When you have a family and a career, it doesn’t leave much time for yourself. Even if you love your family and career, you may be feeling stressed out. You are busy taking care of everyone else. This doesn’t leave much time for yourself.
Self-care will help you feel better about yourself.
The first thing to remember, is to go easy on yourself. You can’t do it all, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to do it all. If you are around people that make you feel that way, then you should rethink who you spend your time with.
There is more research about self-care. It does help reduce stress, and stress is the number one killer these days. But, this doesn’t mean that everyone has a self-care plan.
People are busier than ever these days. Your calendar is packed with things to do for your family and work. You may feel like you don’t have time for yourself. This means you need to start delegating or saying no. This will help clear your calendar and allow more time for yourself.
Here are 4 self-care tips you can start today:
- Allow plenty of time for rest and relaxation. Studies have found that you need 7 to 9 hours of sleep. This is how your body and mind recharge. You also need to schedule breaks during the day. You are not a machine, you need to stop. Get up and go for a walk. If the weather is nice go outside. Stop and look around. You can sit and look at the water, trees or flowers. Allow yourself permission to do nothing. Your body and mind will thank you for it.
- Eat healthy food and drink plenty of water. This means stay away from processed foods. It’s easy to pick up something on the go, but you aren’t getting the nutrients you need. Make sure you are eating lean protein, plenty of fruits and vegetables and healthy carbohydrates. You also want to make sure you have some healthy fats. This is how you feel full. It will also help reduce cravings for foods high in sugar. Make sure you are hydrated. This is another way to prevent cravings. Carry your water bottle with you, and keep it filled with water. You also need to set aside time for meal prep. This means chopping up fresh vegetables and preparing lean protein early in the week. Then, it is easily available for meals.
- Get moving. This means you need to schedule time for exercise. You can go to your favorite cardio class at the gym, go for a swim or simply go for a walk. The more the better. Get your heart rate up. This is good for your physical and mental health. Go to a yoga or pilates class. If you can’t make it to the gym, then watch a video. It doesn’t have to be long. Start with 10 minutes. You will notice a difference almost immediately. You may feel like you don’t have the time, but you do. It will eventually become a habit. Exercising regularly will also help with sleep.
- Surround yourself with positive people. Being around positive people is good for your well being. Start to take inventory. Who are your closest 5 people? What are they like? Do you look forward to seeing them? If not, ask yourself why you keep them close? Studies have found that pets are also good for your well-being. They have a lot of the characteristics that a healthy relationship has. They love you unconditionally and look forward to seeing you when you come home.
Start today to prioritize your self-care plan. Not only will you feel better, your family and friends will start to notice. You will attract people that want to be around you, and that are emotionally healthy.
If you liked this article, there are more in Raising Healthy, Happy Kids. It is filled with tips on taking care of yourself and raising a family.
Lianne Avila is a Marriage & Family Therapist helping people in San Mateo, CA who are looking to create a life that is happier and more fulfilling. Please subscribe to Lianne’s newsletter on www.LessonsforLove.com to learn more about her services and expertise.