Month: February 2016

Why Research About Relationships?

By Lianne Avila / February 29, 2016 /

As many of you know, I have been trained to use the Gottman Method when I counsel couples. This is a well researched method. Dr. Gottman’s have done 40 years of research in using this method. Sometimes, people wonder, ‘why research relationships?’ Believe, it or not, there is a science to relationships. After 40 years…

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Four Ways To Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship

By Lianne Avila / February 22, 2016 /

“A pure and lasting relationship, has fights, has trust, has faith, has tears, has hurt, has laughter and has weird stupid and unnecessary arguments.” Kemmy Nola You are so stubborn! Whenever there is a problem you always blame me! I’ve never been able to pursue my career it’s always your career first! I just can’t stand…

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Don’t Stop Believin’: 10 Ways To Show Love To Yourself Today

By Lianne Avila / February 15, 2016 /

“Love is the miracle cure. Loving myself works miracles in my life.” Louise Hay Everyone’s heard this self-help platitude: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. This may be true but we learn self-love by being loved, especially in the places where we feel most unsure and most vulnerable. If you…

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How To Laugh With Your Partner You Take Seriously

By Lianne Avila / February 8, 2016 /

Finding the right person can be difficult, but once it happens you’ve got to deal with the task of maintenance. This means keeping things fresh and finding time to spend with one another. This means prioritizing your relationship. When a couple enters a relationship, it’s on the top of the list. This means having fun…

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21 Ways To Create Rituals of Connection In Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila / February 1, 2016 /

Rituals of Connection are core to a positive and happy relationship. They create shared meaning in the relationship. If you have shared meaning in the relationship, then there is a good chance the relationship is stable and happy. If you don’t, then you might be asking yourself, ‘Is that all there is?’ Sure, date nights,…

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