Month: July 2013

Work and Relationship Balance

By Lianne Avila / July 30, 2013 /

These days finding balance between work and a relationship, may seem like the tip of the iceberg. Don’t forget, there are also friends, family (kids if you have them), personal errand and responsibilities, etc. These days being over-busy is the norm in our society. Relationships are the ones that suffer. We, unfortunately, set them last…

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Top 5 Signs You Need Couples Counseling

By Lianne Avila / July 22, 2013 /

“Whenever your’re wrong admit it; Whenever you’re right shut up.” Ogden Nash We all dream of growing up and finding the partner of our dreams. We are told there is nothing better in this world than finding the one you love, and living happily ever after. But, we all know the honeymoon doesn’t last forever.…

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Three Myths About a Happy Marriage

By Lianne Avila / July 15, 2013 /

Couples are always relieved to hear that even the “happiest” couples have fights. Many counselors will say that good communication in a marriage is what will make it work, and the couple will be happy. We have found that to be a myth. This started with a Psychologist by the name of Carl Rogers. He…

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The Truth About Arguing in Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila / July 8, 2013 /

The number one reason couples come to see me for counseling is, ‘we just don’t know how to communicate, anymore.’ Our research in Gottman has shown that it’s not how often a couple argues that will predict whether or not the couple stays together. It’s how they argue that predicts whether or not they will…

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Don’t Believe Everything Your Mind Tells You

By Lianne Avila / July 1, 2013 /

We’ve all heard the saying, ‘don’t believe everything people tell you.’ But, what about everything your mind tells you? I hear this all the time in my practice, ‘I’m a bad parent, I’m a bad student, or I’m a bad spouse.’ Is this really the truth, or is this your mind playing tricks on you?…

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