"Remaining optimistic will help me experience joy."
Is it time for a new outlook on life. Don't worry; many of us have done it. We let our mood take over and let go of our rational side. It's never too late to change. Just as negative behavior is contagious, so is positive behavior. Start by surrounding yourself with positive people. Write positive affirmations and place them on your night stand, in your car and on your desk. Make sure you place them where you will see them throughout the day. Here are five helpful tips to help control your emotions:
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
Life is much more enjoyable when you have a positive attitude. Believe it or not, it's actually not that difficult. When you stop beating yourself up with your internal dialogue it will change your outlook on your life. Here are five tips to help improve your attitude:
"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." William James
We live in such a fast paced world. We are always in a rush. We are always looking for ways to make things faster and more effective. Speed is key in our society. As a result, this has taken a toll on our relationships. We have seen the divorce rate sky rocket and we have more disease than ever. Many doctors have told us this is because of stress. Here are five tips to help lower the stress in your life and help build the friendship in your relationship:
"You must manage yourself before you can lead someone else." Zig Ziglar
Yeah, daylight savings time is here, and if you can't tell, I absolutely love it. Lent has also started. I'm sure you've thought about what you're going to give up for Lent. Some people give up sugar, chocolate, wine, bread, etc. I could go on with a list of things to give up. I've been telling people to give up give up their cognitive distortions (aka stinkin' thinkin') for Lent. Here are ten cognitive distortions you absolutely must give up for Lent:
It's not always about being right. In the Gottman's research we have found that in order to gain influence you need to accept influence. This means trying new things that your partner suggests or trying things the way your partner does things, for a change. Relationships don't need to be difficult or about power struggles. They need to be about nurturing the friendship and accepting one another's differences. Nobody is perfect; this is not an expectation you should have in a relationship. If you do, then you are setting it up for failure. Whenever we see a couple we give them survey's to fill out. This helps us learn crucial information about the relationship. One of the surveys is the Accepting Influence Questionnaire. The questions are listed below; please take a few minutes to answer them.
Read each statement and answer true or false.