Learn how to practice self love. When you do you will begin to see your life change.

I know you have heard self love. The questions is, why aren’t you practicing it?

Unfortunately, you can't find many reasons not to love yourself. You aren’t pretty enough, rich enough, tall enough, and many more. How much time do you spend criticizing yourself? I think as human beings you are prone to criticize yourself. Is this because you compare yourself to others, all the time? This is always a set up for disaster. If it doesn’t stop, you can end up with anxiety or depression.

One thing I always tell my clients, is that you can’t go back and you can’t really predict the future. So, what does this mean? Live in the present. If you are filled with regrets about the past or are constantly worried about the future, then you miss out on the present moment. What about that beautiful smile your child just gave you or the birds chirping. What a beautiful sight and a beautiful sound. Stop comparing yourself to other and stop criticizing yourself.

This means it’s time to be good to yourself. There is nobody else like you. This means you are special. This is not the same as being self-absorbed. This means you don’t hate yourself. When you love yourself, you will attract people into your life that respect you and love you for the person you are.

Here are…

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Learn how stress reducing activities for adults, can be simple and fun.

I’m sure you have experienced stress in your life. Whether is was a positive force driving you, like getting that next promotion at the office, or a negative force such as being stuck in traffic. Maybe, your heart starts racing or your palms get sweaty. Whatever the reason, stress is real and happens to everyone at one time or another.

Stress reducing activities for adults, doesn't have to be difficult. 

So, why all the stress? Studies have shown that Americans are more stressed out than ever. Americans are working more than they ever have, and the divorce rate is the highest it has ever been. What does this mean?

Here are 10 simple stress reducing activities for adults:

  1. Accept that there are events you can’t control. You can’t predict the future, and you can’t go backwards in life. The best you can do is learn. You can plan ahead, but don’t obsess over it. This means there are things in your life that you just need to let go of. If you don’t, they will hold you back.
  2. Learn to prioritize.This means you need to learn to manage your time. Don’t waste time doing things you don’t need to do, or that don’t serve your purpose. Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t have some down time or have some fun. Just make sure you have time to…

Read more: The 10 Best Stress Reducing Activities For Adults

Have fun and listen to music.

It’s been a long day. You weren’t able to take one break. What’s the best thing to do when you get home? Turn on some tunes and relax. Let the sounds sink in. Or, you are about half-way through the day, and you are starting to lose your focus. Take a break, put your headphones on and listen to some tunes.

What are some of your favorite songs? You can listen to sounds in nature, like the ocean or birds chirping. You can also listen to classical or the latest releases. Whatever you decide, just stop and listen to the music. This helps change the focus of your brain. Try to keep the music positive. Don’t listen to something that will make you cry through the whole song.

Here are 5 reasons that listening to music, can help reduce stress:

  1. Music will help you think more clearly.This is also known as, “The Mozart Effect.” The University of Irvine did a study, which showed students scores increased after listening to Mozart. This might be because the processing of music shares some of the same pathways in the brain. But, don’t stops with Mozart. Make music a part of your day, everyday. I know for me, music can instantly cheer me up. Whether I am listening to music alone or with a friend, I absolutely love it.…

Read more: 5 Reasons Why Reducing Stress By Listening To Music Works

Reduce Holiday Stress And Feel Good About It.

The Holiday season has begun. Do you look forward to it? Or, do you just hope and pray that you will get through it? It really doesn’t have to be that stressful. Remember, this is the season of being thankful, and spending time with loved ones.

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of the Holiday’s. Which Christmas party should you go to? Did you get the right gift for your child or spouse? Is there enough food? Is your niece allergic to dairy? If so, how should you make the mashed potatoes? And, all that other stuff. Don’t let this get in the way of enjoying the Holiday season.

Here are 5 tips that can help reduce stress during the holiday season:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings. It’s easy to put everyone else first during this time of year, and yourself last. When you do this you can feel tired and burnout. You may also start to feel resentful, and that others aren’t doing enough for you. It’s alright to let people know how you are feeling. Maybe, the holiday season makes you feel blue. Let your friends and family know that, and let them know why.
  2. Stick to a budget.There is so much out there to buy, and there are so many good sales. If you don’t plan ahead, you may end up in…

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Release your stress and relax.

Don’t let stress and anxiety take the joy out of life. It can come out of nowhere and ruin everything. It’s unfortunate, but many people let stress get the best of them.

When was the last time you snapped at a co-worker for no reason? Slept through the alarm? Or, didn’t have anything to say? This is what can happen when you feel overwhelmed, or stressed out. Little things can set you off.

When you feel stressed, things can actually get worse rather than better. Here are 5 tips that will help you reduce the stress in your life, and relax:

  1. Learn positive self-talk. It’s easy to get stuck in your head. We all have a running dialogue in our head. It can either build you up, or bring you down. When you make a mistake, what do you say to yourself? Do you say you are a dummy for doing that? Or, do you say we all make mistakes, maybe in the long run you will learn from this. Start to replace your negative self-talk with positive self-talk. Start now, tell yourself that you deserve love and care. By doing this you are starting to retrain your brain.
  2. Teach yourself to self-soothe.When you are under a lot of stress and are faced with an anxiety provoking situation, it’s easy to go into fight or flight.…

Read more: 5 Tips That Will Help You Reduce Stress & Relax

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