"Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can." Arthur Ashe
I have seen a lot of people in my practice and many of them come in, because they want to make changes in their life. They aren't happy with the life they have. They may feel anxious or depressed. I tell them to live in the present, stop dwelling about the past and stop predicting the future. Here are six steps to help you want the life you have:
- Begin and end each day with gratefulness. When you wake up in the morning take a minute to remind yourself of what you are grateful for. Remember a special person in your life that you look up to. It can be a grandparent or a friend that helped you out. Before bed, make a list of 25 things you are grateful for.
- Stop resisting change. The truth is, many of us are afraid of change, because it's unknown. Your current situation may not be one that you like, but you know it and know how to handle it. The first step is to control your fear. Change is a risk we need to take to change our life.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. We live in a county where the media has a great influence. Everyone is rich and beautiful and they make it look effortless. We know this is not true most of the time. Start the day by telling yourself three compliments.
- Get to know the people around you. Everybody is plugged in these days and focused on being productive. Sometimes, we forget about the people that are around us the most. Take a genuine interest in your friends, family and colleagues. They may actually be able to help you. Instead of focusing on what others can do for you, focus on what you can do for others.
- Start where you are. Instead of starting over start where you are. This will not feel as overwhelming. Nobody has the luxury of going back in life. Learn from your past and move on.
- Now, you're ready to face the world with the new you. This is a new chance. Go out there and make it right. Trust in yourself and believe you will get there. Repeat this to yourself over and over. Just wait and see, you will get there.