourself.
- Acknowledge your accomplishments. However big or small they are. It’s alright to give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done. Let yourself feel success. You’ve worked hard for it. The more you acknowledge your wins in life, the more motivated you will be to achieve your goals.
- Respect yourself. I think Madonna was the first one to say it. If you don’t respect yourself, others won’t either. When you respect yourself, you attract people that will respect you.
- Take yourself out on a date. Go to your favorite restaurant, movie theater or concert. You don’t have to wait to be asked, or for someone else to arrange it. I like to take myself out for ice cream. It’s one of my favorite treats. Be good to yourself.
- Listen to your inner voice. We tend to be outwardly focused and listen to other people. There can be a cost to that. When was the last time you listened to that inner voice inside. Have you ever sat down and asked yourself questions you may ask another? If you haven’t it’s not to late to start. Just let your pen flow and see what answers you start to get.
Isn’t this the person you would fall in live with? With a little work this can be you. Be kind and gentle to yourself. Be your own best friend.
If you liked this article, there are more in Taking Care of Yourself. It is filled with tips about self-care.
Lianne Avila is a Marriage & Family Therapist helping people in San Mateo, CA who are looking to create a life that is happier and more fulfilling. Please subscribe to Lianne’s newsletter on www.LessonsforLove.com to learn more about her services and expertise.