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Learn how to take care of yourself, and not feel guilty about it.

It can happen to anyone. You hear about it all the time. Unfortunately, depression is on the rise. If you suffer from depression, you aren't alone. Like many people you're calendar is probably packed, and you don't feel like you can set aside time for yourself.

You need to take care of the kids, clean the house, cook dinner, finish that last minute project at work and so on. When will it end? Is what you're thinking. This doesn't give your mind a chance to rest.

After a while, you begin to feel down. You may feel like you aren't appreciated. If you don't get help for this, it can lead to intrusive thoughts. Such as, 'I don't fit in or I'm simply not good enough. This is when your mind begins to lie to you, and you don't want to believe it.

Start to tell yourself, it's okay to take care of yourself.

It is not selfish to take care of yourself. If you don't, you will eventually crash.

Here are 5 tips for taking care of yourself when you are feeling depressed:

  1. Start by taking care of the basics.You need at least 8 hours of sleep every night. You need to drink plenty of water, and eat nutrient rich foods. Make exercise a habit in your life. Make sure you get some natural…

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Learn how self-care is the key to a happier relationship.

At the beginning of a relationship, everything is great. You can't wait to see your partner at the end of the day. But, after a while things change. 

You may be working longer hours, after that promotion. You bought a new house. You have a couple of children that need your attention. Somehow, you put everyone else first in your life. This leaves you last on the list.

If you continue to do this, it will come out in your relationship. You will begin to feel distant from your partner. This can cause resentment. You don't feel like you are having fun in your life anymore.

I know you need to do the dishes, take the kids to school and go to the grocery store. You’re thinking how can I fit anytime in for me? Or, my husband never helps out around the house anymore, and the house still needs to be taken care of. So, you must do all the chores. Again, how can you carve out a few minutes for yourself?

Here are 11 self-care tips for a happier relationship:

  1. Stop, and take a deep breathe.This can help reduce cortisol levels, which can help reduce stress and anxiety. If you can, close your eyes and try to clear your mind. Just focus on your breath. Pay attention to where it is in…

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Quotes that will remind you, the guy you are with is the one.

This is a time where you have many options. Maybe, you like being single. Maybe, you don't. Now, you are in a relationship and you are wondering if he's the one for you? Don't worry, everyone goes through this when they are in a relationship.

When you know he is the one quotes. Meaning this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with.

This is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. 

Here are 11 quotes that will remind you he is the one:

It's nice spending a bit of time with people who know what I'm actually like. Harry Styles

You need someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious they want you in their life. Johnny Brett

I would rather be alone with dignity than in a relationship that requires me to sacrifice my self respect. Mandy Hale

As much as people refuse to believe it, the company you keep does have an impact and influence your choices. Andrea Benveniste

If he makes you laugh. Kisses your forehead. Says he's sorry. Makes an effort. Holds your hand. Works hard. Attempts to understand you. Then, believe it or not, he's quite perfect. Melanie Hybart

If he loves you, you'll know. If he doesn't, you'll be confused. Sophie V

Don't let how you feel…

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Your relationship will change. Learn how you can get through it.

Your relationship will change over time. There are many different reasons as to why your relationship will change. If you've been in a relationship for a while, then you know that the honeymoon phase will end.

The good news is, this is when you will begin to grow. Everyone has shortcomings. It's important to build a culture of understanding in your relationship. This will help build a long lasting relationship. 

Why do relationships change? There isn't a simple answer. 

As couples get closer to one another, their negative traits begin to stand out. Your relationship feels routine and is less exciting. When all of this happens your relationship begins to lose its luster. 

Why do relationships change? Here are 5 reasons why:

  1. Your partner's flaws will stand out. In the beginning, you couldn't see anything wrong with your partner. But, now you have been in a relationship for a while and you see your partner through a clear lens. You would like him to ask you more questions, or be more talkative. He doesn't always pick up his clothes, or help with the chores as much as you would like. And, there are many more things that stand out.
  2. The sex changes. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. When you are in a meaningful relationship, and you feel like your partner really gets you. The…

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Learn how relationships problems cause anxiety, and what you can do about it.

More and more you are hearing about anxiety. What this means is that you are stressed out. When you are stressed out and you don't have a coping mechanism, it will turn into anxiety.

So, can relationship problems cause anxiety? 

The answer is yes. Learn what you can do about it before it's too late.

Studies show that couples wait a minimum of seven years before they go to therapy for their relationship problems. What does this mean? You may already have an anxiety disorder. The truth of the matter is, that if you wait too long you might not be able to help it.

This means that the earlier an intervention is made the better. Even if the problems seem small, the sooner you get help for your relationship the better.

Here are 8 tips that can with anxiety that is being caused from your relationship:

  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If you can’t think of anything, then invite them out on a fun…

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