Reducing Stress

Reducing Stress

"Perhaps there could be no joy on this planet without an equal weight of pain to balance it out on some unknown scale." Stephanie Meyer

We're all searching for balance, although this may sound simple, in our work hard culture. We hear about people burning out all the time, maybe, you feel burnt out. We can't go back, so there is no point in dwelling over the past. Here are four helpful tips for balance in The New Year:

  1. Pick your priorities. Many of us grew up with our parents telling us we can have it all. Although, I'm for having a fulfilling life: rewarding career, happy family life, running marathons and an active social life. It's important to find what is fulfilling and works for you. Stop trying to impress everyone else and take care of yourself. Remember you have your whole life to fulfill your dreams.
  2. Take a broader view of what balance means. A lot of conversations about balance focus on the balance that people can find on a day-to-day basis. Unfortunately, this isn't always in our control. Work and family can be demanding. Remember, there is always tomorrow and don't be too hard on yourself. A lot of the time things have a way of working themselves out.
  3. Stop and take a breath. I know this sounds obvious. Of course you…

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Practice Gratitude During The Holidays


It's no joke; the antidote for depression is gratitude. Remember the small things and be grateful for them. The Holiday season isn't just about receiving it's also about giving. Studies show that people feel good when they volunteer for those that are less fortunate. I challenge you to pick one non-profit to volunteer for during the holiday season. Make sure to include your family and friends. Here are five tips to help you practice gratitude during the Holidays:

  1. Focus on what you do have. Stop comparing yourself to others. This will only make you feel bad. Remember, there is always someone with more and always someone with less. Be thankful for having a roof over your head, regardless of how big or small it is.
  2. Help others. This will help you shift your focus. Even if you don't have a lot you can still benefit by helping others. Working through stressful events which are similar with others, often helps ease the burden.
  3. Turn the simple into the special. People tend to underestimate the simple joys of life. Adopt a childlike attitude and turn simple blessings into joy. Enjoy your time with your family, laugh and play games together. Be grateful to have one another.
  4. Keep the holidays in perspective. Just because it's on sale doesn't mean you have to buy it. Make a budget…

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A Holiday Recipe For Holiday Stress


Happy December, it's that time of year, again. The Holiday's can be a great time, but they can also be a stressful time. You may be traveling or having people over. And, the shopping, making sure you buy just the right gift for everyone on your list can be a bit overwhelming. It's also a time to see friends and family members that you haven't seen in a while. For some this is a good thing, for others it isn't. Wherever you fall in this category don't let the Holiday's control you and take over. Here is a simple recipe to help you get through them:

Make sure to get plenty of rest.
Remember to be grateful. Gratitude is the antidote to anger.
Set boundaries, it's alright to say no.
Ask yourself, what the consequences are for yourself if you say yes.
Set aside time for yourself.

Start by getting at least eight hours of sleep each night. Start each day by stating ten things you are grateful for. When dealing with friends and family, remember to set boundaries and say no when you need to. It's alright to think of yourself and what the consequences will be to you, if you say yes too many times. And, lastly don't forget about yourself. Do what you need to do to revive. It can be a bubble bath, a yoga class, or just some down time. Don't forget to add in love to your family and friends and enjoy the season.

The Holidays don't have to be stressful. Remember to smile and be thankful. This will really help during this time of year. For more help, please call me at (650) 892-0357.

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Five Signs You Have Anxiety


We all get nervous or anxious, now and then. But, what happens when the worrying doesn't go away? Here are five signs that you may have an anxiety disorder of some type:

  1. Excessive worry. This is when the anxiety is so bad that it interferes with everyday life. It interferes with your work and relationships. Your mind just won't stop. You're driven by fear and it usually has a bad ending. It's having that feeling of heading south on the 101 and suddenly there is a car in front of you heading north, almost all the time.
  2. Sleep problems. It's not unusual to toss and turn the night before a big presentation at work, but if this persists you may have anxiety. Sleep problems can also be associated with a range of health conditions. If you chronically lye awake or wake up wired, this is a good indication you may be suffering from anxiety.
  3. Muscle tension. If muscle tension is most of the time, this may be a symptom of anxiety. It can consist of clenching your jaw, balling your fists, or flexing muscles throughout your body. Exercise may help with some of the tension. But, meeting with a therapist to figure out the underlying reasons may be helpful.
  4. Self-consciousness: This doesn't always involve speaking to a crowd or being the center of attention.…

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Don't Let Your Emotions Control Your Life


"Remaining optimistic will help me experience joy."

Is it time for a new outlook on life. Don't worry; many of us have done it. We let our mood take over and let go of our rational side. It's never too late to change. Just as negative behavior is contagious, so is positive behavior. Start by surrounding yourself with positive people. Write positive affirmations and place them on your night stand, in your car and on your desk. Make sure you place them where you will see them throughout the day. Here are five helpful tips to help control your emotions:

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others. It's easy to get caught up in what others look like and how they are doing in life. Remember, you are not them and they are not you. Don't let society define your life, create your own.
  2. Don't beat yourself up. We tend to be hard on ourselves and not take the time to recognize our strengths. I often tell my clients to go easy on themselves. I think we are wired to beat ourselves up. You need to stop this, it will only bring you down.
  3. Take time to relax. We live in a busy world that never stops. That doesn't mean you don't have to stop. Make sure you get plenty of rest and take breaks during…

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