“A loving and caring touch is a healing balm that soothes away the stress of the day.” unknown

Stress impacts our relationship more than we are aware of. If you try and ignore it, then it only gets worse. Stress, is also contagious. It can bounce back and forth between partners. This makes it difficult for partners to enjoy one another and spend quality time together. If stress goes too long ignored, then it can turn into depression. This will leave you feeling isolated and alone. Here are four tips to help you overcome stress as a couple:

  1. Recognize stress symptoms. It’s easy for couples to become accustomed to unchecked stress. They will overlook how destructive it can become. Some signs of stress are when you are snappy, withdrawn, moody, restless or overly excited. You may self-medicate by using drugs, alcohol, food, etc.
  2. Approach your partner. In a kind way ask your partner, what’s going on? Make sure to be compassionate. Listen with empathy.
  3. Have the stress reducing conversation. This is where each person has a chance to be the speaker and the listener. Set aside some time where you won’t be interrupted. This is not about giving your partner advice or trying to persuade them. This is where you allow your partner to talk about what is stressing them out. You validate what they are saying by listening and being empathetic. This will also help create understanding in the relationship.
  4. Create a list of stress-reducing rituals. Set aside time with your partner and create a list together of how each one of you reduces stress. This can be anything from taking a bubble bath, going for a walk, listening to relaxing music, etc. Make sure that you spend time together doing things that are on each of your lists. 
We want our relationships to help reduce stress in our life, not increase it. The more time you spend together doing things you both enjoy that reduce stress, the more you will see your relationship as a way to reduce stress in your life. These are a few tips to help get you started, for more help please call me for a consultation at (650) 892-0357,

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