I’m sure, by now, you have heard of self care. So, the question is why aren’t you doing it? I know, you have a million things to do. You aren’t sure if you’ll ever get them done, but you are sure going to try. This could come with a cost. That cost, is you.

Nobody can do it all. But, you are lead to believe that you can. It’s alright to chip away at your to do list. Do a little today and then a little tomorrow, and so on. Make sure you listen to your body and take breaks when you need to.

Here are 10 signs you are not taking good care of yourself:

  1. You can’t remember the last time you treated yourself to anything.
  2. You are fatigued, and can’t seem to snap out of it.
  3. You rely on caffeine, painkillers, wine or some other substance to get you through the day.
  4. You are surprised at how easily frustrated you get. You are worried the wrong people are taking the hit.
  5. You get sick a lot.
  6. You find yourself snapping for no reason, and are easily frustrated in your relationship.
  7. Your friends and loved ones are pulling away from you.
  8. You dread going to work. You are starting to abandon projects or give them little attention.
  9. You’re on edge and worry all the time. You…

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We all know that when you have a child, everything changes. I know you have always wanted a child, but you probably didn’t know what you were in for. Yes, you are in this for life. There is no turning back.

The good news is you have a wonderful child, they will love you for life. You will go through ups and downs. But, you will get through it. It may not turn out how you expected, but that is alright. When you have a child you have a dream. The best thing, is to be flexible. Let things happen. Things really do have a way of turning out just right.

Here are the 5 best parenting styles for raising healthy, happy kids:

  1. You don’t have to fix everything. This is an easy mistake to make. You want your child to have a great childhood. But, it’s unrealistic. When you try to fix everything, your child doesn’t learn to solve their own problems. They learn to rely on you for everything. This will hurt your child in the long run. If they are having a problem with a friend at school. Suggest they try and work it out. Let your child know you will need some time on the phone, and they will have to play on their own.
  2. When your child expresses emotion, use…

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Going through a break up can be really stressful. You thought this was the one, but it didn’t work out. Whether you saw the break up coming or not. You are still left with the same feelings and questions. What did I do wrong? Will I ever meet the right person?

As human beings we are designed to need a relationship in our life. Not everybody can admit this, so, good for you if you can. But, relationships have highs and lows. Not every relationship can survive the lows. And that’s alright.

After ending a relationship, you go through a grieving process. You need to let yourself go through this. Try and learn something from the loss of the relationship. Lik, now you know what you don’t like.

Here are 5 tips for reducing stress after a break up:

  1. Give yourself 5 minutes a day of worry time. It’s easy to obsess about the relationship and worry if you will ever meet the right person. This can interfere with all the other things you need to do. It can also interfere with your play time. Set aside 5 minutes each day to worry or obsess over the loss of the relationship. You can set the time up for when you get home from work. Then, every time you think about the relationship remind yourself of the time…

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You know you need to take care of yourself. So, why aren’t you doing it? Is it because there are so many distractions? You have work you need to do, or the kids just won’t sit still. It seems there is always a good reason to put yourself last.

When you don’t take care of yourself, you will become resentful. This can lead to many problems: low self-esteem, anxiety or depression. You live in a fast paced world. You are told, ‘It’s never enough.’ This leaves you feeling empty and depleted.

You may end up getting ahead, but at what cost? You need to take time for yourself and sit back. Take a look at all the hard work you have done. This will not only help you appreciate yourself, it will help you appreciate others.

Here are 5 tips to help you start taking care of yourself now:

  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If you can’t think of anything, then invite them out…

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You want your child to be happy. Now, we know the definition of happiness varies. It’s easy to define happiness by how much money or material things you have. I always say, you can’t define happiness by your bank account. But, society tells us something different.

You need a new car or those new jeans. I have found that what children want most is your time. Maybe it’s cliche, but you really can’t buy love. After working with children in my practice for 14 years. I have found that the root of anxiety in a child, often comes from their relationship with their parents. There is actually a lot of research out there to back that up.

Here are 6 tips for raising a happy child:


  1. Add positive affirmations to your daily routine. Remember, your child is trying to find his/her place in this world. You know this is not easy. Many adults are still trying to find their place, as well. Affirm the positive choices your child makes. This is how they learn to navigate in the world they live in. You can do this with words or body language. A simple smile will let them know that you approve of their choices. Be open to your child’s ideas and let them try new things. Children love to think out loud. Make sure to…

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