"Love comes in all shapes and sizes." author unknown
Are you feeling the seven year itch in your relationship? It's easy to get caught up in the busy world which we live in. We tend to put work and the children first, and our relationship last. I've heard this in my practice, 'I feel like we are falling out of love.' If this is you, then here are five helpful tips to help you fall in love again and again with your partner:
- Act like you are in a new relationship. Remember what it was like when you were dating. Go out to your favorite restaurants, go away for the weekend, or buy your partner flowers. Call and text throughout the day. Be excited to see your partner and think positively about them when they are away.
- Be affectionate - physically and verbally. Touch one another, kiss and tell your partner that you love them. Have candlelight dinners at home. Buy new lingerie and play with one another. Being in a relationship doesn't have to be boring. Remember to kiss and hug one another. Maybe it's time to be adventurous in your relationship.
- Be kind to one another. Many couples are stuck in attack and defend in their relationship. How you treat one another predicts intimacy in the relationship. Don't shut one another out or yell at one another. Use kind words, think before you speak.
- Share new experiences. Set aside time with one another at the end of the day to talk about your day. It's doesn't always have to be about the same old thing. If you have new ideas about work, hobbies, etc., then share them with your partner. Even if you don't think it's a big deal, your partner might enjoy hearing about it.
- What's old is new again. We can't realistically expect our long-term partner to be the exact same partner we married. Although, this could be a positive thing, you now have a whole new person in front of you with the benefits of being married. It's not about going back, it's about moving forward and building a relationship that is better suited for the two of you.