You heard me, stop texting, checking your Facebook and Googling and talk to your partner. It's really not that difficult. Take a genuine interest in your partner, this means listening. When your partner comes home at the end of the day, stop and listen. This will help build the friendship in the relationship. Here are four tips to help with communication in your relationship:
- Turn towards. The Gottman's research has found that couples are always making bids of affection towards one another. There is a range: a smile, making eye contact, touching, or asking your partner out on a date. The next time you catch your partner making a bid, turn towards instead of away.
- Be aware of your partner's emotion. As human beings we all have emotions and we have a range of them. In the business of life it's easy to dismiss your partner's emotion. This will make your partner feel rejected and even unloved. It's alright to have your emotions, I know this can be a hard one for some, but it's true.
- Work on understanding. It's more important to understand one another than to be right. Ask your partner questions and listen. Do your know your partner's dreams? Do your know what struggles they had growing up? The more you know about your partner the more you will understand them.
- Build a culture of appreciation. Practice non-defensive responses with your partner. This will allow your partner to feel more open. Look for ways to appreciate your partner. Express affection, give compliments, kiss one another and give surprise presents.