I’m sure by now, you know parenting isn’t always as easy as it looks. I think what is most important is that you realize that you don’t have to be perfect. All good parents make mistakes. What’s important is that you learn from your mistakes, and repair after them.

Over the years I’ve worked with many children. What I hear parents say the most, is that they want their child to be happy and grow up to be a responsible adult. Many parents are worried that their child is too stressed out, and doesn’t have the tools to cope.

Children learn by observing their parents. They really do want to please their parents. Going through a divorce is stressful on everyone. Remember, your child isn’t getting a divorce, you are. Most of the time when I see a child, where the parents are going through a divorce. The main complaint is that the child feels anxious.

There are many reasons why the child feels this way. This means there is not one easy solution. You don’t want your child to feel like they are in the middle, and you want to make the transition of going from one house to the other as smooth as possible. In the beginning it will be challenging.

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The truth about a strong willed child, is they don’t always see your viewpoint. This is not necessarily a bad thing. This means they can’t be easily swayed to change. But, it can easily turn into a power struggle. What’s most important is that your child, feels like you understand them.

Try empathizing with your child and offer them choices. If they refuse to go to bed, offer to read a bedtime story or remind them their favorite stuffed animal is waiting in their room for them. Try to create the win/win scenario with your child. Pick and choose your arguments carefully. For your child it’s about integrity. Try to bring understanding into the argument. Let them know why they shouldn’t pick on their younger sibling. It hurts their feelings. You can always play with them later.

Now, that you have children your life has changed drastically. It’s alright to let your child know that. Just make sure you let them know, that you still care and love them. Part of parenting is discipline, but it’s also trying to create understanding.

Here are 10 things every parent needs to know about a strong willed child:

  1. Make sure to take their age into consideration. When they are younger they will rely on you more, and not be able to do as much for themselves.
  2. Where are they…

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We all want our children to be happy. So, what does this really mean? Your children do need to be happy. But, realistically they can’t be happy all the time. Think about it, are you happy all the time. We all have a range of feelings, which include: happiness, anger, sadness and loneliness at times.

If you want your child to be happy all the time, then you are sending them the wrong message. This will lead to disappointment in the long run, for the both of you. More and more, the world is becoming child centric. You really need to be careful with this one. Think back to when you were a child. Did you get everything you wanted? Were you happy all the time?

Here are 5 things to consider about your child’s happiness:

  1. Learn from you child. Children are great teachers. I have 2 wonderful nephews and one fabulous niece. I have learned so much from them. My nephew never meets a stranger. I have to admit I’m not usually the one talking to people in the grocery store. But, since he has come along this has changed. I am much more likely to talk to strangers at the grocery store, mall, etc. My point is, he has helped me see this differently, and I really like that. Listen to your child closely. They…

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No matter what, you are always going to worry about your children. Even after they are grown and out of the house. Once a parent, always a parent. I’m sure if you have a child, then you know your life changes drastically after a child.

Of course, when your children are young they need you. They also cherish you. You are their world. But, at they get older they still need you, just in a different way. They also don’t like to admit that they always need you.

Parenting is no easy job, and needs to be taken seriously. You are responsible for another human being. Everything that you do, really does matter. They learn from watching you and listening to you. If you want your child to grow up to be more independent, then let your child have more responsibility.

Here are 5 reasons why parenting is a lifelong commitment:

  1. Your child deserves your commitment. This doesn’t mean that they have to rely on you for everything. They need to get out there, and try out their own ideas. Even, if they fail their is a learning process. I have to admit, I’ve learned some of my best lessons through failure. I also learned that you can get back up, and try again.
  2. You will always be your child’s rock. Children are born relying on…

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Just because you are single, doesn’t mean that you and your child can’t flourish. Think of all the single parents out there. Which ones do you admire? Make a list and keep it by your side. The next time you are feeling down, pull it out. This will help make you feel better, and know that you are not alone.

I have a lot of respect for single parents. You really have mastered the art of multitasking. There aren’t many people that can say that. I know it’s not always easy. Try not to be too hard on yourself. You will get through this, and you will also learn a lot from it.

Here are 6 tips for single parents:

  1. Give your child a break. Remember, they have also been through a lot. Let them sleep in on Saturday morning, or watch their favorite movie. They didn’t divorce the other parent. It’s important that you don’t speak negatively about the other parent in front of the child. This will cause your child to feel anxious. You need to respect your child. They now have a whole new routine. Give them time to adjust.
  2. Don’t spoil your child, because you made a mistake.  A lot of parents feel guilty after a divorce. You are worried how it will affect your child. Will they grow up with…

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