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I'm Lianne Avila, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and the founder of Lessons for Love. For close to 20 years I have worked with couples and individuals, helping them to thrive through life's challenges.

If you are dealing with an issue in your marriage like infidelity or worried that your relationship is in trouble, I can help you. As a Gottman trained therapist, I use many tools to help couples explore what's needed to fix or heal their partnership.

If you're a parent, the struggle to deal with kids is very real. From technology to peer pressure, stress, grades and more, being a modern parent takes a lot of support.

Finally, if you're navigating a transition in your life such as retirement, divorce, leaving a job or searching for deeper meaning in your life, I can help you.

I created Lessons for Love as a resource for couples and individuals to explore the best tips for how to heal and ultimately thrive through life's unpredictable challenges.

If you're in San Mateo, CA and in need of a therapist, please reach out. Otherwise, please sign up for my newsletter list to get my monthly Lessons For Love delivered to your inbox.

Family
“Play is our favorite way of learning.” Diane Ackerman
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Couples
“Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse.” John M. Gottman
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Thriving
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” Louise L. Hay
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When combining cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness clients saw significant improvement in anxiety and depression which was maintained for 2 years. * PsychNet
Parents that take a genuine interest in their child's emotional intelligence feel closer and more connected with their child. *Gottman Institute
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Latest Blog Posts

The Uncomfortable Link Between Mone...
06 Nov 2018 04:08 Are you tired of having money and relationship problems. Here are five tips that can help with that.

Talking about money in a relationship, can be stressful. But, you really need to talk about this one. I know, no one likes to hear let's talk about the budget. When you go into a relationship, you each come from a different family of origin. This means that you each have a different language. I have found that many couples have a different language (aka-belief system) about money. That is why mon [ ... ]

What To Do To Take Care Of Yourself...
30 Oct 2018 01:44 Learn what to do to take care of yourself, when your spouse is depressed.

How could this of happened? You have been married for a while, and you just got the news. Yes, your spouse is depressed. This is stressful on any relationship. How will you manage this? You still have to take care of the house and make lunches for the kids. Not to mention your own work. This doesn't leave a lot of room for yourself. What to do to take care of yourself? Are you kidding me? You a [ ... ]

What To Do When Your Emotional Bank...
16 Oct 2018 02:25 Learn how to make deposits when your emotional bank account is empty.

Your Emotional Bank Account is empty! What, how did this happen? Does this mean that one more withdrawal could make it overdrawn, or worse yet close it? This can definitely happen after you have been in a relationship for a while. Learn what to do when your emotional bank account is empty. In the beginning you put your relationship first. But, now you have work, home and a family. This doesn’t [ ... ]

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