If you’ve been reading my blog, then you know that I have completed levels 1, 2, and 3 in Gottman Training for Couples. Gottman is a well researched method used for treating couples. Dr.’s John and Julie Gottman are both professors in Psychology at the University of Washington. John Gottman entered the field of psychological research with a background in advanced mathematics and statistical analysis. In his 40+ years of his career he has developed mathematical models, scales and formulas to identify what makes a relationship work and what predicts divorce. 

Gottman found relationship difficulties are caused by the “Four Horsemen,” named after the famous Albrecht Durer engraving Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.

Factors that predict divorce include:

1. Criticism of partners personality 
2. Defensiveness
3. Contempt
4. Stonewalling, or refusing to interact

Couples that are happy, treat each other with with consideration, and are supportive of each other. 

The goals in the Gottman Method include increasing closeness and friendship behaviors, addressing conflict productively, and building a life of shared meaning together. The Gottman Method is based from their research in couple’s patterns and challenges.

For more information read, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. 

Gottman is profiled in Malcolm Gladwell’s Bestseller Blink for his ability to predict a couple’s likelihood of divorce with 94% accuracy with just a few minutes of observation. Psychotherapy Networker, a professional journal, recognized Gottman as one of the ten most influential therapists of the past 25 years.

It was in 2011 that I started the Gottman training for therapists. Not only has Gottman helped me in my practice, it has also helped me personally, with both my family and friends. For information, please call me for a consultation at (650) 892-0357.

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