Relationship Challenges

Relationship Challenges

You don't have to feel empty and depleted at the end of the day.

You know you need to take care of yourself. So, why aren’t you? Is it because there are so many distractions? You have work you need to do, or the kids just won’t sit still. It seems there is always a good reason to put yourself last.

When you don’t take care of yourself, you will become resentful. This can lead to many problems: low self-esteem, anxiety or depression. You live in a fast paced world. You are told, ‘It’s never enough.’ This leaves you feeling empty and depleted.

Not only are you hurting yourself, but you are hurting your relationship. You need to take time for yourself and sit back. Take a look at all the hard work you have done. This will not only help you appreciate yourself, it will help you appreciate others.

Here are 5 tips to help you start taking care of yourself when you are in a relationship:


  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If you can’t…

Read more: 5 Tips For Taking Care Of Yourself In A Relationship

Sad woman dealing with relationship problems after a miscarriage.

Having a miscarriage can greatly affect your relationship. I’ve found it can either tear you apart, or bring you closer. No one really knows what you are going through, unless they have experienced it themselves. Your partner may be the one person you feel the most safe with, when talking about this.

No one really knows the reason a miscarriage happens. There can be many different reasons. What’s important is that you don’t blame yourself, and that you allow yourself to grieve. Let yourself feel all of the emotions that you have about the miscarriage. Don’t keep it in. This will keep you stuck, in the long run.

Here are the 4 most common relationship problems after a miscarriage, and how to handle them:

  1. You may feel like giving up on having a baby. You are feeling sad and let down. No one can predict the future. Give yourself time to heal physically and emotionally. You have been through alot, and you need a break. This is a great time to go away for the weekend or take long bubble baths. Make sure you have all the medical help you need. After a while, your attitude may change. When you feel strong enough, you can try again. Many couples have had miscarriages, and have gone on to have happy, healthy babies.
  2. You may grow distant in your…

Read more: 4 Common Relationship Problems After A Miscarriage

It’s a very simple word. But, yet so many people have a really hard time saying it. Why is this? Does it mean you have to admit you are wrong? I’m sure you know, the answer is yes. If you haven’t guessed already, it saying, “I’m Sorry.” And, it’s genuine.

All relationships go through highs and lows. What’s important is you learn to repair, when you have made a mistake. It’s also important when your partner gives you a sincere apology, that you receive it.

Even if you think you had a small part in the argument. It’s important to fess up to it and say, ‘I’m sorry.” Now, wasn’t that easy. I think if more people did this, we wouldn’t need aspirin. If you don’t repair, then you stay stuck. This can lead to all kinds of other problems.

Here are 5 of the most sincerest stories of saying, ‘I’m sorry.’


  1. Give your partner a note with the top 5 reasons they are important to you. This will let your partner know how important they are to you. Let your partner know you forgot about these things when you got into the argument. We all need to hear that we are important. Kind words can go a long way. You can write on nice paper, in calligraphy. If you know how.…

Read more: What Is One Of The Hardest Words To Say (But The Best) Thing You Can Do In A Relationship?

This is a big relationship challenge, but is actually more common than you think. A lot of women don’t like to talk about it. Maybe, you feel embarrassed or like there is something wrong with you. Don’t blame yourself. It takes two to make a relationship work.

In the beginning, the sex is great. It’s new and exciting. You know he can’t wait to get his hands on you. But, over time things change. You have a house, children and a demanding job. When was the last time you had fun together? I’m talking about spending time together laughing. Fun is the glue in a relationship. Fun is what helps get you through the difficult times.

Here are 6 tips to bring back that spark in your relationship:

  1. Stop the blame game. A relationship is not “I” it’s, “We.” You’re in it together. This is where compromise comes in. When you don’t compromise in a relationship you create the I win, we/we lose scenario. In the end everybody gets hurt. This is where talking has a big pay off. Try to work on understanding your partner and being patient with your partner.
  2. Talk, talk, talk. I know this one sounds simple. But, many couples get away from it. Now, I’m not talking about things you have to talk about. Like the kids or logistics. I’m…

Read more: What To Do If Your Husband Isn't Attracted To You Anymore

There is a ton of information out there on how anxiety impacts you physically and emotionally. But, what about how it impacts your relationship? Have you thought about how it impacts the people around you?

When you have anxiety you feel overwhelmed, and can have periods of panic. It may feel like you have them for no reason. This can leave you feeling confused. The first step is recognizing you have anxiety, and then letting your partner know.

I have seen many couples over the years. Whenever one person in the relationship has an anxiety disorder, it must be treated. If it is not treated, nothing in the relationship will change. And, it could even get worse.

Here are 5 major relationship problems due to anxiety:

  1. Anxiety crushes your true voice. When you have anxiety, it may be difficult to ask for your true needs. You may also feel like you have to talk about something or do something immediately. In order to get over the anxiety. This can come across as too pushy, and overwhelm your partner. This is also known as catastrophic thinking. You need to stop and gather the facts. It’s alright to take a break and talk about it later.
  2. Anxiety causes you to behave selfishly. Your worries and fears, cause you to focus too much on yourself. They are also causing you…

Read more: The 5 Major Relationship Problems Due To Anxiety & How To Fix Them

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