Taking Care Of Yourself

Taking Care Of Yourself

Learn how to take care of yourself, and not feel guilty about it.

It can happen to anyone. You hear about it all the time. Unfortunately, depression is on the rise. If you suffer from depression, you aren't alone. Like many people you're calendar is probably packed, and you don't feel like you can set aside time for yourself.

You need to take care of the kids, clean the house, cook dinner, finish that last minute project at work and so on. When will it end? Is what you're thinking. This doesn't give your mind a chance to rest.

After a while, you begin to feel down. You may feel like you aren't appreciated. If you don't get help for this, it can lead to intrusive thoughts. Such as, 'I don't fit in or I'm simply not good enough. This is when your mind begins to lie to you, and you don't want to believe it.

Start to tell yourself, it's okay to take care of yourself.

It is not selfish to take care of yourself. If you don't, you will eventually crash.

Here are 5 tips for taking care of yourself when you are feeling depressed:

  1. Start by taking care of the basics.You need at least 8 hours of sleep every night. You need to drink plenty of water, and eat nutrient rich foods. Make exercise a habit in your life. Make sure you get some natural…

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Learn how self-care is the key to a happier relationship.

At the beginning of a relationship, everything is great. You can't wait to see your partner at the end of the day. But, after a while things change. 

You may be working longer hours, after that promotion. You bought a new house. You have a couple of children that need your attention. Somehow, you put everyone else first in your life. This leaves you last on the list.

If you continue to do this, it will come out in your relationship. You will begin to feel distant from your partner. This can cause resentment. You don't feel like you are having fun in your life anymore.

I know you need to do the dishes, take the kids to school and go to the grocery store. You’re thinking how can I fit anytime in for me? Or, my husband never helps out around the house anymore, and the house still needs to be taken care of. So, you must do all the chores. Again, how can you carve out a few minutes for yourself?

Here are 11 self-care tips for a happier relationship:

  1. Stop, and take a deep breathe.This can help reduce cortisol levels, which can help reduce stress and anxiety. If you can, close your eyes and try to clear your mind. Just focus on your breath. Pay attention to where it is in…

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Learn how simple it can be to take care of yourself before others.

Have you ever said yes, when you mean no? Of course you have. This means you are human. We have all been there. You really want to go home and relax after a long day. But, at the last minute your boss asks you if you have completed that assignment. You know you haven't, and now you have to.

This doesn't mean you are a slacker or incompetent. The reason you may have fallen behind is because you aren't prioritizing. And, by prioritizing I mean prioritizing yourself.

When you take care of yourself before others, you are actually more efficient.

Sure, it would be great to save the world. But, you don't want to kill yourself in the process. I see this all the time in my office. People get caught up in the comparison game. They think by doing more, they will be better and get ahead. That is not always the case. You may end up tired and feeling depleted. This is also known as feeling burnt out.

You know, when you start to feel resentful towards your friends and family because of their achievements. If you are feeling this way. You aren't alone. More and more Americans are suffering from burn out. This can lead to depression or anxiety. If this goes untreated, you may need to go on a long mental health…

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Taking care of yourself after a breakup is the best thing you can do for yourself.

We've all been there. Maybe it was your idea to breakup, maybe it wasn't. It doesn't matter, right now you are feeling alone. You can't believe you are going through this, again. The first thing to remember is you aren't alone. 

Taking care of yourself after a breakup is the best thing you can do right now.

This is something a lot of people don't like to talk about. You may be in the bargaining stage of the loss. Wondering where you went wrong, or why you didn't see it coming? This is something everyone goes through after a breakup

Give yourself time to recover from the breakup. You may be feeling lonely. This may make you want to run into another relationship. This is called being on the rebound. You are searching for a partner based on feeling lonely. It's easy to make this mistake. Make sure you give yourself time to heal.

Here are 10 strategies for taking care of yourself after a breakup:

  • Write it out. Keeping a journal can help reduce stress. This will help get your feelings out. Nobody has to see it, so you can say what you want. If you’d like you can pick a subject write about, or write a poem.

  • Hug it out. If you are around a loved one, give them a hug or ask for a…

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Are you suffering from the wintertime blues? Learn that you are not alone, and what you can do to feel better.

Wintertime blues are more common that you think. Especially, if you live in an area that can go for weeks or even months without sunlight. It could also be a sign of brain overload. Which means you are doing too much. When was the last time you stopped and did nothing. Yes, you heard me right. Did nothing? Stop and take a breath, try this for ten minutes.

If you don't learn to slow down, the wintertime blues will only get worse. This could lead to depression.

What can happen, is that you just keep going and going. You don't realize you are even getting the wintertime blues. This is also known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Many people suffer from SAD, this means you aren't alone. Unfortunately, not everybody talks about it. This leaves you feeling alone and isolated. Isolation is the worst thing you can do for depression. 

Talk to friends and family. If that doesn't help, then talk to a professional. You don't have to go through this alone. The good news is there is help. Stay away from stereotypes. Those are based on very old beliefs. You are not crazy, and you can get through this.

Here are 7 tips to help you fight the wintertime blues:

  1. Don't isolate yourself. When you are feeling depressed you may feel more irritable. This may…

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