Effective planning, what does that mean? You have to work, a husband and a house to take care of. So, what does that mean for your kids? Everyone has told you that your kids are a gift. But, what if you are feeling overwhelmed with your family? I have worked with many kids and couples. Let me tell you, if you are feeling overwhelmed you aren’t alone.
In our society you are led to believe you are a bad person, if you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed out by being a parent. You are also led to believe that you can do it all. In reality, no one is superwoman. If you continue to think this way, it will lead to you feeling burn out.
In our fast paced society,, a lot of people don’t want to slow down. This creates stress. If you ask me, it creates a lot of unnecessary stress. You are so worried about getting ahead, that you forget to have fun. Fun is good for you. It can change your mood and your mindset. Parenting is an important job, but you don’t want to lose yourself in the process.
Are you overwhelmed by stress? If you said yes, then you are like many Americans. Research shows that 60% of people in poor health, have high levels of stress. So, what are you stressing about? Money, work, kids, relationships and the list goes on.
I think the biggest lesson I have learned being a Marriage & Family Therapist is, we can’t go back and we can’t predict the future. If you stress about any of these things and you don’t stop. You are putting your health at risk.
What happened to faith? To something much more powerful than any human being. Why are we losing our faith, and letting stress take over? You focus on what you don’t have, rather than what you do have. The never enough syndrome. Once you buy a house, you want a bigger one and so on. It never stops. This leaves you feeling depleted and overwhelmed.
Unfortunately, you can't find many reasons not to love yourself. You aren’t pretty enough, rich enough, tall enough, and many more. How much time do you spend criticizing yourself? I think as human beings you are prone to criticize yourself. Is this because you compare yourself to others, all the time? This is always a set up for disaster. If it doesn’t stop, you can end up with anxiety or depression.
One thing I always tell my clients, is that you can’t go back and you can’t really predict the future. So, what does this mean? Live in the present. If you are filled with regrets about the past or are constantly worried about the future, then you miss out on the present moment. What about that beautiful smile your child just gave you or the birds chirping. What a beautiful sight and a beautiful sound. Stop comparing yourself to other and stop criticizing yourself.
This means it’s time to be good to yourself. There is nobody else like you. This means you are special. This is not the same as being self-absorbed. This means you don’t hate yourself. When you love yourself, you will attract people into your life that respect you and love you for the person you are.
I’m sure you have experienced stress in your life. Whether is was a positive force driving you, like getting that next promotion at the office, or a negative force such as being stuck in traffic. Maybe, your heart starts racing or your palms get sweaty. Whatever the reason, stress is real and happens to everyone at one time or another.
So, why all the stress? Studies have shown that Americans are more stressed out than ever. Americans are working more than they ever have, and the divorce rate is the highest it has ever been. What does this mean?
It’s been a long day. You weren’t able to take one break. What’s the best thing to do when you get home? Turn on some tunes and relax. Let the sounds sink in. Or, you are about half-way through the day, and you are starting to lose your focus. Take a break, put your headphones on and listen to some tunes.
What are some of your favorite songs? You can listen to sounds in nature, like the ocean or birds chirping. You can also listen to classical or the latest releases. Whatever you decide, just stop and listen to the music. This helps change the focus of your brain. Try to keep the music positive. Don’t listen to something that will make you cry through the whole song.
Here are 5 reasons that listening to music, can help reduce stress: