"Admit when you're wrong. Shut up when you're right." Dr. John Gottman
Couples, it's time to get on the same page. Catch your partner doing something right. Spend time together having fun. This may sound simple and obvious, but in our busy world we tend to put fun last on the list rather than first. Put it on your calendar and don't cross it out!
The next time you are talking with your partner about your day, tell them what you appreciate about him/her. For example, I love your honesty, you are so sweet, you are a great kisser, you are very sexy, I really like how athletic you are, etc. Here are list of some words you can use: loving, funny, involved, expressive, active, generous, thoughtful, intelligent, cheerful, reliable, truthful, strong, gracious, elegant, assertive, protective, lively, playful, warm, flexible, interesting, a great parent, etc. Make sure to use these words in a sentence that describes the characteristic or give an example of a time your partner did something using one of these characteristics. The more detail the better.
Ask your partner questions that show you are genuinely interested in them. Here are some examples:
- What are recent important events in your partner's life?
- What are some current stresses in your partner's life?
- What are some of your partner's hopes and aspirations?