"You must manage yourself before you can lead someone else." Zig Ziglar
Yeah, daylight savings time is here, and if you can't tell, I absolutely love it. Lent has also started. I'm sure you've thought about what you're going to give up for Lent. Some people give up sugar, chocolate, wine, bread, etc. I could go on with a list of things to give up. I've been telling people to give up give up their cognitive distortions (aka stinkin' thinkin') for Lent. Here are ten cognitive distortions you absolutely must give up for Lent:
It's not always about being right. In the Gottman's research we have found that in order to gain influence you need to accept influence. This means trying new things that your partner suggests or trying things the way your partner does things, for a change. Relationships don't need to be difficult or about power struggles. They need to be about nurturing the friendship and accepting one another's differences. Nobody is perfect; this is not an expectation you should have in a relationship. If you do, then you are setting it up for failure. Whenever we see a couple we give them survey's to fill out. This helps us learn crucial information about the relationship. One of the surveys is the Accepting Influence Questionnaire. The questions are listed below; please take a few minutes to answer them.
Read each statement and answer true or false.
It's hard to believe that December is already here. The holiday season can be a wonderful season, but it can also be a crazy season. The media has really taken over. Stores open on Thanksgiving, sales everywhere and lines of people waiting to buy that one last gift. Sometimes, we are so busy taking care of everyone else that we forget about ourselves. This can also be a time where people get run down and stressed out. Here are five tips that will help make the holidays more enjoyable:
If you are going through treatment for breast cancer, or you have gone through treatment for breast cancer, then you know how physically and emotionally draining it can be. When I think back to the days that I had chemotherapy. I wanted to keep going but eventually it did catch up. I felt like I had to put my life on hold and that I wouldn't accomplish anything while I was going through treatment. That was back in 2001. I now realize I was really hard on myself during that time. When it was all over I realized life still goes on and I could pick up where I left off. I also met some amazing people during the process, and even became closer to some friends and family. I also realized that I did accomplish something, I fought my hardest to beat cancer and I did. I am writing this article to help people that are like I was, while I was going through treatment. Here are five tips while going through treatment for breast cancer:
"It's the not knowing aspect of breast cancer that increases the emotionality in regard to all your relationships." Katherine Puckett
Breast Cancer's Relationship Toll: For many women breast cancer is not only a major physical battle but it is also an emotional battle. It can affect every relationship in your life. From friendships to romance, from being a parent to being a daughter, the way your relate to everyone and the way they relate to you - can be affected.
For some women, breast cancer can be the catalyst that turns casual friendships into deep meaningful friendships, it can bring couples closer, and help family units bond and become stronger. Although, for others it can be a lonely and isolating time. It can be a time where the people we counted on most disappear.
So, what determines how breast cancer will affect your life. Some of the experts have said, it's often linked to a willingness to share your burden with others. For many women, this is not easy. Women are the caregivers. We are used to taking care of everyone else and it can be difficult to give up of some of that control. Even when women have breast cancer they still want to handle everything. Here are three tips that can be helpful if you have breast cancer and you are in…