Drs. John and Julie Gottman are worldwide leaders when it comes to relationships. They have both researched relationships and have found what can make a relationship work. One of the most important qualities of a relationship is the friendship, and how well they know one another. Do you think you know your partners inner world? Take the quiz and find out.

Answer yes or no to the following questions.
  1. I can name my partner’s best friends.
  2. I know what stresses my partner is currently facing.
  3. I know the names of some of the people that have been irritating my partner lately.
  4. I can tell you some of my partner’s life dreams.
  5. I can tell you about my partner’s basic philosophy of life.
  6. I can list the relatives my partner likes the least.
  7. I feel that my partner knows me pretty well.
  8. When we are apart, I often think fondly of my partner.
  9. I often kiss or touch my partner affectionately.
  10. My partner really respects me.
  11. There is fire and passion in this relationship.
  12. Romance is definitely still part of our relationship.
  13. My partner appreciates the things that I do in this relationship.
  14. My partner generally likes my personality.
  15. Our sex life is mostly satisfying.
  16. At the end of the day my partner is glad to see me.
  17. My partner is one of my best friends.
  18. We just love talking to each other.
  19. There is lots to give and take (both people have influence) in our discussions.
  20. My partner listens respectfully, even when we disagree.
  21. My partner is usually a great help as a problem solver.
  22. We generally mesh well on basic values and goals in life.
If you answered no to more than five of the questions, then you probably don’t know your partner as well as you think. Although, it’s not too late to get to know your partner. The Gottman Institute has been able to help many couples. For more information or a consultation please call me at (650) 892-0357.

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