Initially, you felt like this guy was the one. You’ve been together for a while. He has met your friends and family. But, lately you have had mixed feelings about him. You love him, but it just feels different. You are beginning to wonder, if he is the one?

So, why have you stayed with him, when you’ve had this feeling. Maybe, it took you a long time to meet him. He comes around a lot. He creates a sense of safety for you. We all want to be in a committed relationship. We want to feel loved, and be able to give love. But, you need to be careful. Staying with the wrong guy can be a big mistake.

10 Signs He’s Not The One To Marry:

  1. Not much of an emotional connection. For a relationship to last, you need to feel the emotional connection. You need to know your partner inside and out. This goes way beyond the bedroom. Your partner needs to know your hopes and dreams. What has driven you to be the person you are? Where do you see yourself in 10 years? There needs to be the safety in the relationship to share this information about yourself. This means there is a culture of trust and understanding. This is what will help keep you together during the difficult times.…

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I know this is a hard one for you. You’ve been seeing this guy for a while, and he has been hinting that he is ready to take it to the next level. But, you just aren’t sure if he is the one for you. It’s alright to question your relationship.

Maybe, it’s not the right time or you just aren’t feeling that emotional connection. You used to look forward to his phone calls at the end of the day, but now they just exhaust you. It used to be exciting to hear about every last detail of his life, but now it’s just boring. You’re not quite sure how this happened but it did.

Here are 6 tips to help you know if he’s the one:

  1. He brings you down instead of building you up. You don’t feel like you can be yourself with him. Maybe, you feel you have lost yourself in the relationship. If that’s the case, I don’t want you to feel stupid. This has happened to a lot of people in relationships. As human beings we need a relationship. Sometimes, you can take this too far. That feeling of not wanting to be alone can take over. I know this can be a hard one to swallow, because you have allowed this to happen. It’s important to know that when you…

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We all have that one person you call, “the one that got away.” In the beginning you thought he was great. You just couldn’t get him out of your head. But, when the time came to commit, you got cold feet. Perhaps, you just weren’t ready for a commitment.

Now it’s over, you wonder if he’s the one and you made a big mistake. You can’t go back, what’s done is done. Sitting around having regrets about the past, never does anyone any good. He’s gone and it’s time to move on.

Here are 10 tips to help you move on, even if you still feel he’s the one:

  1. He’s probably moved on. So, why haven’t you? Maybe, he wasn’t that into you. He didn’t deserve you, and you shouldn’t waste your time on him anymore. I doubt he is sitting at home worrying about you, eating a pint of ice cream.
  2. Try to remember the good times. When a relationship ends, it’s easy to focus on what went wrong. You probably had a good time with him, and experienced things with him you had never experienced. Try to appreciate those memories, for what they are.
  3. The truth is, it ended for a reason. Like all break ups, it ended for a good reason. Whether you ended it, or he ended it. Maybe, there were fundamental…

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You’ve been in a relationship for about a year, now, and you’ve been out on a ton of dates with your man. You’ve tried to remain positive about the relationship. But, something just doesn’t feel right. You’re not quite sure what it is. But, you just can’t seem to shake that feeling. Is he the one?

Maybe, you find yourself enjoying the security of having a relationship. All of your friends are starting to get married and have a family. But, you aren’t married yet. Maybe, you fear you won’t meet anyone else. So, you hang on to the one you have. Why not? He has a good job and he is reliable.

I know this is a difficult decision. It is also one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life. Here are 6 reasons, that say it’s time to move on:

  1. He never stops working. You can’t remember the last time you had a date, where he wasn’t glued to his phone. He is always talking about work. Sure, he talks about wanting to move up the ladder. But, it’s for his own selfish reasons. He never asks for your input, and he doesn’t take your work seriously. This is a sign he could be a workaholic. If that’s the case, then he could have some deep rooted problems he needs…

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Is he the one? That’s the burning question. You’ve been hurt in the past, and you wonder if you can now pick a good one. You need to realize you have grown since your last relationship. You are more insightful. That is really a good thing.

It's actually a good thing that you are questioning the relationship. This means you take it seriously. I know you want this one to last. So, how will you know when you should take the next steps. Whether you want to move in together, or just go for it and walk down the aisle. Here are some helpful tips, when making that big decision.

7 Signs He’s the One For You:

  1. His actions speak louder than his words. It’s true, words need to be backed by action. If they aren’t, then it’s not sincere. When he apologizes, he doesn’t do the same thing again. You know he loves you because he says it. But, you also know it because he shows it. He remembers your anniversary. Not just when you officially started dating, but when you first met at your friends party. He’s willing to accept your brother’s quirks, because he knows this mean he gets to be with you. He’s willing to help you out with your car insurance payment and not throw it in your face. He’s doesn’t…

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How Do You Know If He's The One?

I hear this all the time, 'is he the right one for me?' In a time where there are more single people than there have ever been, and there is more betrayal than ever. People have a hard time trusting that they will pick the right partner for themselves. The first step is loving and respecting yourself. Here are nine tips that will help you know you're in the right relationship:


You Don't...
  1. Fear it. You aren't afraid to commit and you put yourself in a situation with someone that, also, doesn't fear it. If you are afraid of commitment, it's best to work that out before starting a relationship.
  2. Snoop. If you trust your partner, why are you looking? Going through your partner's email, phone, Facebook account or journal, strongly indicate you don't trust your partner. You're also violating your partner's trust in you.
  3. Think you're superior. If your feel your partner is inferior in any way you know that matters to you in a mate - morally, intellectually, financially, socially or professionally - then you're never going to respect your partner the way you hoped to be respected. 
  4. Let any substance abuse or behavior come before the relationship. Anyone abusing a substance or behavior is cheating on you with his or her drug of choice. You deserve more.
  5. Depend on each other…

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