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Learn how to add self-care to your life. You will begin to feel better.

Are you tired of feeling stressed out? If you answered yes, then you should take a look at your self-care plan. Do you put self-care on your calendar? If you answered no, then why not?

People are more stressed out than ever these days. Stress is the number one killer. What can help decrease stress in your life is self-care.

What is self-care?

Having a self-care plan doesn't mean you are selfish. It's means you are being mindful about taking care of yourself. That you are prioritizing your own self-care. It's easy to put everyone else first. When you do this you don't leave anytime for yourself.

You will start to burn out, and even grow resentful of others in your life. People will get the wrong vibe from you, and you will push away your friends and family. You are also putting your physical and mental health at risk.

Self-care - one day at a time:

  • Day 1 - Surround yourself with positive people. Who are the five closest people you have in your life? What are they like? Do they have positive energy? Do they complain a lot, are they negative? Do they help uplift you, or do they bring you down? When you have positive people in your life, this will help you have a positive attitude.

  • Day 2 - Learn and practice relaxation techniques. Try mindfulness…

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Learn how pets are good for your relationship.

Is a pet good for your relationship? The great pet debate has been going on for years. Sure, they provide companionship and they will love you unconditionally. Pets are also a good way to see how you would work together as a couple raising a child.

Pets can help your relationship.

I myself am a pet lover. I grew up with cats and dogs, and for a time bunnies. They provided unconditional love to me throughout my childhood and into adulthood. Now, I am a cat owner. One of the best things at the end of the day is coming home to see my cat. My cat is also a great travel companion. If I'm not going on too long of a road trip, I will take my cat with me. If I'm traveling alone, the trip goes by much faster.

When you are in a relationship, it's easy to rely on your partner to soothe you. But, your partner may not always be available to soothe you or soothe you in the way you want. This is where a pet can be helpful. They are always there to soothe you. This will help make you feel loved and cared for.

Here are 5 reasons pets can help your relationship:

  1. Pets can help you get a better nights sleep. Studies have found that people report better sleep…

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Learn how self-care will improve your well being. It's easy and fun.

Many people have New Year's resolutions. But, by the end of January most people haven't achieved them and often give up on them. Instead of setting a New Year's resolution. Look at setting goals for the New Year.

This means you don't give up after one month. They continue throughout the New Year. Most of the time, people set goals around work or making more money. They often forget about themselves, and self-care.

"I don't have time for self-care."

I hear that a lot. When you don't set aside time for yourself, you will eventually burn out. This means you can become angry and even resentful towards others. This can show in your attitude. This can also show in your physical and mental health.

Unfortunately, you have been taught to take care of everyone else first. This means you put yourself last. You may think self-care is selfish. That is not the case. Research has found, you can't take care of anyone else unless you take care of yourself.

Many people think of self-care as getting a massage, or a mani/pedi. Those are nice things, but self-care is something you practice daily. It's taking care of your mind, body and spirit.

Here are 8 easy self-care tips for the New Year:

  1. Start your own mindfulness practice. You may be thinking you don't have time for this in…

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You are a good catch. Learn some of the subtle reasons as to why you are still single.

You are a good catch. So, why are you still single? First of all, you aren't alone. Nearly 50% of the population is single. So, the odds are in your favor.

It's easy to get stuck in the mindset, that there aren't anymore single people. Once that starts, it just gets worse. There aren't any good men left, they are all taken. If you are telling yourself that, then  you need to stop. This will only make things worse.

Why Am I Still Single?

You keep asking yourself this question. But, you can't come up with an answer. When you are single, it does seem as if everyone is in a relationship. Just turn on the T.V. or look on the internet. All you see are happy couples.

We live in a society that drives being in a relationship. The message you get, is that in order to be happy you need to be in a relationship. But, is that true? How many couples do you know that are in a happy relationship? That are in the type of relationship that you want to be in? 

There are some advantages to being single. Especially during the Holidays. You can go where you would like and visit the relatives you would like to visit. If you'd like to stay home and keep it casual that is…

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Learn what the top 5 selfish behaviors are in a relationship.

Relationships require empathy and altruism. I'm sure everyone at some time or another has felt they are in a relationship with a selfish person. I'm not just talking about a romantic partner. This could be a colleague, friend or family member.

We've all been there. But, have you ever stopped and thought that you may be the selfish person? Are your own behaviors in your relationship holding you back? How altruistic are you?

Studies have found that holding the door open for a stranger and paying your loved ones back on Venmo, demonstrate altruistic behavior. Studies have also found that as you get older you become more altruistic.

Selfish behaviors take a toll on every type of relationship. It's not just limited to romantic relationships. If the selfish behavior doesn't stop, it will eventually end what was once a great relationship.

Here are 5 selfish behaviors to stop now in your relationship:

  1. Taking your partner for granted. Nobody likes that feeling. When you've been in a relationship for a while this can happen. You may even begin to feel better than your partner. When you are in a relationship you need to feel equal. When you begin to feel better than, contempt starts. This is one of the biggest predictors of a breakup in a relationship. It causes resentment. Remember, you can't go back in a relationship.…

Read more: 5 Selfish Behaviors To STOP Now In Your Relationship

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