This is a big relationship challenge, but is actually more common than you think. A lot of women don’t like to talk about it. Maybe, you feel embarrassed or like there is something wrong with you. Don’t blame yourself. It takes two to make a relationship work.
In the beginning, the sex is great. It’s new and exciting. You know he can’t wait to get his hands on you. But, over time things change. You have a house, children and a demanding job. When was the last time you had fun together? I’m talking about spending time together laughing. Fun is the glue in a relationship. Fun is what helps get you through the difficult times.
Here are 6 tips to bring back that spark in your relationship:
There is a ton of information out there on how anxiety impacts you physically and emotionally. But, what about how it impacts your relationship? Have you thought about how it impacts the people around you?
When you have anxiety you feel overwhelmed, and can have periods of panic. It may feel like you have them for no reason. This can leave you feeling confused. The first step is recognizing you have anxiety, and then letting your partner know.
I have seen many couples over the years. Whenever one person in the relationship has an anxiety disorder, it must be treated. If it is not treated, nothing in the relationship will change. And, it could even get worse.
Here are 5 major relationship problems due to anxiety:
You are told that money will make you happy. Maybe, you didn’t have much money growing up, or maybe you had everything. Whatever the case, you need to define your relationship with money and not let it control you.
We live in a country that puts a high value on money. This can leave you feeling like you don’t have enough. You really can’t buy love. Money cannot replace the time you spend with your loved ones. It also can’t take back the past or predict the future.
The truth of the matter, is you need money to survive in this country. It will put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food on the table. This is something everybody needs. So, why is money the root of all evils? For many, money is power and status. You really need to be careful here. If you idolize people with money, you will not see them for who they really are.
Here are 6 reasons money is causing problems in your relationship:
Wouldn’t that be nice, a relationship without problems. That really is a dream. We all go into a relationship with our own set of problems. We learn to be in a relationship through our own family of origin. Which is different for everyone. Then, you try to mesh the two together.
That isn’t always easy. Which, if you have been in a relationship for a while you’ve probably figured out. So, the answer is no there is not a relationship that doesn’t have problems. The Gottman’s research has found, what’s important is that you repair. This means you accept one another’s differences and you learn to make up after an argument.
After working with many couples over the years in my practice, I have learned to appreciate the importance of perpetual problems. A perpetual problems is a problem that keeps coming up in your relationship that you just can’t solve, or come to a compromise that works for both of you.
5 benefits of perpetual problems:
We live in a time where going to see a counselor, is not that uncommon. Thank God, it’s hard to believe there was a time where it was considered taboo. I am grateful for all the counselors before me, that fought to make it alright.
Counseling can help get you through the bumps in life, especially in your relationship. But, like everything with good comes the bad. So many people want to see a counselor for everything. For example, ‘I am so worried he will not like me if he finds out about my past.’ When he already likes you and he knows about your past.
What will happen if he doesn’t call me back?’ Does it mean I will never meet the man of my dreams and get married?’ The answer is, I don’t know, and that’s alright. You don’t have to have all the answers and dreams are always changing.
Here are 5 reasons you don’t need a counselor for your relationship challenges: