Failure doesn’t have to be a bad word. We have all experienced failure. We just don’t all like to admit it. If you look at some of the most successful people in the world, they will tell you they have had a number of failures.
Self-Care behaviors allow you to move away from feeling stuck.
Failure may be one of the hardest things to admit, but one of the best things for your mental health. By admitting to yourself that you have failed, it will allow you to move on. You can’t go back in life. This will allow you to move away from feeling stuck.
You can allow your failure to become your lesson. This means you can learn from it. (Also known as maturing.) This will help you bring more positive people into your life.
Here are 7 self-care behaviors for failure:
- Start by developing a mindfulness practice. You can start with 10 minutes a day. Start by setting up a time that will work for you, and practice at the same time each day. Mindfulness involves using deep breathing techniques. This is good for your central nervous system. Practice whether you feel stressed out or not
- Approach each day with a purpose. Start by outlining daily structure. Each step is important to reach your goal. No task is too small to feel good about. This is where your inner critic can get in the way. Learn to be kind to yourself with your inner voice. Remember, small steps lead to big steps.
- Develop a healthy exercise program. This doesn’t mean that it has to be extreme exercise, or that you must workout three hours a day. You aren’t a professional athlete, and you shouldn’t have to feel like one. Go for a 20 minute walk or go to a yoga class. You shouldn’t feel like you are competing with the person next to you. This can cause you to push yourself too much. This is when you are at risk of an injury. Exercise should be fun. Make sure you participate is classes that you enjoy, or exercise outdoors. You will also get natural sunlight, which has vitamin D. Exercise releases endorphins. This is where you experience the natural high of exercise.
- Surround yourself with positive people. Start by reviewing the people that you are the most close to. Take a look at your top five people. Are they supportive? Are they positive and optimistic, or are they negative? The people you are around have a direct effect on your emotional health. They should not be creating more stress in your life. They should be positive and supportive. If necessary, work at developing an adequate and appropriate support system.
- Avoid being self-critical. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to see that there are always choices. This will prevent you from feeling trapped and help you to feel optimistic about the future. Use positive self talk. This will help you feel better about yourself and your choices. This will also start to rewire the brain. This is something you will need to practice daily. Remember, the brain is a muscle and it needs to be conditioned.
- Get adequate sleep and rest. The recommendation is 7 to 9 hours. It’s true you can get too much sleep. Make sure the environment you sleep in is dark and quiet. You don’t want to have electronic devices nearby. They will keep you awake. Make sure they are shut down an hour before bed. I went on a walk with a friend the other day, and she asked me if I got enough sleep. I told her that I did, and she was surprised. She told me that she didn’t and that none of her friends or family did either. I was surprised. Sleep is essential. Our minds and body need it to recharge. If you aren’t getting enough sleep, then you need to start your self-care plan today. Make sleep a priority. Your mind and body will thank you.
- Smile and have laughter in your life. Laughing is the best medicine. You can watch a comedy or funny video. Be spontaneous and playful in your life. If you watch children, they are always making time for play. It is a priority in their life, and play should also be a priority in your life. When was the last time you looked at your life through a child’s eyes? It’s easy to predict that something won’t be fun, or that you won’t like someone. This is often based on negative experiences from the past. Studies show when you play more, you will have a more optimistic mindset.
It’s time to stop and slow down. Start with one of these behaviors today. You will begin to feel happier. Start by assessing how you spend your time.
Are you spending your time doing things that you love? Or, are you spending your time doing things that you hate? If you answered yes to the second question, then it’s time to start your self-care plan.
If you liked this article, there are more in Taking Care Of Yourself. It is filled with self-care tips that will help you feel happier today.
Lianne Avila is a Marriage & Family Therapist helping people in San Mateo, CA who are looking to create a life that is happier and more fulfilling. Please subscribe to Lianne’s newsletter on www.LessonsforLove.com to learn more about her services and expertise.