Can you think of at least 10 ways to love someone? It's not that difficult, start with saying, thank you.

How do you show love to your partner? That is the question. What is the first thing you think of when you hear, 10 ways to love someone?

Most of the time you show love the way you receive love. For example, if you like to touch, then you may hold your partners hand. If you like to receive compliments, then you may compliment your partner on how smart they are.

There are many ways to show love. What’s important is that your partner gets that you are showing and expressing love towards them. If you have been in a relationship for a while, then you know relationships are about giving and receiving.

Here are 10 Ways To Love Someone:

  1. Listen to your partner. This is one of the kindest things you can do for your partner. I have seen a lot of couples in my practice, and I hear this a lot, ‘I don’t feel heard.’ Set aside time each day to talk about your day with your partner. Make sure you both get a chance to speak.
  2. Touch your partner.Everyone likes to be touched by the one they love. You can hold hands or rub up against one another in a playful way. After you have been in a relationship for a while, this one can be overlooked. Make sure you touch and…

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Learn why money causes problems in your relationship and what you can do about it.

Is money the root of all evil? Can you learn why money causes problems in your relationship?

That really is the question. How often do you come across somebody that doesn’t want to make more money? I’m sure you probably want to make more money yourself. But, then what happens? You no sooner start making more money, and it’s not enough. Perfect example of money causing problems

So, how does this play out in your relationship? Whether both people in a relationship work outside the home, or one works outside the home. Money matters will always come up in a relationship. Let me just say, if you have decided to stay home with the children and take care of the house, then you have a full time job. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Unfortunately, in our society money equals power. It’s been that way for a long time. So, if you are the one staying home or you make less than your partner, then it may be used against you. If that’s the case, then you will need to speak up for yourself. Don’t be shy, let your partner know how hard you work, and what your worth is.

You don’t want to sweep the subject of money under the carpet, either. Often times, the job of making sure the bills are paid is put on the…

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A lifelong commitment doesn't have to be perfect. Learn how friendship can save a mariage.

When you think about a lifelong commitment, what do you think about?

Is it a perfect home, perfect family or a perfect job. Maybe, it’s all three. Or, do you think of happily waking up to the next one you love?

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, then you know this is not what a lifelong commitment is about. After being in a relationship for a while, you begin to let your guard down. Maybe, you don’t jump up and brush your teeth first thing in the morning. You start to put off the chores and indulge in a little more junk food.

So, what does this mean? A lifelong commitment is not perfect.

If you are expecting perfection in your relationship, then you are setting it up to fail. What about the friendship in your relationship? Just hanging out together having fun, and laughing together. So, before you make that plunge and jump into marriage, here are four things to think about:

  1. Is this your best friend? When I think of a best friend I think of someone that knows all of my secrets and still loves me. There is also mutual respect in the relationship. You know if you make a mistake you will be forgiven.This doesn’t mean that there isn’t room to grow, it just means you don’t have…

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Is your emotional bank account overdrawn?

When was the last time you took a look at your emotional bank account?

Have you ever looked at your relationship as a bank account? Like any bank account the more deposits you make, the more it grows. You can also make withdrawals. You need to be careful here. Like any bank account, if you make too many withdrawals without making any deposits, then your bank account will become overdrawn and is at risk of closing.

It’s important to make a lot of small deposits along the way. If you make a large deposit without making any small deposits, it won’t make a big difference. You also need to remember, that not every withdrawal or deposit is worth the same amount. Some withdrawals cost a lot more than others. Just as some deposits are worth more than others.

Here are 7 small deposits to make to your emotional bank account:

  1. Be grateful. Everyone wants to feel appreciated. Make sure to let your partner know that you are appreciative. Tell your partner, ‘Thank you,’ when he folds the towels without being asked. Tell your partner, ‘I appreciate,’ that you came home early from work to spend time with the family. After you have been married a while, it’s easy to forget about the small deposits to your emotional bank account. Make sure to make them a priority in…

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You can learn how to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage.

The dreaded news, that you didn’t want to hear. Yes, this really happened to you. You aren't sure how to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage.

Maybe, this was your first time being pregnant. The first stage is, ‘I can’t believe this is happening to me.’ This is actually exactly how you should feel. There is nothing wrong with your feelings.

Now, the anger is setting in. ‘WHY, WHY, WHY.’ Anger is a natural feeling to have. Everyone has it. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. You can’t sweep everything under the carpet. You ask yourself, ‘what could you have done differently?’ This is a normal question to ask after a miscarriage. It’s important not blame yourself or others after a miscarriage. It’s natural to want to place blame, but in the long run this will only make things worse.

This is also known at the grieving process. I have found that after a miscarriage, it can make your relationship stronger or it can make it worse. Sure, you have had problems. But, the question is do you want this to help create a stronger bond between you and your partner? And, do you want to try again?

Here are 7 ways to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage:

  1. Make a commitment to healing together.Everyone heals differently and at a different pace. If you…

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