Want advice on how to create a happier, more successful relationship? Get my free ebook
"What To Do When You Don't Feel Heard In Your Relationship" by signing up for my newsletter.


I'm Lianne Avila, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and the founder of Lessons for Love. For close to 20 years I have worked with couples and individuals, helping them to thrive through life's challenges.

If you are dealing with an issue in your marriage like infidelity or worried that your relationship is in trouble, I can help you. As a Gottman trained therapist, I use many tools to help couples explore what's needed to fix or heal their partnership.

If you're a parent, the struggle to deal with kids is very real. From technology to peer pressure, stress, grades and more, being a modern parent takes a lot of support.

Finally, if you're navigating a transition in your life such as retirement, divorce, leaving a job or searching for deeper meaning in your life, I can help you.

I created Lessons for Love as a resource for couples and individuals to explore the best tips for how to heal and ultimately thrive through life's unpredictable challenges.

If you're in San Mateo, CA and in need of a therapist, please reach out. Otherwise, please sign up for my newsletter list to get my monthly Lessons For Love delivered to your inbox.

Family
“Play is our favorite way of learning.” Diane Ackerman
Read More
Couples
“Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse.” John M. Gottman
Read More
Thriving
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” Louise L. Hay
Read More

What are people saying?

When combining cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness clients saw significant improvement in anxiety and depression which was maintained for 2 years. * PsychNet
Parents that take a genuine interest in their child's emotional intelligence feel closer and more connected with their child. *Gottman Institute

Latest Blog Posts

10 Benefits For Couples That Read T...
14 Nov 2019 05:02 Learn how reading with your partner will increase the intimacy in your relationship.

It's no secret that reading stimulates the brain. But, did you know that there are benefits for your relationship when you read a book with your partner? Studies have found that couples that read together are happier. Couples that read together have less stress. Unfortunately, people are more stressed out than they have ever been. This is because you are constantly plugged in. You are on your ce [ ... ]

5 Ways Self-Care Can Improve Your R...
10 Nov 2019 23:24 Learn how a self-care plan works better, when you practice it with your partner.

It's easy in our fast paced society to forget about your own self-care. You are busy taking care of everybody else. You have a job and deadlines to meet. This doesn't leave much time for your own self-care plan. Self-care doesn't have to be difficult. I have found a lot of people feel guilty when they think of self-care. This can come from an old thought pattern. It's time to throw out that old t [ ... ]

Stress Management: 6 Tips That Will...
27 Oct 2019 22:52 Learn how having a stress management plan, will help decrease anxiety and depression.

You feel overwhelmed. You feel like there is nothing you can do about the stress in your life. The children won't stop arguing. The bills are piling up. You can't finish the laundry. Will it ever end? Stress management, now. You wish there were more hours in the day, but there isn't. This makes you feel like your life is out of control. You don't feel like there is anytime for fun in your life.  [ ... ]

Contact Information

Office Location 
Lianne Avila, MFT
1510 Fashion Island Blvd.
Suite 110
San Mateo, CA 94404

Phone Number
(650) 892-0357

YourTango Expert

 Visit my profile on YourTango Experts

Map & Directions

Address: 1510 Fashion Island Blvd. Suite 110 San Mateo, CA 94404


Contact Us  Get Directions