Relationship Challenges

Find your inner flirt. I often hear couples complain that their relationship is boring and they feel stuck. They miss the passion. I usually ask how the beginning of the relationship was. Are they still dating and having fun together? This is very important. Remember to spend magical time with one another.

Break this into "The Magic Five and One-half Hours a Week." Don't part in the morning without knowing one important fact about your partner's day. Kiss for a minimum of six seconds before departing for the day from one another. Two minutes a day x five working days = 10 minutes.

When reuniting at the end of the day have another six second kiss and the stress reducing conversation that lasts 10 minutes. Make sure to give support to one another and listen to one another. Twenty minutes a day x five days = 1 hour 40 minutes.

Find some way every day to genuinely communicate appreciation to your partner. This should be five minutes a day x seven days = 35 minutes.

Play with one another. Kiss, hold, grab and touch each other. Make sure to kiss one another before going to sleep. Make the six-second kiss last, five minutes a day x seven days = 35 minutes.

Go out on a date think of great questions to ask your partner. For example, what would be your idea of a great get away or how is your volunteer work going? Sometimes, these dates can be about resolving relationship issues. Two hours once a week.

Practice discussing the small things in your relationship even when you are getting along. Remember each person has a chance to be the speaker and the listener. Thirty minutes once a week. Practice makes perfect, after a while all of this will become natural and you will be having fun as a couple, which will reignite the fire.

2 x 5 = 10 minutes
20 x 5 = 1 hour 40 minutes
5 x 7 = 35 minutes
5 x 7 = 35 minutes
2 hours
30 minutes
Magical 5 1/2 hours
 
Adapted from Dr.'s John & Julie Gottman

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