Drs. John and Julie Gottman have found that what sets the tone for a good relationship, is the quality of the friendship or how well they know one another. You may think you know your partner, but do you really know your partner? How well do you know their inner world? Take the quiz and find out.

Answer yes or no to the following questions.
  1.  I can name my partner’s best friends.
  2. I can tell you what stresses my partner is currently facing.
  3. I know the names of some of the people who have been irritating in my partner’s current life.
  4. I can tell you some of my partner’s life dreams.
  5. I am very familiar with my partner’s religious beliefs and ideas.
  6. I can tell you about my partner’s basic philosophy of life.
  7. I can list the relatives my partner likes the least.
  8. I know my partner’s favorite music.
  9. I can list my partner’s three favorite movies.
  10. My partner is familiar with what are my current stresses.
  11. I know the three times that have been most special in my partner’s life.
  12. I can tell you the most stressful thing that happened to my partner as a child.
  13. I can list my partner’s major aspirations and hopes in life.
  14. I know my partner’s major current worries.
  15. My partner knows who my friends are.
  16. I know what my partner would want to do if he suddenly won the lottery.
  17. I can tell you, in detail, my first impressions of my partner.
  18. Periodically, I update my knowledge of my partner’s world.
  19. I feel that my partner knows me pretty well.
  20. My partner is familiar with my own hopes and aspirations.
If you answered yes to fifteen or more, then congratulations! You have a lot of strength in your relationship. 8-14, this is a pivotal time in your relationship. This is a time to give your weaknesses in the relationship some attention. It will help make you stronger in the future. Seven or fewer, your relationship is in serious trouble. If this concerns you, then you probably still value the relationship and would like to get some help. Please call me for a consultation at (650) 892-0357.

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