Taking Care Of Yourself

Taking Care Of Yourself

Learn how a self-care plan works better, when you practice it with your partner.

It's easy in our fast paced society to forget about your own self-care. You are busy taking care of everybody else. You have a job and deadlines to meet. This doesn't leave much time for your own self-care plan.

Self-care doesn't have to be difficult. I have found a lot of people feel guilty when they think of self-care. This can come from an old thought pattern. It's time to throw out that old thought pattern, and replace it with a new one.

Learn how self-care can improve your relationship.

I talk about self-care a lot in my practice. When people think of self-care they often think of getting a mani/pedi or a massage. Those are nice things, but self-care is taking care of your mind, body and spirit. It's something that you practice daily. It doesn't have to be difficult.

  • Take ten minutes in the morning and meditate.
  • Make sure you are getting plenty of rest.
  • Eat nutrient rich foods and drink plenty of water.
  • Watch a funny video.
  • Take breaks during the day.
  • Go for a walk. 

Surround yourself with positive people. Start by reviewing the social supports available to you. If necessary, start developing a positive social support system.

Approach each day with purpose. Be productive by outlining daily structure. No task is too small to feel good about. Each step can…

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When you think of self care, you may think of getting a massage or a mani/pedi. That is alright, there is nothing wrong with getting those things. But, what self care means is taking care of your mind, body and soul.

Learning to take time out when you need it, is the core of self care. In today's world everyone is busy. You are driven to work more and do more. If you keep up at this pace, you will end up feeling depleted and empty inside.

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Unfortunately, practicing self care isn't always easy. I have found that a lot of people feel guilty when they put themselves first. Even when this means they are exhausted. Which means you are going to burn out. This can lead to many other problems.

This puts both your emotional and physical health at risk. But, it's not until one of those is at risk when people begin to do something. 

Here are 10 tips to help you take better care of yourself:

  1. Exercise daily as part of your self care routine. I see a lot of people neglect this one. Exercise helps you physically and mentally. I think a lot of people know this, but this is the first one you remove from your calendar. If you can't get to the gym…

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Learn how to take care of yourself, and not feel guilty about it.

It can happen to anyone. You hear about it all the time. Unfortunately, depression is on the rise. If you suffer from depression, you aren't alone. Like many people you're calendar is probably packed, and you don't feel like you can set aside time for yourself.

You need to take care of the kids, clean the house, cook dinner, finish that last minute project at work and so on. When will it end? Is what you're thinking. This doesn't give your mind a chance to rest.

After a while, you begin to feel down. You may feel like you aren't appreciated. If you don't get help for this, it can lead to intrusive thoughts. Such as, 'I don't fit in or I'm simply not good enough. This is when your mind begins to lie to you, and you don't want to believe it.

Start to tell yourself, it's okay to take care of yourself.

It is not selfish to take care of yourself. If you don't, you will eventually crash.

Here are 5 tips for taking care of yourself when you are feeling depressed:

  1. Start by taking care of the basics.You need at least 8 hours of sleep every night. You need to drink plenty of water, and eat nutrient rich foods. Make exercise a habit in your life. Make sure you get some natural…

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Learn how self-care is the key to a happier relationship.

At the beginning of a relationship, everything is great. You can't wait to see your partner at the end of the day. But, after a while things change. 

You may be working longer hours, after that promotion. You bought a new house. You have a couple of children that need your attention. Somehow, you put everyone else first in your life. This leaves you last on the list.

If you continue to do this, it will come out in your relationship. You will begin to feel distant from your partner. This can cause resentment. You don't feel like you are having fun in your life anymore.

I know you need to do the dishes, take the kids to school and go to the grocery store. You’re thinking how can I fit anytime in for me? Or, my husband never helps out around the house anymore, and the house still needs to be taken care of. So, you must do all the chores. Again, how can you carve out a few minutes for yourself?

Here are 11 self-care tips for a happier relationship:

  1. Stop, and take a deep breathe.This can help reduce cortisol levels, which can help reduce stress and anxiety. If you can, close your eyes and try to clear your mind. Just focus on your breath. Pay attention to where it is in…

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Learn how simple it can be to take care of yourself before others.

Have you ever said yes, when you mean no? Of course you have. This means you are human. We have all been there. You really want to go home and relax after a long day. But, at the last minute your boss asks you if you have completed that assignment. You know you haven't, and now you have to.

This doesn't mean you are a slacker or incompetent. The reason you may have fallen behind is because you aren't prioritizing. And, by prioritizing I mean prioritizing yourself.

When you take care of yourself before others, you are actually more efficient.

Sure, it would be great to save the world. But, you don't want to kill yourself in the process. I see this all the time in my office. People get caught up in the comparison game. They think by doing more, they will be better and get ahead. That is not always the case. You may end up tired and feeling depleted. This is also known as feeling burnt out.

You know, when you start to feel resentful towards your friends and family because of their achievements. If you are feeling this way. You aren't alone. More and more Americans are suffering from burn out. This can lead to depression or anxiety. If this goes untreated, you may need to go on a long mental health…

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