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You are a good catch. So, why are you still single? First of all, you aren’t alone. Nearly 50% of the population is single. So, the odds are in your favor. It’s easy to get stuck in the mindset, that there aren’t anymore single people. Once that starts, it just gets worse. There aren’t any good men left, they are all taken. If you are telling yourself that, then you need to stop. This will only make things worse. Why Am I Still Single? You keep asking yourself this question. But, you can’t come up with an answer. When you...
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Relationships require empathy and altruism. I’m sure everyone at some time or another has felt they are in a relationship with a selfish person. I’m not just talking about a romantic partner. This could be a colleague, friend or family member. We’ve all been there. But, have you ever stopped and thought that you may be the selfish person? Are your own behaviors in your relationship holding you back? How altruistic are you? Studies have found that holding the door open for a stranger and paying your loved ones back on Venmo, demonstrate altruistic behavior. Studies have also found that...
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It’s no secret that reading stimulates the brain. But, did you know that there are benefits for your relationship when you read a book with your partner? Studies have found that couples that read together are happier. Couples that read together have less stress. Unfortunately, people are more stressed out than they have ever been. This is because you are constantly plugged in. You are on your cell phone, computer, or whatever electronic gadget is nearby. This means that you are always on. You aren’t a machine. You can’t go forever. If you don’t stop, eventually you will collapse. Think...
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It’s easy in our fast paced society to forget about your own self-care. You are busy taking care of everybody else. You have a job and deadlines to meet. This doesn’t leave much time for your own self-care plan. Self-care doesn’t have to be difficult. I have found a lot of people feel guilty when they think of self-care. This can come from an old thought pattern. It’s time to throw out that old thought pattern, and replace it with a new one. Learn how self-care can improve your relationship. I talk about self-care a lot in my practice. When...
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You feel overwhelmed. You feel like there is nothing you can do about the stress in your life. The children won’t stop arguing. The bills are piling up. You can’t finish the laundry. Will it ever end? Stress management, now. You wish there were more hours in the day, but there isn’t. This makes you feel like your life is out of control. You don’t feel like there is anytime for fun in your life. After a while, you may start feeling tired and resentful. It seems like everyone else is having fun, why aren’t you? This is when it’s...
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Having too much stress, can negatively impact your life. Especially your relationship. When you feel overwhelmed, you may start to disconnect. When this happens your partner will begin to feel left out. Your partner may also feel they have done something wrong. But, in reality you are feeling overwhelmed from the stress in your life. I see this happen a lot. Life takes over and you put everyone else first. If this goes on too long, you will begin to feel burnt out. Take better care of yourself, today. Self-care is taking care of your mind, body, and soul. Start...
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When you think of self care, you may think of getting a massage or a mani/pedi. That is alright, there is nothing wrong with getting those things. But, what self care means is taking care of your mind, body and soul. Learning to take time out when you need it, is the core of self care. In today’s world everyone is busy. You are driven to work more and do more. If you keep up at this pace, you will end up feeling depleted and empty inside. Take better care of yourself, now. Unfortunately, practicing self care isn’t always easy....
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While some anxiety is not a bad thing, like feeling anxious before an exam. You don’t want it to take over. If you don’t stop feeling anxious after the exam, then you may want to bring in some stress reduction strategies to your life. Learn how to calm anxiety. Research has found that about 40 million Americans live with an anxiety disorder. This is more than the occasional anxiety or fear. This is when the anxiety doesn’t stop. This can affect your sleep, and also your focus. If it goes untreated, it can affect your health. It’s important to look...
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Relationship problems are a fact of life. After the honeymoon phase is over, problems begin. This doesn’t mean you have to give up. Take a close look at your relationship. Where do you spend most of your time? Are you caught up with the children, or focusing on work? What are common relationship problems? One of the most common problems I see in my practice, is an inability to manage conflict. Dr. John Gottman is a premier researcher on relationships. It’s not surprising that he found all couples have conflict. What’s important is that you repair after the conflict and...
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There are times where your relationship will feel stressful. You may feel overwhelmed. Not only do you have your relationship to manage, you have outside stressors as well to manage. All relationships go through highs and lows. What’s important is that you can manage the lows in your relationship. Keep in mind that relationships go through cycles. Once you get over one bump, there will be a time that you come upon another one. You can solve relationship problems without breaking up. The good news is that you can learn from your mistakes. These are called lessons. Here are 5...
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