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Learn how a self-care plan works better, when you practice it with your partner.

It's easy in our fast paced society to forget about your own self-care. You are busy taking care of everybody else. You have a job and deadlines to meet. This doesn't leave much time for your own self-care plan.

Self-care doesn't have to be difficult. I have found a lot of people feel guilty when they think of self-care. This can come from an old thought pattern. It's time to throw out that old thought pattern, and replace it with a new one.

Learn how self-care can improve your relationship.

I talk about self-care a lot in my practice. When people think of self-care they often think of getting a mani/pedi or a massage. Those are nice things, but self-care is taking care of your mind, body and spirit. It's something that you practice daily. It doesn't have to be difficult.

  • Take ten minutes in the morning and meditate.
  • Make sure you are getting plenty of rest.
  • Eat nutrient rich foods and drink plenty of water.
  • Watch a funny video.
  • Take breaks during the day.
  • Go for a walk. 

Surround yourself with positive people. Start by reviewing the social supports available to you. If necessary, start developing a positive social support system.

Approach each day with purpose. Be productive by outlining daily structure. No task is too small to feel good about. Each step can…

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Learn how having a stress management plan, will help decrease anxiety and depression.

You feel overwhelmed. You feel like there is nothing you can do about the stress in your life. The children won't stop arguing. The bills are piling up. You can't finish the laundry. Will it ever end?

Stress management, now.

You wish there were more hours in the day, but there isn't. This makes you feel like your life is out of control. You don't feel like there is anytime for fun in your life.

After a while, you may start feeling tired and resentful. It seems like everyone else is having fun, why aren't you? This is when it's time to take inventory of your life. You really are driving the bus, here. Back up, and take a look at how you got here.

You actually are in control of your life. This means you can stop saying yes when you mean no. 

Here are 6 tips that will help you reduce stress and feel better:

  1. Connect with others. Friendships are important. As you get older it's easy to let them slip away. Work, family and your house tend to take priority. After a while, friends get lower and lower on the list. Spending quality time with friends, will help make you feel better. It can also decrease anxiety and depression. Keep in mind a good friendship, involves and speaker and a listener.…

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Take better care of yourself, today. This will help you and your family.

Having too much stress, can negatively impact your life. Especially your relationship. When you feel overwhelmed, you may start to disconnect. When this happens your partner will begin to feel left out.

Your partner may also feel they have done something wrong. But, in reality you are feeling overwhelmed from the stress in your life. I see this happen a lot. Life takes over and you put everyone else first. If this goes on too long, you will begin to feel burnt out.

Take better care of yourself, today.

Self-care is taking care of your mind, body, and soul. Start by assessing your needs. Next, take action on that assessment. 

Here are 10 self care tips, that will help you in your relationship:

  1. Get organized to help your self care. This means organizing the space you live in. You want to be able to find your keys and wallet easily. You don't want to have a lot of clutter around. You will feel weighed down. When you bring new things in, clear old things out. This is good for your mind.

  2. Let a pet help you with your self care. Your pet will give you unconditional love. Make sure you spend quality time with your pet. Hug your pet and enjoy spending time with your pet. They have actually been known to help with the symptoms of…

Read more: 10 Ways To Take Better Care Of Yourself When You Are In A Relationship

Start your happiness journey today. You can learn how to take better care of yourself.

When you think of self care, you may think of getting a massage or a mani/pedi. That is alright, there is nothing wrong with getting those things. But, what self care means is taking care of your mind, body and soul.

Learning to take time out when you need it, is the core of self care. In today's world everyone is busy. You are driven to work more and do more. If you keep up at this pace, you will end up feeling depleted and empty inside.

Take better care of yourself, now.

Unfortunately, practicing self care isn't always easy. I have found that a lot of people feel guilty when they put themselves first. Even when this means they are exhausted. Which means you are going to burn out. This can lead to many other problems.

This puts both your emotional and physical health at risk. But, it's not until one of those is at risk when people begin to do something. 

Here are 10 tips to help you take better care of yourself:

  1. Exercise daily as part of your self care routine. I see a lot of people neglect this one. Exercise helps you physically and mentally. I think a lot of people know this, but this is the first one you remove from your calendar. If you can't get to the gym…

Read more: 10 Ways To Take Better Care Of Yourself While You Are Single

Learn some simple strategies that will help you calm anxiety, now.

While some anxiety is not a bad thing, like feeling anxious before an exam. You don't want it to take over. If you don't stop feeling anxious after the exam, then you may want to bring in some stress reduction strategies to your life.

Learn how to calm anxiety.

Research has found that about 40 million Americans live with an anxiety disorder. This is more than the occasional anxiety or fear. This is when the anxiety doesn't stop. This can affect your sleep, and also your focus. If it goes untreated, it can affect your health.

It's important to look at treating your anxiety disorder with talk therapy and medication. But, everyone can benefit from other ways to reduce the stress and anxiety in their life.You need to take a look at your lifestyle. You need to eat a balanced diet, limit alcohol and caffeine, and take time for yourself.

Here are five strategies to help calm your anxiety:

  1. Breathe in and out. Start by taking a deep breathe. All you have to do is breath in and out. Whenever you feel like your thoughts just won't stop. Take ten deep breathes. This will help slow things down.
  2. Stay in one time zone. You are worried about the future. There isn't a lot you can do about it, so, stay in the present. It's alright…

Read more: How To Calm Anxiety

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