That really is the question. How often do you come across somebody that doesn’t want to make more money? I’m sure you probably want to make more money yourself. But, then what happens? You no sooner start making more money, and it’s not enough. Perfect example of money causing problems.
So, how does this play out in your relationship? Whether both people in a relationship work outside the home, or one works outside the home. Money matters will always come up in a relationship. Let me just say, if you have decided to stay home with the children and take care of the house, then you have a full time job. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Unfortunately, in our society money equals power. It’s been that way for a long time. So, if you are the one staying home or you make less than your partner, then it may be used against you. If that’s the case, then you will need to speak up for yourself. Don’t be shy, let your partner know how hard you work, and what your worth is.
You don’t want to sweep the subject of money under the carpet, either. Often times, the job of making sure the bills are paid is put on the…
Is it a perfect home, perfect family or a perfect job. Maybe, it’s all three. Or, do you think of happily waking up to the next one you love?
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, then you know this is not what a lifelong commitment is about. After being in a relationship for a while, you begin to let your guard down. Maybe, you don’t jump up and brush your teeth first thing in the morning. You start to put off the chores and indulge in a little more junk food.
If you are expecting perfection in your relationship, then you are setting it up to fail. What about the friendship in your relationship? Just hanging out together having fun, and laughing together. So, before you make that plunge and jump into marriage, here are four things to think about:
Have you ever looked at your relationship as a bank account? Like any bank account the more deposits you make, the more it grows. You can also make withdrawals. You need to be careful here. Like any bank account, if you make too many withdrawals without making any deposits, then your bank account will become overdrawn and is at risk of closing.
It’s important to make a lot of small deposits along the way. If you make a large deposit without making any small deposits, it won’t make a big difference. You also need to remember, that not every withdrawal or deposit is worth the same amount. Some withdrawals cost a lot more than others. Just as some deposits are worth more than others.
Maybe, this was your first time being pregnant. The first stage is, ‘I can’t believe this is happening to me.’ This is actually exactly how you should feel. There is nothing wrong with your feelings.
Now, the anger is setting in. ‘WHY, WHY, WHY.’ Anger is a natural feeling to have. Everyone has it. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. You can’t sweep everything under the carpet. You ask yourself, ‘what could you have done differently?’ This is a normal question to ask after a miscarriage. It’s important not blame yourself or others after a miscarriage. It’s natural to want to place blame, but in the long run this will only make things worse.
This is also known at the grieving process. I have found that after a miscarriage, it can make your relationship stronger or it can make it worse. Sure, you have had problems. But, the question is do you want this to help create a stronger bond between you and your partner? And, do you want to try again?
When you get a raise you are worried about the next raise. What this means, is that more money doesn’t mean you will be happy. You can also put your health at risk. When was the last time you had a good night’s sleep? Or, spent quality time with your family?
If this continues, your relationship will start to suffer. You don’t want to let work drive a wedge in your relationship. What happened to fun, or when you looked forward to seeing your partner at the end of the day? If you are willing to make some changes, then there is hope.