More and more you are hearing about anxiety. What this means is that you are stressed out. When you are stressed out and you don't have a coping mechanism, it will turn into anxiety.
The answer is yes. Learn what you can do about it before it's too late.
Studies show that couples wait a minimum of seven years before they go to therapy for their relationship problems. What does this mean? You may already have an anxiety disorder. The truth of the matter is, that if you wait too long you might not be able to help it.
This means that the earlier an intervention is made the better. Even if the problems seem small, the sooner you get help for your relationship the better.
Here are 8 tips that can with anxiety that is being caused from your relationship:
I'm sure you know how a bank account works. When you make deposits the bank account will grow. When you make withdrawals the bank account doesn't grow. It can also become overdrawn and become at risk of closing.
The Gottman Institute for Couples found that the best way to make your emotional bank account grow, is to have lots of small deposits over a long period of time. This means if you make one large deposit now and then, it won't help your emotional bank account. It could even hurt your emotional bank account. This means you need lots of meaningful deposits over a long period of time.
Even the best of relationships have problems. What's different is that couples learn how to repair after an argument. This means that you need to talk about it. I know this is not what everyone wants to hear. This is a great way to help build understanding in the relationship. "You must understand the problem before you can solve the problem." Gottman
The Gottman's research found that 69% of problems in a relationship aren't solvable. So, why don't you try to stop solving your relationship problems? Sounds simple, right? If you are in a relationship or have been in a relationship, then you know it's not always that simple. It starts with a conversation. This means one person is the speaker and one is the listener. You each get a turn at each role.
Talking about money in a relationship, can be stressful. But, you really need to talk about this one. I know, no one likes to hear let's talk about the budget. When you go into a relationship, you each come from a different family of origin. This means that you each have a different language. I have found that many couples have a different language (aka-belief system) about money.
After a while, you are going to have to talk about money. This can start when you are dating. This is not a problem that will go away if you ignore it, or don't talk about it. That will actually make it worse in the long run. Make sure that you are gentle with this conversation. Some people are more traditional and feel the man should pay for everything. Although, times are changing and many people are alright going dutch. Whatever, you choose make sure you are comfortable with the decision. Also, make sure this is a decision that you both feel good about.
At the beginning of a relationship, you are developing the foundation for how you handle money in your relationship. It's important that you both know what is coming in and what is going out. This means you need to start talking about money. You also…
Your Emotional Bank Account is empty! What, how did this happen? Does this mean that one more withdrawal could make it overdrawn, or worse yet close it? This can definitely happen after you have been in a relationship for a while.
In the beginning you put your relationship first. But, now you have work, home and a family. This doesn’t leave much time for your relationship. What happened to date night? Can you remember the last time that you went out on a date with your partner? If the answer is no, then you are at risk of becoming overdrawn.
There are many ways to build back up your emotional bank account. It’s important that you start to prioritize your relationship, again. If you have been in a relationship for a while, then you know relationships are about giving and receiving.