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Are you tired of having money and relationship problems. Here are five tips that can help with that.

Talking about money in a relationship, can be stressful. But, you really need to talk about this one. I know, no one likes to hear let's talk about the budget. When you go into a relationship, you each come from a different family of origin. This means that you each have a different language. I have found that many couples have a different language (aka-belief system) about money.

That is why money and relationship problems go together.

After a while, you are going to have to talk about money. This can start when you are dating. This is not a problem that will go away if you ignore it, or don't talk about it. That will actually make it worse in the long run. Make sure that you are gentle with this conversation. Some people are more traditional and feel the man should pay for everything. Although, times are changing and many people are alright going dutch. Whatever, you choose make sure you are comfortable with the decision. Also, make sure this is a decision that you both feel good about.

At the beginning of a relationship, you are developing the foundation for how you handle money in your relationship. It's important that you both know what is coming in and what is going out. This means you need to start talking about money. You also…

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Learn what to do to take care of yourself, when your spouse is depressed.

How could this of happened? You have been married for a while, and you just got the news. Yes, your spouse is depressed. This is stressful on any relationship. How will you manage this? You still have to take care of the house and make lunches for the kids. Not to mention your own work. This doesn't leave a lot of room for yourself.

What to do to take care of yourself? Are you kidding me?

You are probably thinking that you can just forget about yourself. First of all, you need to know that you aren’t alone. More and more people are reporting that they are suffering from depression. Don’t try to hide this, make sure to talk to your friends and family, and seek out professional help.

There is hope, many people have been able to manage their depression and live a happy life. You will be able to get through this. But, it’s important that you don’t lose yourself in the process. That will only make you feel bitter and burnt out. You also won't feel like showing love to your partner.

Here are 9 tips to help you start taking care of yourself now:

  1. Set aside time for fun everyday. Even if you don’t know what it will be, just set aside time for it. Write down fun on the calendar, even when you think…

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Learn how to make deposits when your emotional bank account is empty.

Your Emotional Bank Account is empty! What, how did this happen? Does this mean that one more withdrawal could make it overdrawn, or worse yet close it? This can definitely happen after you have been in a relationship for a while.

Learn what to do when your emotional bank account is empty.

In the beginning you put your relationship first. But, now you have work, home and a family. This doesn’t leave much time for your relationship. What happened to date night? Can you remember the last time that you went out on a date with your partner? If the answer is no, then you are at risk of becoming overdrawn.

There are many ways to build back up your emotional bank account. It’s important that you start to prioritize your relationship, again. If you have been in a relationship for a while, then you know relationships are about giving and receiving.

Here are 10 ways to build your emotional bank account:

  1. Listen to your partner.

    This is one of the kindest things you can do for your partner. I have seen a lot of couples in my practice, and I hear this a lot, ‘I don’t feel heard.’ Set aside time each day to talk about your day with your partner. Make sure you both get a chance to speak.

  2. Touch your partner.

    Everyone…

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Reducing stress in a child, is one of the best things you can teach your child.

We’ve all been there. You are in line at the grocery store and your child sees something they must have. When I say must have, I mean right now. It could be candy or a toy. Whatever it is, doesn’t matter. Your child is making a scene and you are feeling embarrassed.

Learn the importance of reducing stress in a child.

You wonder, where did this come from? Why is my child being so emotional right now? You tell your child to calm down. But, they don’t listen. People are starting to look, and you feel like the worst parent around.

You aren’t alone, all parents have gone through this. This could be a sign of stress. It’s important that you understand where your child is developmentally. (BTW, it’s alright to say no) Regardless, of where they are developmentally. Don't underestimate the importance of reducing stress in your child

As a parent the best thing you can do is remain calm in an incident like this. Remember to breathe, this too shall pass. Children have a range of feelings, and that is alright. What’s important is that you help them understand their feelings. This will help them as an adult. We have found in counseling, when you don’t express your feelings you tend to stay stuck.

Here are 7 strategies for reducing stress in a child:…

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Yoga class realizing the benefits of stress reduction with exercise.

I know that you know, you need to exercise. So, why aren’t you? Do you feel you already have enough on your plate, and there just aren’t enough hours in the day to fit in exercise? Maybe, you are just tired of hearing it. But, you have to admit you feel much better when you exercise.

Stress Reduction With Exercise. The Benefits Are Amazing.

You live in a world where most of the time you are sitting down at work. Unless, you are fortunate enough to work outdoors and be able to move around. It’s easy to get stuck at your desk and lose track of time.

Exercise can be a 20 minute walk. That means walking 10 minutes in one direction, then you have to walk 10 minutes back. It’s also helpful if you can get outside and get some natural light. Your body needs some Vitamin D, as well.

If you want to take it a little further, join a gym. Go to an exercise class. Try yoga, it’s great for the mind and body connection. You could also hire a trainer. This will help with accountability. You really can’t beat the endorphin high you get from exercise. Make sure to schedule it at a time, that you know you will do it.

This means you need to make it a habit in your…

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