Reducing Stress

Reducing Stress

We've all been guilty of it. Whether you're beating yourself up about what happened yesterday, or constantly worrying about tomorrow. It's easy to do. You keep running the same old thought process through your head.

'I'm not smart enough, I'm not fit enough, I don't have enough friends or money.' As long as you think this way you will feel stressed out and anxious. A little worrying is alright and even natural. For example, feeling anxious before a big exam or a date with someone you really like.

What I'm trying to say, is you don't want your overthinking to paralyze you or stop you from achieving your dreams. I see so many people in my practice worrying about the same thing. I tell them, ' you can't go back and you can't predict the future.' Stay in the present. The present really is a gift. Enjoy the good times and learn from the bad times.

Here are 6 ways to stop overthinking:

  1. Ask yourself this one question. Is this even realistic? Maybe you shouldn't of said what you said at the meeting. But, does it mean you will be fired? Probably not, we've all done it. Either said too much or not enough.

  2. Replace the old script. After you have asked yourself, is this realistic? And, answered no, it's time to erase that old…

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Are you tired of feeling stressed out? It seems like there is always something, especially living in the Bay Area. It starts with getting the kids ready in the morning, and then traffic on the freeway. Next thing you know, you are at work. The day is filled with meeting, reports, phone calls, etc. Before you know it the day is over. Where did the time go?

Then, you are left feeling like time is passing you by and that you are missing out. If you feel this way, you aren’t alone. More and more people are reporting an increase in stress. It’s actually nothing new. The good news is, you can take back your life.

Here are 7 tips to help you let go of stress:

  1. Unplug. We live in an electronic age, and we always want to be plugged in. Fearful we may miss out on the latest gossip. This means that your brain is never unplugged. We really need to give our brain a break. The next time you take a break at work, leave your phone behind. You actually won’t be missing out, and you’ll be surprised at how much more effective you’ll be at the office. Do not take any electronic gadgets with you to bed. The work will always be there the next day, and you need your rest. 
  2. Practice…

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It happens to all of us. The phone won't stop ringing, people keep asking you the same question, or your boss hasn't noticed the extra work you have done. It feels like it will never end. You're ready to scream. More and more people are reporting, that they feel stressed out at work

According to a survey from The American Psychological Association, more than one-third of American workers experience chronic work stress. This is costing American corporations billions of dollars a year in lost work hours and medical bills. Not to mention, what the cost is to your quality of life, both in and out of work.

After working at non-profits, for-profits and in my own practice. I've learned a few things on how to reduce stress in the work place, that I'd like to share with you. Here are six tips to help reduce stress at work:

  1. Boundaries! Need I say more. I started working straight out of college and didn't understand the importance of saying no. Before, I knew it I was buried in work. Which meant I didn't have much of a social life nor was I taking very good care of myself. It also caused burn out and resentment. Don't say yes when you mean no. Make sure to ask lots of question about the project your supervisor would like you to take…

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We've all heard about and have experienced stress. We live in a fast paced society. Everything must be done now. This is not realistic and can cause unnecessary stress in our lives. It's important to slow down and experience "being in the moment."

We are always worried about the future. We really can't predict the future, so why try? Not only are we always trying to predict the future, we predict the most horrible things will happen. If you are going to spend a lot of time trying to predict the future, then at least have a happy ending. You will eventually get that promotion, buy a home, take your dream vacation, etc. But, you need to give it time.

Here are 10 simple ways to reduce stress:

  1. Be mindful. This is the practice of staying in the present. We can't go back, and like I said earlier, we can't predict the future. So, why not stay in the present. Savor the moment. Add, at least 5 minutes of mindfulness to your day. Set aside a time for it everyday, and stick to it. After a while, you will notice a change and you will feel more relaxed when life seems out of control.
  2. Call a friend. Good friendships are important for a healthy lifestyle. The next time you feel stressed, take some time out and…

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As a therapist, I hear it all the time. 'I just can't do this, or I'm just not good enough, etc.' It's easy to put yourself down. We all have an inner dialogue, it's natural. Unfortunately, many people use it to beat themselves up. This can really bring you down. It's true, we are what we think. Your thoughts will affect how you feel. Here are ten tips to help conquer your inner dragon:

  1. Learn to relax. This is a great way to make your inner dragon go away. Take a yoga class or a meditation class. You can also listen to meditation on your iPod. Take a five  minute break during the day to clear your mind and do some deep breathing.
  2. Have a change of scenery. This sounds simple and it is. Go for a drive on a country road or visit a nearby town. Take a trip to the beach or a nearby lake. This will help mix things up and you won't feel overwhelmed in your own environment.
  3. Avoid negative people. When you're depressed it's not that uncommon to attract negative people into your life. Negative people can drag you further down. You want to be around positive people who will help build you up. This will help decrease depression and help give you a positive attitude.
  4. Don't label yourself. It's…

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