We all know that when you have a child, everything changes. I know you have always wanted a child, but you probably didn’t know what you were in for. Yes, you are in this for life. There is no turning back.

The good news is you have a wonderful child, they will love you for life. You will go through ups and downs. But, you will get through it. It may not turn out how you expected, but that is alright. When you have a child you have a dream. The best thing, is to be flexible. Let things happen. Things really do have a way of turning out just right.

Here are the 5 best parenting styles for raising healthy, happy kids:

  1. You don’t have to fix everything. This is an easy mistake to make. You want your child to have a great childhood. But, it’s unrealistic. When you try to fix everything, your child doesn’t learn to solve their own problems. They learn to rely on you for everything. This will hurt your child in the long run. If they are having a problem with a friend at school. Suggest they try and work it out. Let your child know you will need some time on the phone, and they will have to play on their own.
  2. When your child expresses emotion, use…

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You want your child to be happy. Now, we know the definition of happiness varies. It’s easy to define happiness by how much money or material things you have. I always say, you can’t define happiness by your bank account. But, society tells us something different.

You need a new car or those new jeans. I have found that what children want most is your time. Maybe it’s cliche, but you really can’t buy love. After working with children in my practice for 14 years. I have found that the root of anxiety in a child, often comes from their relationship with their parents. There is actually a lot of research out there to back that up.

Here are 6 tips for raising a happy child:

 

  1. Add positive affirmations to your daily routine. Remember, your child is trying to find his/her place in this world. You know this is not easy. Many adults are still trying to find their place, as well. Affirm the positive choices your child makes. This is how they learn to navigate in the world they live in. You can do this with words or body language. A simple smile will let them know that you approve of their choices. Be open to your child’s ideas and let them try new things. Children love to think out loud. Make sure to…

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Everybody wants to make their children happy. But, trying to make your children happy all the time is a bust. Nobody is happy all the time. You don’t want to teach your child that they must feel happy all the time. It’s easy to make that mistake. You want your child to have all of the things you didn’t have growing up. This will give them a false sense of security and will backfire.

You and your child don’t have to agree on everything. If you have been a parent for a while, then you may already know this. You may have enjoyed playing sports when you were a child. But, your child doesn’t seem to have much of an interest. Maybe, they enjoy playing the piano or art. That is alright. You put unnecessary pressure on your child when you expect them to like the same things you do.

This is also known as having differences. When it’s alright for you and your child to have differences, you are teaching your child that they don’t have to be like everyone else. As a human being you are complex, you are always changing. That is alright. Your child needs to learn the value of accepting others the way they are.

Here are 5 benefits of accepting the differences you and your child have:

  1. Your child will feel…

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“It’s your life; live it well.” Judge Judy Sheindlin

I’m sure you’ve heard about self-care. We’ve all heard about putting our oxygen mask on first when on an airplane and it starts to go down. And, we know the reason why. You can’t take care of anyone else unless you have taken care of yourself first.

So, the question is, why aren’t you taking care of yourself? It’s a rather simplistic idea. We live in a fast paced society, and nobody want to slow down. You are told you must have more or do more. It’s never enough, has become the norm. Even when you have plenty, you may feel empty inside. It’s time to start wanting what you do have.

Here are 7 reasons to take care of yourself:

  1. Laughter is the best medicine. Remember when you were a child. You laughed all the time. Children can play and laugh all day, if you let them. The next time you have a chance, watch children playing on the playground. They are running around having a good time with their friends. Adults take life very seriously, and forget to laugh. Laughter is good for you. It helps relieve stress and headaches. When was the last time you had a good belly laugh? If you can’t remember, then it’s been too long. Watch your favorite comedy. Spend…

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Single parents and their kids can flourish. This is nothing new. There are lots of single parents out there, that are doing well. Think of people you know, both famous and not so famous, that are flourishing as a single parent. One that comes to mind for me is President Obama. He was raised by a single mom and grandparents.

Being a single parent is stressful. You don’t have to go through it alone. It’s important to reach out to friends and family for help, when you need it. The good news is you aren’t alone. One out of four children in America live in a single-parent home. The reasons can vary. You could be widowed, divorced or decided to have a child without a partner. All of these reasons are alright.

Here are 7 ways to raise a happy child as a single parent:

  1. Remove “guilt” from your vocabulary. It’s easy as a single parent to feel guilty. You feel guilty about the things you don’t have or what you can’t provide for your child. The best thing you can do is spend time with your child. So, make the most of what you have. If you can’t stop thinking about what you can’t provide, make a list of what you can provide. The children have a roof over their head, food on the table and…

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