"The whole point in developing your own style is to find your own voice." Dave Holland




Romantic dinners, flowers for unexpected reasons, spontaneous getaways, passion, understanding and most of all unconditional love. Isn't this what we expect in a relationship. Are we raised to believe this or are we just born thinking this way? I hear this over and over in my office, 'this just isn't what I thought a relationship would be like for me.' I have even had some clients report that after their last relationship, they are feeling depressed. They made up excuses for their partner and the relationship never blossomed into it's true potential. Here are 7 helpful tips to help find your voice and keep your voice in a relationship:

  1. Every relationship is give and take. This is how balance in created in a relationship.
  2. A relationship shouldn't drain you and it shouldn't make your life complicated.
  3. It's important to enjoy one another's company, even when you are just doing simple things, like running errands.
  4. When you feel like your partner is criticizing you, let them know and ask them to start over and say it nice.
  5. Remember, to set aside time for yourself. Go to the spa or have coffee with a friend.
  6. If you've made a mistake, it's always OK to apologize and offer to make it up to your partner.
  7. If it's starting to feel like a battle, agree to take at least a 20 minute break and then come back and have a discussion about your disagreement.
Take time to have a conversation with your partner, where you truly take an interest in one another. This will help build the friendship, which also helps build the romance in a relationship. If you find after reading this article you need more help, please call me for a consultation at (650) 892-0357. 

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