Having a miscarriage can greatly affect your relationship. I’ve found it can either tear you apart, or bring you closer. No one really knows what you are going through, unless they have experienced it themselves. Your partner may be the one person you feel the most safe with, when talking about this.

No one really knows the reason a miscarriage happens. There can be many different reasons. What’s important is that you don’t blame yourself, and that you allow yourself to grieve. Let yourself feel all of the emotions that you have about the miscarriage. Don’t keep it in. This will keep you stuck, in the long run.

Here are the 4 most common relationship problems after a miscarriage, and how to handle them:

  1. You may feel like giving up on having a baby. You are feeling sad and let down. No one can predict the future. Give yourself time to heal physically and emotionally. You have been through alot, and you need a break. This is a great time to go away for the weekend or take long bubble baths. Make sure you have all the medical help you need. After a while, your attitude may change. When you feel strong enough, you can try again. Many couples have had miscarriages, and have gone on to have happy, healthy babies.
  2. You may grow distant in your…

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It’s a very simple word. But, yet so many people have a really hard time saying it. Why is this? Does it mean you have to admit you are wrong? I’m sure you know, the answer is yes. If you haven’t guessed already, it saying, “I’m Sorry.” And, it’s genuine.

All relationships go through highs and lows. What’s important is you learn to repair, when you have made a mistake. It’s also important when your partner gives you a sincere apology, that you receive it.

Even if you think you had a small part in the argument. It’s important to fess up to it and say, ‘I’m sorry.” Now, wasn’t that easy. I think if more people did this, we wouldn’t need aspirin. If you don’t repair, then you stay stuck. This can lead to all kinds of other problems.

Here are 5 of the most sincerest stories of saying, ‘I’m sorry.’


  1. Give your partner a note with the top 5 reasons they are important to you. This will let your partner know how important they are to you. Let your partner know you forgot about these things when you got into the argument. We all need to hear that we are important. Kind words can go a long way. You can write on nice paper, in calligraphy. If you know how.…

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This is a big relationship challenge, but is actually more common than you think. A lot of women don’t like to talk about it. Maybe, you feel embarrassed or like there is something wrong with you. Don’t blame yourself. It takes two to make a relationship work.

In the beginning, the sex is great. It’s new and exciting. You know he can’t wait to get his hands on you. But, over time things change. You have a house, children and a demanding job. When was the last time you had fun together? I’m talking about spending time together laughing. Fun is the glue in a relationship. Fun is what helps get you through the difficult times.

Here are 6 tips to bring back that spark in your relationship:

  1. Stop the blame game. A relationship is not “I” it’s, “We.” You’re in it together. This is where compromise comes in. When you don’t compromise in a relationship you create the I win, we/we lose scenario. In the end everybody gets hurt. This is where talking has a big pay off. Try to work on understanding your partner and being patient with your partner.
  2. Talk, talk, talk. I know this one sounds simple. But, many couples get away from it. Now, I’m not talking about things you have to talk about. Like the kids or logistics. I’m…

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Initially, you felt like this guy was the one. You’ve been together for a while. He has met your friends and family. But, lately you have had mixed feelings about him. You love him, but it just feels different. You are beginning to wonder, if he is the one?

So, why have you stayed with him, when you’ve had this feeling. Maybe, it took you a long time to meet him. He comes around a lot. He creates a sense of safety for you. We all want to be in a committed relationship. We want to feel loved, and be able to give love. But, you need to be careful. Staying with the wrong guy can be a big mistake.

10 Signs He’s Not The One To Marry:

  1. Not much of an emotional connection. For a relationship to last, you need to feel the emotional connection. You need to know your partner inside and out. This goes way beyond the bedroom. Your partner needs to know your hopes and dreams. What has driven you to be the person you are? Where do you see yourself in 10 years? There needs to be the safety in the relationship to share this information about yourself. This means there is a culture of trust and understanding. This is what will help keep you together during the difficult times.…

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I know this is a hard one for you. You’ve been seeing this guy for a while, and he has been hinting that he is ready to take it to the next level. But, you just aren’t sure if he is the one for you. It’s alright to question your relationship.

Maybe, it’s not the right time or you just aren’t feeling that emotional connection. You used to look forward to his phone calls at the end of the day, but now they just exhaust you. It used to be exciting to hear about every last detail of his life, but now it’s just boring. You’re not quite sure how this happened but it did.

Here are 6 tips to help you know if he’s the one:

  1. He brings you down instead of building you up. You don’t feel like you can be yourself with him. Maybe, you feel you have lost yourself in the relationship. If that’s the case, I don’t want you to feel stupid. This has happened to a lot of people in relationships. As human beings we need a relationship. Sometimes, you can take this too far. That feeling of not wanting to be alone can take over. I know this can be a hard one to swallow, because you have allowed this to happen. It’s important to know that when you…

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