Learn some simple tips for taking care of yourself.

You take care of everybody else, so, why aren’t you taking care of yourself?

I know you know about putting your oxygen mask on first in an airplane. So, why are you putting yours on last? In the end you aren’t helping anyone.

Are you starting to wonder why you are feeling burnt out, and don’t enjoy your family anymore? If you answered yes, then you are definitely in the danger zone. If you don’t change now, you will definitely regret it. You could end up depressed or ridden with anxiety.

Here are 5 tips to help you start taking care of yourself now:

  1. Start your day with mindfulness. I start everyday with 10-15 minutes of mindfulness. This helps me clear my mind and get ready for the day. Before I started this, I always woke up worrying about what I had to do that day and if I would have enough time to get it all done. Now, I know it’s alright if I don’t get everything done. There is always tomorrow, and the next day for that matter.
  2. Schedule time slots when you don’t work.You don’t have to have every time slot on your calendar filled with work. This may make you feel more productive, but you aren’t giving yourself a break. This will definitely lead to burning out in the long run. You…

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Learn how to practice self love. When you do you will begin to see your life change.

I know you have heard self love. The questions is, why aren’t you practicing it?

Unfortunately, you can't find many reasons not to love yourself. You aren’t pretty enough, rich enough, tall enough, and many more. How much time do you spend criticizing yourself? I think as human beings you are prone to criticize yourself. Is this because you compare yourself to others, all the time? This is always a set up for disaster. If it doesn’t stop, you can end up with anxiety or depression.

One thing I always tell my clients, is that you can’t go back and you can’t really predict the future. So, what does this mean? Live in the present. If you are filled with regrets about the past or are constantly worried about the future, then you miss out on the present moment. What about that beautiful smile your child just gave you or the birds chirping. What a beautiful sight and a beautiful sound. Stop comparing yourself to other and stop criticizing yourself.

This means it’s time to be good to yourself. There is nobody else like you. This means you are special. This is not the same as being self-absorbed. This means you don’t hate yourself. When you love yourself, you will attract people into your life that respect you and love you for the person you are.

Here are…

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Can you think of at least 10 ways to love someone? It's not that difficult, start with saying, thank you.

How do you show love to your partner? That is the question. What is the first thing you think of when you hear, 10 ways to love someone?

Most of the time you show love the way you receive love. For example, if you like to touch, then you may hold your partners hand. If you like to receive compliments, then you may compliment your partner on how smart they are.

There are many ways to show love. What’s important is that your partner gets that you are showing and expressing love towards them. If you have been in a relationship for a while, then you know relationships are about giving and receiving.

Here are 10 Ways To Love Someone:

  1. Listen to your partner. This is one of the kindest things you can do for your partner. I have seen a lot of couples in my practice, and I hear this a lot, ‘I don’t feel heard.’ Set aside time each day to talk about your day with your partner. Make sure you both get a chance to speak.
  2. Touch your partner.Everyone likes to be touched by the one they love. You can hold hands or rub up against one another in a playful way. After you have been in a relationship for a while, this one can be overlooked. Make sure you touch and…

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Learn why money causes problems in your relationship and what you can do about it.

Is money the root of all evil? Can you learn why money causes problems in your relationship?

That really is the question. How often do you come across somebody that doesn’t want to make more money? I’m sure you probably want to make more money yourself. But, then what happens? You no sooner start making more money, and it’s not enough. Perfect example of money causing problems

So, how does this play out in your relationship? Whether both people in a relationship work outside the home, or one works outside the home. Money matters will always come up in a relationship. Let me just say, if you have decided to stay home with the children and take care of the house, then you have a full time job. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Unfortunately, in our society money equals power. It’s been that way for a long time. So, if you are the one staying home or you make less than your partner, then it may be used against you. If that’s the case, then you will need to speak up for yourself. Don’t be shy, let your partner know how hard you work, and what your worth is.

You don’t want to sweep the subject of money under the carpet, either. Often times, the job of making sure the bills are paid is put on the…

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A lifelong commitment doesn't have to be perfect. Learn how friendship can save a mariage.

When you think about a lifelong commitment, what do you think about?

Is it a perfect home, perfect family or a perfect job. Maybe, it’s all three. Or, do you think of happily waking up to the next one you love?

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, then you know this is not what a lifelong commitment is about. After being in a relationship for a while, you begin to let your guard down. Maybe, you don’t jump up and brush your teeth first thing in the morning. You start to put off the chores and indulge in a little more junk food.

So, what does this mean? A lifelong commitment is not perfect.

If you are expecting perfection in your relationship, then you are setting it up to fail. What about the friendship in your relationship? Just hanging out together having fun, and laughing together. So, before you make that plunge and jump into marriage, here are four things to think about:

  1. Is this your best friend? When I think of a best friend I think of someone that knows all of my secrets and still loves me. There is also mutual respect in the relationship. You know if you make a mistake you will be forgiven.This doesn’t mean that there isn’t room to grow, it just means you don’t have…

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