Relationship Challenges

Relationship Challenges

A lifelong commitment doesn't have to be perfect. Learn how friendship can save a mariage.

When you think about a lifelong commitment, what do you think about?

Is it a perfect home, perfect family or a perfect job. Maybe, it’s all three. Or, do you think of happily waking up to the next one you love?

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, then you know this is not what a lifelong commitment is about. After being in a relationship for a while, you begin to let your guard down. Maybe, you don’t jump up and brush your teeth first thing in the morning. You start to put off the chores and indulge in a little more junk food.

So, what does this mean? A lifelong commitment is not perfect.

If you are expecting perfection in your relationship, then you are setting it up to fail. What about the friendship in your relationship? Just hanging out together having fun, and laughing together. So, before you make that plunge and jump into marriage, here are four things to think about:

  1. Is this your best friend? When I think of a best friend I think of someone that knows all of my secrets and still loves me. There is also mutual respect in the relationship. You know if you make a mistake you will be forgiven.This doesn’t mean that there isn’t room to grow, it just means you don’t have…

Read more: The Friendship In Your Marriage Is A Lifelong Commitment

Is your emotional bank account overdrawn?

When was the last time you took a look at your emotional bank account?

Have you ever looked at your relationship as a bank account? Like any bank account the more deposits you make, the more it grows. You can also make withdrawals. You need to be careful here. Like any bank account, if you make too many withdrawals without making any deposits, then your bank account will become overdrawn and is at risk of closing.

It’s important to make a lot of small deposits along the way. If you make a large deposit without making any small deposits, it won’t make a big difference. You also need to remember, that not every withdrawal or deposit is worth the same amount. Some withdrawals cost a lot more than others. Just as some deposits are worth more than others.

Here are 7 small deposits to make to your emotional bank account:

  1. Be grateful. Everyone wants to feel appreciated. Make sure to let your partner know that you are appreciative. Tell your partner, ‘Thank you,’ when he folds the towels without being asked. Tell your partner, ‘I appreciate,’ that you came home early from work to spend time with the family. After you have been married a while, it’s easy to forget about the small deposits to your emotional bank account. Make sure to make them a priority in…

Read more: What Is Your Balance On Your Emotional Bank Account In Your Marriage?

You can learn how to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage.

The dreaded news, that you didn’t want to hear. Yes, this really happened to you. You aren't sure how to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage.

Maybe, this was your first time being pregnant. The first stage is, ‘I can’t believe this is happening to me.’ This is actually exactly how you should feel. There is nothing wrong with your feelings.

Now, the anger is setting in. ‘WHY, WHY, WHY.’ Anger is a natural feeling to have. Everyone has it. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. You can’t sweep everything under the carpet. You ask yourself, ‘what could you have done differently?’ This is a normal question to ask after a miscarriage. It’s important not blame yourself or others after a miscarriage. It’s natural to want to place blame, but in the long run this will only make things worse.

This is also known at the grieving process. I have found that after a miscarriage, it can make your relationship stronger or it can make it worse. Sure, you have had problems. But, the question is do you want this to help create a stronger bond between you and your partner? And, do you want to try again?

Here are 7 ways to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage:

  1. Make a commitment to healing together.Everyone heals differently and at a different pace. If you…

Read more: How To Handle Relationship Problems After A Miscarriage

Learn what to do when you have relationship problems because of work.

You are led to believe that when you make more money, you will be happier. So, you work your ass off. But, now you have relationship problems because of work.

When you get a raise you are worried about the next raise. What this means, is that more money doesn’t mean you will be happy. You can also put your health at risk. When was the last time you had a good night’s sleep? Or, spent quality time with your family?

If this continues, your relationship will start to suffer. You don’t want to let work drive a wedge in your relationship. What happened to fun, or when you looked forward to seeing your partner at the end of the day? If you are willing to make some changes, then there is hope.

Here are 7 tips that will help you when you have relationship problems because of work:

  1. Start prioritizing your family. What is more important your family, or your next deadline at work? Now, I know you need to work. But, this doesn’t mean you need to put your family last. When was the last time you had fun with your family? This can be just simply laughing together.
  2. Cut back on your list.Are you a list person? If you are, then you probably have 7 or 8 things a day you feel you must…

Read more: What To Do When You Have Relationship Problems Because Of Work

Fun and relaxing.

Let’s face it Facebook is one of the most popular social networking sites around. You can share almost anything you want, and at the same time learn a lot about your friends and family. You can also connect with old friends from the past. This can be a lot of fun. But, at the same time it can cause you to feel insecure.

If you are in a relationship, and you start to see your friends and family photos of relationships. That probably shows them happy and in love all the time. You may start to feel insecure about your own relationship, if you are having some problems at the time. It’s easy to compare yourself to others on Facebook. I think this is actually a natural part of being a human being. I think it’s important not to let Facebook dictate your relationship for you.

Here are 7 reasons why Facebook causes relationship problems:

  1. Spending too much time on Facebook can cause relationship problems.Needless to say, this can cause your partner to get jealous. Especially if you are commenting on your friends photos and status all day, rather than spending quality time with your partner. Also, this can allow an ex to see you on Facebook. If your partner would like to spend time with you, and you are on Facebook. Your partner will feel…

Read more: 7 Reasons Why Facebook Causes Relationship Problems

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