Breast cancer supporter
I let got of the anger and pain in order to
let new beginnings into my life.

If you’ve had breast cancer, then you know the toll it can take on your body and self-esteem. Breast cancer not only affects the person diagnosed, but it affects the people that are close to them especially their partner. Each person is unique and so is their intimate or sexual relationship. If you are in a relationship, it’s important to talk to your partner and let them know what you need and how you are feeling. Here are five tips that can help:

  1. Be honest with your partner. Things may be different after a breast cancer diagnosis. Make sure to let your partner know the changes that are happening with your body. Share your feelings with your partner. Let your partner know when you are having a good day and when you aren’t. 
  2. Be honest with yourself. This is not a time to be superwoman. Make sure you know what your limitations are and tell your partner. It’s also important to let your doctor know what is going on. This is not a subject to be shy about. 
  3. Make time for your partner. Life is busy enough and then when you add a breast cancer diagnosis to it, it may seem there is no time left. Schedule some time in a quiet place or go out on a date at least once a week. Make sure there are no distractions. Ask important questions and make this time a priority in your relationship.
  4. Reassure your partner. Your partner may feel you have enough to deal with and not share their fears or concerns. Make it clear that you want to hear from your partner. Make sure your partner knows that you are in this together.
  5. Build your self-esteem. It’s important to be good to yourself during this time. Make sure to get plenty of rest and drink lots of water. Exercise, take a yoga class for breast cancer patients or go for a walk. Make an effort to feel good about yourself. Surround yourself with people that love you, good music, good books, good movies, etc.
This can be a very difficult time in your life. You don’t have to go through this alone. Make sure you ask for help and be specific. It can be difficult to let go of control but this will make it easier in the long run. For more help please call me at (650) 892-0357. 

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