Learn how to make deposits when your emotional bank account is empty.

Your Emotional Bank Account is empty! What, how did this happen? Does this mean that one more withdrawal could make it overdrawn, or worse yet close it? This can definitely happen after you have been in a relationship for a while.

Learn what to do when your emotional bank account is empty.

In the beginning you put your relationship first. But, now you have work, home and a family. This doesn’t leave much time for your relationship. What happened to date night? Can you remember the last time that you went out on a date with your partner? If the answer is no, then you are at risk of becoming overdrawn.

There are many ways to build back up your emotional bank account. It’s important that you start to prioritize your relationship, again. If you have been in a relationship for a while, then you know relationships are about giving and receiving.

Here are 10 ways to build your emotional bank account:

  1. Listen to your partner. This is one of the kindest things you can do for your partner. I have seen a lot of couples in my practice, and I hear this a lot, ‘I don’t feel heard.’ Set aside time each day to talk about your day with your partner. Make sure you both get a chance to speak.
  2. Touch your partner. Everyone likes…

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You can learn how to solve relationship problems without breaking up. There is hope.

Are you having problems in your relationship? If you answered yes, you aren’t alone. Even the best of couples, have relationship problems. It’s easy to feel stressed out these days. You have a family and a job. So, where does your relationship fit in? Many people go into a relationship, thinking it will make them happy and reduce stress. Many couples find out, this is not the case.

You can learn how to solve relationship problems without breaking up.

At first it is bliss. Your partner can’t do anything wrong. But, after a while things change. You begin to see your partner as a real human being, flaws and all. This may start to make you feel unloved and stressed out.

Here are 7 tips on how to solve relationship problems without breaking up:

  1. Don’t be afraid to talk it out. Society teaches us that when you go into a relationship, everything will just work out. Wrong. You need to tell your partner what you need. What you like, what you don’t like. Keep talking about it, until you can come to a compromise that works for both of you. Humans are always changing, learn to work through your differences.
  2. Stop comparing yourself to other couples. This is an easy one to do. Everyone has done this at one time or another. When you do this you will never…

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Is money the root of all evil? Learn how money causes problems in your relationship, and what to do about it.

You are told that money will make you happy. Maybe, you didn’t have much money growing up, or maybe you had everything. Whatever the case, you don’t want to let money define the relationship.

Learn the truth about why, money causes problems in your relationship.

We live in a country that puts a high value on money. This can leave you feeling like you don’t have enough. You really can’t buy love. Money cannot replace the time you spend with your loved ones. It also can’t take back the past or predict the future.

The truth of the matter, is you need money to survive in this country. It will put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food on the table. This is something everybody needs. So, why is money the root of all evil? For many, money is power and status. You really need to be careful here. If you idolize people with money, you will not see them for who they really are.

I see a lot of couples in my practice, and a lot of them have issues with money. They have different beliefs about money. This can come from family of origin, society and gender roles. The first order of business is to start to understand your partner’s beliefs about money. Without understanding you won’t understand why money…

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Learn what some of the most common relationship problems are, and how you can make up.

At the beginning of a relationship, when everything is new. You can’t imagine you would ever have any kind of a challenge in your relationship. You can’t see your partner’s flaws. The relationship makes you feel wonderful.

But, eventually the honeymoon is over. You start to see your partner as a real human being. With flaws, like the rest of us.

Relationship problems are part of every relationship.

The Gottman’s research has found, that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. This means, learn to understand your partner and your problems in the relationship. Nothing is as black and white as it seems.

Here are 4 of the most common relationship problems:

  1. The sex isn’t always going to be hot. In the beginning you can’t wait to jump in the sack with your partner. It’s like a new adventure. You are getting to know your partner from the inside out. You’ve never felt this kind of chemistry. It must be right. We all know, after being married for a while that changes. Your list of responsibilities start to take over, and your relationship gets lower on the list. We have found that what keeps the spark going is a good friendship. It might be time to update your LoveMaps. This is where you really get to know your partner inside and out. Let go of any…

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You aren't the same person you were when you got married. So, why do you expect your spouse to be? Learn how to fix a broken marriage before it's too late.

It’s the worst feeling in the world, when you realize your marriage is broken. You never thought this would happen. In the beginning, you felt it would last forever. Of course, you were mesmerized by the newness of the relationship. You did not see any of your partner’s flaws.

At the beginning of your relationship you never thought you would have to worry about, how to fix a broken marriage.

All marriages go through highs and lows. But, it feels much worse when it is broken. You wonder if it can ever be fixed? Your heart is breaking. You wonder if you will ever get through this?

There is no magic wand here. I have seen many couples in my practice. By the time they come to see me, they are usually on the brink of divorce. They have lots of questions for me. ‘Can you fix us?’ ‘Is it worth it?’ And, so on. I tell them, I have no magical answers. I know you will need to make an investment in your relationship, again. The truth is some couples make it and some don’t.

Here are 7 tips on how to fix a broken marriage:

  1. What made you fall in love, in the first place?After being married for a while, it’s easy to forget what you like about your spouse. What…

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