“Your body makes you sexy. Your smile makes you pretty. But your personality makes you beautiful.” Ritu Ghatourey

What is emotional attraction? It’s not just being attracted to your partner’s body, but also to their heart, mind and dreams. It also means accepting and valuing them for who they are. Developing a deeper emotional attraction will deepen your sexual attraction to your partner. If you are communicating well with your partner, then you can open up about your opinions to your partner without being judged. Have a conversation and show genuine interest in your partner. Here are six helpful tips to have a conversation, that will help increase emotional attraction in your relationship:

  1. Take turns. Each partner gets to be the complainer for fifteen minutes.
  2. Show genuine interest. Don’t let your mind or eyes wander. Try to stay intently focused on your partner. 
  3. Communicate your understanding. Let your partner know that you are empathizing with what they say.
  4. Take your partner’s side. This means being supportive, even if you think their perspective is unreasonable.
  5. Express affection. Hold your partner; say “I love you.’
  6. Validate emotions. Let your partner know that their feelings make sense to you by telling them that.
Having a conversation using these tools will help reduce stress in your relationship. If you’re not using these tools, it’s never too late to start. The more you use them the easier they will become. In the beginning it may not feel natural, but keep practicing. Your relationship will change and feel less stressful. If you find after reading this article that it’s not enough, please call me at (650) 892-0357 for a consultation.

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