Relationship Challenges

Relationship Challenges

Learn how pets are good for your relationship.

Is a pet good for your relationship? The great pet debate has been going on for years. Sure, they provide companionship and they will love you unconditionally. Pets are also a good way to see how you would work together as a couple raising a child.

Pets can help your relationship.

I myself am a pet lover. I grew up with cats and dogs, and for a time bunnies. They provided unconditional love to me throughout my childhood and into adulthood. Now, I am a cat owner. One of the best things at the end of the day is coming home to see my cat. My cat is also a great travel companion. If I'm not going on too long of a road trip, I will take my cat with me. If I'm traveling alone, the trip goes by much faster.

When you are in a relationship, it's easy to rely on your partner to soothe you. But, your partner may not always be available to soothe you or soothe you in the way you want. This is where a pet can be helpful. They are always there to soothe you. This will help make you feel loved and cared for.

Here are 5 reasons pets can help your relationship:

  1. Pets can help you get a better nights sleep. Studies have found that people report better sleep…

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Learn what the top 5 selfish behaviors are in a relationship.

Relationships require empathy and altruism. I'm sure everyone at some time or another has felt they are in a relationship with a selfish person. I'm not just talking about a romantic partner. This could be a colleague, friend or family member.

We've all been there. But, have you ever stopped and thought that you may be the selfish person? Are your own behaviors in your relationship holding you back? How altruistic are you?

Studies have found that holding the door open for a stranger and paying your loved ones back on Venmo, demonstrate altruistic behavior. Studies have also found that as you get older you become more altruistic.

Selfish behaviors take a toll on every type of relationship. It's not just limited to romantic relationships. If the selfish behavior doesn't stop, it will eventually end what was once a great relationship.

Here are 5 selfish behaviors to stop now in your relationship:

  1. Taking your partner for granted. Nobody likes that feeling. When you've been in a relationship for a while this can happen. You may even begin to feel better than your partner. When you are in a relationship you need to feel equal. When you begin to feel better than, contempt starts. This is one of the biggest predictors of a breakup in a relationship. It causes resentment. Remember, you can't go back in a relationship.…

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Learn how reading with your partner will increase the intimacy in your relationship.

It's no secret that reading stimulates the brain. But, did you know that there are benefits for your relationship when you read a book with your partner? Studies have found that couples that read together are happier.

Couples that read together have less stress.

Unfortunately, people are more stressed out than they have ever been. This is because you are constantly plugged in. You are on your cell phone, computer, or whatever electronic gadget is nearby. This means that you are always on. 

You aren't a machine. You can't go forever. If you don't stop, eventually you will collapse. Think of your car, what happens if you don't stop for gas or an electrical recharge? Obviously, your car will stop. 

Your brain needs less screen time and more reading time. When you read a book with your partner, it will create a stimulating conversation. That's something that everyone wants.

Here are 10 benefits for couples that read together:

  1. Couples that read together have a more fulfilling relationship. This has been reported by both people in a relationship. This helps create a stimulating conversation, which both people will be interested in.

  2. Couples think more fondly of one another. Reading together helps couples think positively of one another, not only when they are together but when they are apart. This can help couples when they…

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Take better care of yourself, today. This will help you and your family.

Having too much stress, can negatively impact your life. Especially your relationship. When you feel overwhelmed, you may start to disconnect. When this happens your partner will begin to feel left out.

Your partner may also feel they have done something wrong. But, in reality you are feeling overwhelmed from the stress in your life. I see this happen a lot. Life takes over and you put everyone else first. If this goes on too long, you will begin to feel burnt out.

Take better care of yourself, today.

Self-care is taking care of your mind, body, and soul. Start by assessing your needs. Next, take action on that assessment. 

Here are 10 self care tips, that will help you in your relationship:

  1. Get organized to help your self care. This means organizing the space you live in. You want to be able to find your keys and wallet easily. You don't want to have a lot of clutter around. You will feel weighed down. When you bring new things in, clear old things out. This is good for your mind.

  2. Let a pet help you with your self care. Your pet will give you unconditional love. Make sure you spend quality time with your pet. Hug your pet and enjoy spending time with your pet. They have actually been known to help with the symptoms of…

Read more: 10 Ways To Take Better Care Of Yourself When You Are In A Relationship

Learn what some of the most common relationship problems are, and what you can do about them.

Relationship problems are a fact of life. After the honeymoon phase is over, problems begin. This doesn't mean you have to give up. Take a close look at your relationship. Where do you spend most of your time? Are you caught up with the children, or focusing on work?

What are common relationship problems?

One of the most common problems I see in my practice, is an inability to manage conflict. Dr. John Gottman is a premier researcher on relationships. It's not surprising that he found all couples have conflict. What's important is that you repair after the conflict and learn to manage the conflict. He found that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable.

What does this mean? You need to understand the problem before you can solve it. There is nothing worse than feeling like your partner doesn't understand you. This is when you begin to feel emotionally isolated in the relationship. If you don't work on understanding, this can be the beginning to the end.

5 Common Relationship Problems You Can't Ignore:

  1. Negative Sentiment Override. This is when the negative overrides the positive. When couples are stuck in the negative sentiment override, they don't notice the positive 50% of the time. The negative sentiment override doesn't set in overnight. This can take years to set in. But, once it sets in it's not easy…

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