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Your relationship will change. Learn how you can get through it.

Your relationship will change over time. There are many different reasons as to why your relationship will change. If you've been in a relationship for a while, then you know that the honeymoon phase will end.

The good news is, this is when you will begin to grow. Everyone has shortcomings. It's important to build a culture of understanding in your relationship. This will help build a long lasting relationship. 

Why do relationships change? There isn't a simple answer. 

As couples get closer to one another, their negative traits begin to stand out. Your relationship feels routine and is less exciting. When all of this happens your relationship begins to lose its luster. 

Why do relationships change? Here are 5 reasons why:

  1. Your partner's flaws will stand out. In the beginning, you couldn't see anything wrong with your partner. But, now you have been in a relationship for a while and you see your partner through a clear lens. You would like him to ask you more questions, or be more talkative. He doesn't always pick up his clothes, or help with the chores as much as you would like. And, there are many more things that stand out.
  2. The sex changes. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. When you are in a meaningful relationship, and you feel like your partner really gets you. The…

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Learn how relationships problems cause anxiety, and what you can do about it.

More and more you are hearing about anxiety. What this means is that you are stressed out. When you are stressed out and you don't have a coping mechanism, it will turn into anxiety.

So, can relationship problems cause anxiety? 

The answer is yes. Learn what you can do about it before it's too late.

Studies show that couples wait a minimum of seven years before they go to therapy for their relationship problems. What does this mean? You may already have an anxiety disorder. The truth of the matter is, that if you wait too long you might not be able to help it.

This means that the earlier an intervention is made the better. Even if the problems seem small, the sooner you get help for your relationship the better.

Here are 8 tips that can with anxiety that is being caused from your relationship:

  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If you can’t think of anything, then invite them out on a fun…

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Learn how simple it can be to take care of yourself before others.

Have you ever said yes, when you mean no? Of course you have. This means you are human. We have all been there. You really want to go home and relax after a long day. But, at the last minute your boss asks you if you have completed that assignment. You know you haven't, and now you have to.

This doesn't mean you are a slacker or incompetent. The reason you may have fallen behind is because you aren't prioritizing. And, by prioritizing I mean prioritizing yourself.

When you take care of yourself before others, you are actually more efficient.

Sure, it would be great to save the world. But, you don't want to kill yourself in the process. I see this all the time in my office. People get caught up in the comparison game. They think by doing more, they will be better and get ahead. That is not always the case. You may end up tired and feeling depleted. This is also known as feeling burnt out.

You know, when you start to feel resentful towards your friends and family because of their achievements. If you are feeling this way. You aren't alone. More and more Americans are suffering from burn out. This can lead to depression or anxiety. If this goes untreated, you may need to go on a long mental health…

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Reducing stress with Meditation, is one of the best ways to reduce stress.

Do you feel like your mind is always going? Are you always a few steps ahead? If you answered yes, then you are stressed out. It's easy to feel like you can't do something about this. I have worked with a lot of people over the years that suffer from anxiety. But, you actually can reduce the stress in your life. You have more control than you think.

Reducing stress with meditation, will provide relief.

You are not a machine. You can't go and go. If you don't slow down, your body and mind will eventually shut down. Then, you will suffer physical symptoms like headaches and stomach aches. You will also feel anxious or even depressed. 

Here are 7 reasons why you should consider reducing stress with meditation:

  1. It can help prevent information overloadI think by now you have experienced this. Your mindi is on overload. You have packed way too much into your schedule, and it may be hard to keep things straight. This can affect how effective you are. When your brain is on overload you are more likely to make mistakes.

  2. It can help create space for what is important to you.  You may be doing a lot, but not really feel like you are getting much done. This happens when you don’t stop. You need to prioritize what is important to…

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The emotional bank account paradigm. What does that mean? And, what is your balance?

I'm sure you know how a bank account works. When you make deposits the bank account will grow. When you make withdrawals the bank account doesn't grow. It can also become overdrawn and become at risk of closing. 

Learn how to use the emotional bank account paradigm in your relationship.

The Gottman Institute for Couples found that the best way to make your emotional bank account grow, is to have lots of small deposits over a long period of time. This means if you make one large deposit now and then, it won't help your emotional bank account. It could even hurt your emotional bank account. This means you need lots of meaningful deposits over a long period of time.

Here are 11 small tips that will help you build the emotional bank account paradigm in your relationship:

  1. Say thank you often. This is one of those small deposits that will help build your emotional bank account. Try to be specific. For example, thank your husband when he listened to you vent about your day at the office.

  2. Say I appreciate often. This is another small deposit in your emotional bank account. Let your husband know that you appreciate how hard he works for the family, or, that he picked up dinner on the way home from the office.

  3. Complain don't blame. This means don't criticize one another. Learn…

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