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Learn how to move on and feel good about it. Everyone goes through it, but not everyone talks about it.

We all have that one person you call, “the one that got away.” In the beginning you thought he was great. You just couldn’t get him out of your head. But, when the time came to commit, you got cold feet.

Perhaps, you just weren’t ready for a commitment and felt it was time to move on.

Now it’s over, you wonder if he’s the one and you made a big mistake. You can’t go back, what’s done is done. Sitting around having regrets about the past, never does anyone any good. He’s gone and it’s time to move on.

Here are 10 tips to help you move on, even if were the one that messed up:

  1. Stop the comparison game. The next time you are out with a new guy, clear your mind. It’s not fair to the new guy, to compare him to your ex. Give the new guy a chance. I know he’s not like your ex. But, there are tons of good qualities about this new guy. Go ahead and give him a chance.
  2. Give yourself time. This is one of the best things you can do. This will take time. You won’t get over it in one day. This is a great time to reflect on the past, and learn. What went wrong? Were you too intense? Give yourself time…

Read more: How To Move On When You Messed Up

Learn how to know if you're falling love and not in lust? If you are wanting to take your relationship to the next level, then this is a must read. Some of the signs may surprise you.

Love is a wonderful feeling. If you don’t have it, you want it. But, you need to be careful with your feelings. Sometimes, they play tricks on you. Especially when sex comes into the equation. It’s easy to get carried away.

So, how do you know if you’re falling in love and not in lust?

We’ve all made that mistake. This can cause you to not trust yourself. Which can prevent you from finding and falling in love. You feel happier when you know someone loves you and has your best interest at heart.

The first step is learning to trust yourself. You can make good choices for yourself. You have learned from the past. You know what your red flags are. That is a really good place to be. If you aren’t at that place, that’s alright. You will get there, just give it time.

Here are 5 signs that will help you know if you’re falling in love and not in lust:

  1. He shows affection, even when he knows it won’t lead to sex. If the person you are seeing, touches you without initiating sex. It’s likely he really likes you and enjoys spending time with you. You can experience an emotional connection by touching or holding hands. This is also known as loving touch. Whether it’s done privately or publicly, it’s done…

Read more: How To Know You're Falling In Love And Not In Lust?

I'm here to tell you there is hope, you can be single and happy.

When you are single, it may feel like everyone is married or in a relationship. You always seem to notice what you don’t have. And, of course, not only is everyone in a relationship but they seem to be very happy and in a relationship.

I'm here to tell you there is hope, you can be single and happy.

This can leave you feeling lonely. You may feel you are the only one that feels this way. But, the truth of the matter is that nearly half of the population is single. What this means, is that you aren’t alone.

Remember, Sex In The City. They all had different ways for coping with being single. What got them through it was their friendship, and in the end they didn’t end up alone. I think this is what everyone fears, being alone. This means you need to face the reality that you are human, which means you are needy.

Try not to be too hard on yourself for this one. It’s not easy for a lot of people to admit. But, the one thing we all have in common is that we are needy and don’t want to be alone. You may try to cover it up with material items. They may make you feel good in the moment, or temporarily. But, nothing beats knowing that someone…

Read more: 11 Tips For Being Single And Happy

Dating isn't always easy. Learn how you can tell if he's the one, that you can give your heart to.

You’ve been hurt in the past. This makes it hard to trust yourself. You really like this guy. You can feel it in your gut.

But, what if he’s the one? Or, just another guy that hurts you?

It’s easy to feel this way when you’ve been hurt in the past. It’s actually a good thing that you are questioning the relationship. This means you take it seriously. Try not to overthink it, that never ends good.

The first thing you need to do when you are dating someone is to ask yourself, ‘what are you looking for in a relationship?’ Meaning, do you want a long term relationship with a committed partner? If you answered yes, then continue reading.

This is one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life. Do you want to stay with this guy? Is he the one you want to commit to? If you are in it for the long term, then you want to know that he feels the same.

Here are 11 ways to know, if he's the one?:

 

  1. He’s seen you at your worst, and hasn’t left. He stuck with you when you got fired from your job, and your roommate suddenly moved out. You really had a break down at that time. But, that didn’t scare him away. He was there for you.…

Read more: How Do You Know, If He's The One That Really Loves You?

This is one of the biggest decisions that you will ever make. Learn how to know if he's the one.

He loves me, he loves me not. This is one of the most important decisions that you will ever make in your life.

How will you know if he’s the one? It’s not as easy as picking petals off a flower, like you did when you were a child.

It’s actually a good thing that you are questioning the relationship. How do your friends and family feel about him? Would you bring him around your friends and family? I’m sure you know where I’m going with this. But, there is still much more to this. Is this the guy you want to grow old with?

Now, I’m not talking about how much money he makes or where he went to college. What does your gut tell you? This isn’t about those nice to have qualities. This is about the qualities that he MUST have.

So, if you're asking yourself, "does he love me?", here are 6 signs he's the one for you:

  1. You know you are his priority.If you ask him to go to an event that is important to you. He will, even if it means he has to take time off from work to go. If he travels for work, he checks in with you as soon as he lands and continues to text/call you. He let’s you know how the trip is going.…

Read more: 6 Things That Men Do When They're Head Over Heels In Love With You

You can learn to trust yourself, again.

I hear this a lot. You really like this guy, but you can’t help but wonder how seriously he takes you. You think about him all the time. You just can’t get him off your mind. You’ve been hurt in the past, so it’s hard to trust your instincts. That is a natural way to feel after a break up. But, eventually you need to pick up the pieces and move forward.

How long have you been seeing him? If it’s been a while, why would he have stuck around if he didn’t take you seriously? Have you thought about that? Are you overthinking the relationship? I see this a lot. Try to stay in the present. Here are 6 more tips that can help you know if your man takes you seriously:

  1. He smiles when you are around.You know by his body language and his tone, without a doubt, that he is into you. This is an important one. You want your partner to be excited when he finally see’s you at the end of the day. You want to be his favorite part of the day. Without him saying a word, you know. What an amazing feeling. When you know your partner loves you. This will definitely help get you through the difficult times. Like, when the plumbing suddenly breaks down, and you are…

Read more: How To Know If Your Man Takes You Seriously

Take the time to do the things you want to do while you are single.

How many married people have you heard say, ‘I wish I would of taken advantage of my single years.’ Why is it, you just let them slip away? It’s so easy to think of what you don’t have. I think human beings are prone to think this way.

It’s true, when you are single you really do have more time. Now, I’m not saying that you don’t work hard. But, you also have more flexibility over your schedule. There is a lot of advice out there for singles. For example, how to snatch the perfect guy, where to meet the perfect guy, and so on. How about some advice for you being yourself while you are single.

Here are 6 tips for being single and happy:

  1. Stop criticizing yourself. This is one of the easiest things to do. I know that when you are single, it appears that everyone is happy and in love. In reality, this is not true. What happens is you start to compare yourself. This never ends good. I want you to stop criticizing yourself today, and start complimenting yourself. Write down three good qualities about yourself, now.
  2. Let yourself make mistakes.I know when you are dating, you want things to go perfectly. In reality, there is no perfect dating scenario. You are on your way to pick up your date,…

Read more: 6 Tips For Being Single And Happy

Learn some great questions for a first date, that will lead to a great conversation.

Dating can be tricky. What should you wear? Where should you meet? Who should pay? Should you offer to pay? What should you eat? And, the list goes on.

How many questions for a first date can you have?

Try not to worry too much on a first date. Remember, this doesn’t have to be the person that you marry.

Look at the first date as an interview. You are getting to know someone new. Try to have fun and not be too serious. There are definitely a few rules to follow. Don’t talk on your cell phone. Don’t do all the talking. And, ask your date questions. This will help your date open up and feel that you are genuinely interested in them.

Here are 21 great questions for a first date:

 

  1. What do you like to do when you’re not working?
  2. What type of music are you into?
  3. Are you a cat person or a dog person?
  4. If you won the lottery tomorrow, what is the first thing you would buy?
  5. Do you have any siblings? If so, are you close with them?
  6. Do your parents still live in the house you grew up in?
  7. Do you ever cook?
  8. What is your social life like? Do you have a big group of friends or a small group?
  9. Do you like sports?
  10. Are you a movie person…

Read more: 21 Great Questions For A First Date

Take time to get to know yourself when you are single.

Being single doesn’t have to be a death sentence. When you are single it’s easy to forget that nearly half of the population is single. This means you are not alone on this. This is a great time to explore and do things that you couldn’t do, if you were married.

The first thing you want to do, is take a look at your mindset. What do you say to yourself? Are you telling yourself things like, there is nothing worse than being single, or I will never meet the right person. One that I hear a lot is, all the good ones are taken. If you are saying these things, or things like that, then you are setting yourself up for failure.

I want you to write a list of the things that you are grateful for. Keep this list close by, so when you are feeling bad about being single you can read it. It’s important to take care of yourself when you are single. This will help you feel better, and it won’t make your life feel or sound horrible.

Here are 5 tips for taking care of yourself when you are single:

  1. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Live your life. Don’t be embarrassed because you are not part of a couple. You are going to make mistakes, at times. This is called being…

Read more: 5 Tips For Taking Care Of Yourself When You Are Single

You are ready to change your status to, “in a relationship.”

You’ve been dating this guy for a while. Things are starting to get serious. You don’t want to see anyone else. But, you just aren’t sure if he’s the one. There are always pros and cons in a relationship. But, the right relationship can be amazing.

If you want to get serious, then you need to know what you want. If you don’t, you will end up getting hurt. This is a time when you want to listen to your gut. It’s alright to listen to your friends and family. But, in the long run this is the guy you will spend the rest of your life with. So, make sure you take that into consideration.

Here are 6 ways to tell he’s the one:

  1. You know that he gets you. This is what you want most in a relationship. You want to feel that he understands you. This is when you know he has your back, no matter what.
  2. You have fun together, doing the simplest of things. You enjoy running errands together on Saturday morning. You don’t mind staying in with him, and watching a movie.
  3. You don’t feel like you have to hide your flaws. He has seen you at your worst, and he has still stuck around. You know you are going to mess up, and that’s feels alright.
  4. You have told all…

Read more: 6 Ways To Tell He's The One (And 6 Ways To Tell He's Not)

Initially, you felt like this guy was the one. You’ve been together for a while. He has met your friends and family. But, lately you have had mixed feelings about him. You love him, but it just feels different. You are beginning to wonder, if he is the one?

So, why have you stayed with him, when you’ve had this feeling. Maybe, it took you a long time to meet him. He comes around a lot. He creates a sense of safety for you. We all want to be in a committed relationship. We want to feel loved, and be able to give love. But, you need to be careful. Staying with the wrong guy can be a big mistake.

10 Signs He’s Not The One To Marry:

  1. Not much of an emotional connection. For a relationship to last, you need to feel the emotional connection. You need to know your partner inside and out. This goes way beyond the bedroom. Your partner needs to know your hopes and dreams. What has driven you to be the person you are? Where do you see yourself in 10 years? There needs to be the safety in the relationship to share this information about yourself. This means there is a culture of trust and understanding. This is what will help keep you together during the difficult times.…

Read more: 10 Signs He's NOT The One To Marry, No Matter How Much You Love Him

I know this is a hard one for you. You’ve been seeing this guy for a while, and he has been hinting that he is ready to take it to the next level. But, you just aren’t sure if he is the one for you. It’s alright to question your relationship.

Maybe, it’s not the right time or you just aren’t feeling that emotional connection. You used to look forward to his phone calls at the end of the day, but now they just exhaust you. It used to be exciting to hear about every last detail of his life, but now it’s just boring. You’re not quite sure how this happened but it did.

Here are 6 tips to help you know if he’s the one:

  1. He brings you down instead of building you up. You don’t feel like you can be yourself with him. Maybe, you feel you have lost yourself in the relationship. If that’s the case, I don’t want you to feel stupid. This has happened to a lot of people in relationships. As human beings we need a relationship. Sometimes, you can take this too far. That feeling of not wanting to be alone can take over. I know this can be a hard one to swallow, because you have allowed this to happen. It’s important to know that when you…

Read more: What To Do When He Says You're The One, But You're Not Sure

lessons for how to move on when the one you love got away

We all have that one person you call, “the one that got away.” In the beginning, you thought he was great. You just couldn’t get him out of your head. But, when the time came to commit, you got cold feet. Perhaps, you just weren’t ready for a commitment.

Now it’s over, you wonder if he’s the one and you made a big mistake. You can’t go back, what’s done is done. Sitting around having regrets about the past, never does anyone any good. He’s gone and it’s time to move on.

Here are 10 tips to help you move on, even if you still feel he’s the one:

  1. He’s probably moved on. So, why haven’t you? Maybe, he wasn’t that into you. He didn’t deserve you, and you shouldn’t waste your time on him anymore. I doubt he is sitting at home worrying about you, eating a pint of ice cream.
  2. Try to remember the good times. When a relationship ends, it’s easy to focus on what went wrong. You probably had a good time with him, and experienced things with him you had never experienced. Try to appreciate those memories, for what they are.
  3. The truth is, it ended for a reason. Like all breakups, it ended for a good reason. Whether you ended it, or he ended it. Maybe, there were fundamental differences.…

Read more: How To Move On, When You Know He's The One That Got Away

You’ve been in a relationship for about a year, now, and you’ve been out on a ton of dates with your man. You’ve tried to remain positive about the relationship. But, something just doesn’t feel right. You’re not quite sure what it is. But, you just can’t seem to shake that feeling. Is he the one?

Maybe, you find yourself enjoying the security of having a relationship. All of your friends are starting to get married and have a family. But, you aren’t married yet. Maybe, you fear you won’t meet anyone else. So, you hang on to the one you have. Why not? He has a good job and he is reliable.

I know this is a difficult decision. It is also one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life. Here are 6 reasons, that say it’s time to move on:

  1. He never stops working. You can’t remember the last time you had a date, where he wasn’t glued to his phone. He is always talking about work. Sure, he talks about wanting to move up the ladder. But, it’s for his own selfish reasons. He never asks for your input, and he doesn’t take your work seriously. This is a sign he could be a workaholic. If that’s the case, then he could have some deep rooted problems he needs…

Read more: 6 Reasons Why Not Knowing If He's The One, Is Hurting You?

Is he the one? That’s the burning question. You’ve been hurt in the past, and you wonder if you can now pick a good one. You need to realize you have grown since your last relationship. You are more insightful. That is really a good thing.

It's actually a good thing that you are questioning the relationship. This means you take it seriously. I know you want this one to last. So, how will you know when you should take the next steps. Whether you want to move in together, or just go for it and walk down the aisle. Here are some helpful tips, when making that big decision.

7 Signs He’s the One For You:

  1. His actions speak louder than his words. It’s true, words need to be backed by action. If they aren’t, then it’s not sincere. When he apologizes, he doesn’t do the same thing again. You know he loves you because he says it. But, you also know it because he shows it. He remembers your anniversary. Not just when you officially started dating, but when you first met at your friends party. He’s willing to accept your brother’s quirks, because he knows this mean he gets to be with you. He’s willing to help you out with your car insurance payment and not throw it in your face. He’s doesn’t…

Read more: 7 Signs He's The One For You

How Do You Know If He's The One?

I hear this all the time, 'how will I know if he's the one for me?'

In a time where there are more single people than there have ever been, and there is more betrayal than ever. People have a hard time trusting that they will pick the right partner for themselves. The first step is loving and respecting yourself.

Here are nine tips that will help you know if he's the one:


You Don't...
  1. Fear it. You aren't afraid to commit and you put yourself in a situation with someone that, also, doesn't fear it. If you are afraid of commitment, it's best to work that out before starting a relationship.
  2. Snoop. If you trust your partner, why are you looking? Going through your partner's email, phone, Facebook account or journal, strongly indicate you don't trust your partner. You're also violating your partner's trust in you.
  3. Think you're superior. If your feel your partner is inferior in any way you know that matters to you in a mate - morally, intellectually, financially, socially or professionally - then you're never going to respect your partner the way you hoped to be respected. 
  4. Let any substance abuse or behavior come before the relationship. Anyone abusing a substance or behavior is cheating on you with his or her drug of choice. You deserve more.
  5. Depend on each…

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