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You know when you feel happy and you know when you don’t. Are you asking yourself, ‘Why can’t I be happy?’ If that is the case, you aren’t alone. Many people rely on external validation to make them feel happy. This means they rely on their work, relationships, and income to feel happy. As you know, all of those things can change. You shouldn’t rely on others to make you feel happy. Why can’t I be happy? I have seen a lot of people in my practice. And, I have heard this question a lot. Happiness comes from within. You...
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You hear a lot about self-care these days. It’s good for your mental health. But, many people in our society still aren’t practicing self-care. Ultimate self-care doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. Self-care is defined as a way of preventing stress. But, not everyone would agree with this. Ultimate self-care is for you. What is your environment like? Do you feel that contributes to your stress? I want to make sure you understand that self-care cannot change the people in your life, or the environment that you live in. The ultimate self-care plan can help you set the necessary...
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When someone you love suffers from depression, you can feel confused. You may not know what to do, and that is alright. You may even feel angry, or like you just want to leave. My husband is depressed, and I just don’t know what to do. If your partner is depressed, then it will effect you. I’m hear to tell you the feelings you are having are normal. The depressed partner may feel everything is normal, but you don’t. You may feel like your feelings aren’t validated by your partner. You may also feel like you have done something wrong,...
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Having to shelter in place during the Coronavirus has caused a lot of stress and anxiety, for everyone. It’s stressful living in these uncertain times. It’s important to know that Telehealth is an option. There are emotional benefits of Telehealth therapy during the Coronavirus. You may feel alone and stuck at home. If that’s the case, then it’s time to try Telehealth therapy. You will be able to stay safe inside your home, and not be exposed to the Coronavirus. Since the shelter in place order went in to effect, I have been immersed in Telehealth therapy. I’m glad that...
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It’s easy to get caught up in your thoughts. What your mind says is not always true. This is known as a cognitive distortion. I see couples do this all the time. They are stuck in an old thought pattern, and it is destroying a perfectly good relationship. Don’t ruin a perfectly good relationship, with a toxic thought pattern. Toxic thought patterns will leave you with feeling stuck. You will feel like you have no way out. That is not true. Learn to look at your options and make choices that are good for you, and the relationship. Here are...
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Have you ever felt your life is going in a downward spiral? If you answered yes, then you are like many folks out there. We have all felt that way at one time or another. Fall in love with your life. Your child won’t stop whining, you didn’t get that promotion you had hoped for, or your cat barfed again. When you feel this way, you don’t want to get caught up in catastrophic thinking. This is also known as negative thinking. When you think about it, life is a process and we are all a work in progress. If...
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When you have a family and a career, it doesn’t leave much time for yourself. Even if you love your family and career, you may be feeling stressed out. You are busy taking care of everyone else. This doesn’t leave much time for yourself. Self-care will help you feel better about yourself. The first thing to remember, is to go easy on yourself. You can’t do it all, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to do it all. If you are around people that make you feel that way, then you should rethink who you spend your time with....
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At this point, everyone has heard of self-care. So, the question is are you practicing self-care? Unfortunately, more often than not the answer I hear is no. Self-care can be simple. When you think of self-care, you may think of getting a massage or a mani/pedi with your girlfriends. Those are both great ways to take care of yourself. But, self-care is something you practice daily and it’s taking care of your mind, body and soul. You may be thinking that you don’t have time for self-care. You are saying that you don’t have time for yourself. If that’s the...
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As I sit down to write this article, I remind myself to breathe in and breathe out. Sounds simple, but I was just at the grocery store. I had to wait my turn to enter the store. They were almost out of bread, eggs and chicken. This is the first time I have experienced this. The checker was very calm. He said the store has been very busy all weekend. He had never seen it like this. Classes that I normally attend have been cancelled. Reduce Stress During The Coronavirus Outbreak My first reaction is to feel scared. What does...
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It’s easy to put everyone else first. When you put yourself last, you will start to feel resentful. This will lead to anxiety and stress. It can also lead to physical symptoms, such as headaches and stomach aches. Practicing self-care in your relationship doesn’t have to be difficult. We are social animals, and you are wired to connect with others. This is not a bad thing. But, you do want to be careful. Don’t let it get the best of you. It’s alright to set boundaries. This means having good self-care habits. Self-care is something you practice daily. It’s taking...
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