The New Year is here. Where did 2017 go? It was gone in the blink of an eye. You did a great job of taking care of everyone else. You made sure the kids lunches were made and got them to school. You rocked your last presentation at the office. And, you did all of this on little to no sleep.
Now, these are all great things. But, what happened to putting yourself first? You did all of this and now you are feeling burnt out. You don’t understand why it is such a big deal. You can barely take a compliment, without wondering why you are feeling so down all the time.
Your brain is always going. You are always at least two or three steps ahead. You feel like you will never catch up. When did life become all work and no fun? Everybody talks about setting goals for The New Year. They are usually about work and family, and they don’t involve having fun. For The New Year I want you to set goals about having fun.
Parenting is no easy job. You don’t have any PTO that you can store up and use. It’s something you have to learn to get through. After a while, you end up putting yourself last on the list. This can lead to resentment and burnout.
I know you need to do the dishes, take the kids to school and go to the grocery store. You’re thinking how can I fit anytime in for me? Or, my husband never helps out around the house anymore, and the house still needs to be taken care of. So, you must do all the chores. Again, how can you carve out a few minutes for yourself?
The best way, is to just start. First on your list should be getting enough rest. Here are 11 tips for taking care of yourself:
It can happen to anyone, when you least expect it. Depression is nothing to feel ashamed about. There are many different reasons, why you can feel depressed. It could be situational. Maybe, you are struggling in your marriage, you lost your job or you have an illness. It could be genetic. Maybe, depression runs in your family. It could also be chemical. The good news is depression is treatable.
You will be able to get through it, but you will need some help. The first step is reaching out to others. Talk to friends and family. If that’s not enough, then seek help from a professional. When you feel depressed, you may feel more irritable. You may not enjoy doing the same things that you used to. It may also be difficult to sleep, or you may sleep a lot and still feel tired. These are few of the symptoms, there can also be more.
Here are 5 tips for taking care of yourself when you’re depressed:
Self care, I’m sure you’ve heard about it. People are talking it about it more and more. The reason people are talking about it, is because people are more stressed out than ever before. You want to get ahead, you want to be a great parent, etc.
But, there is a cost. And, the cost is you. You aren’t meant to go all day, and then all night. You need to slow down and take breaks. Once you start, you won’t be able to stop. When was the last time you did something for yourself, without guilt? Why do you feel guilty when you take care of yourself? What is your mindset like? Where did you learn it from?
It’s easy to stay stuck in and old mindset, that you learned as a child. What you may not realize is that you are hurting yourself, in the long run. I want you to take a look at your mindset, right now. Why is it, that you always put yourself last? Did you grow up in a home with a parent that put everyone else first? Were you constantly told to put others first? Whatever the reason, you need to start making some changes. If you don’t, you will suffer physically and emotionally.
Here are 10 ways to fall in love with taking care of yourself:
You take care of everybody else. So, why aren’t your taking care of yourself? Do you feel it’s selfish? Or, you just don’t have the time. Whatever, the reason, taking care of yourself is a priority. If you don’t, you will grow angry and resentful.
Part of emotional self-care is staying in the present. It’s easy to focus on your regrets about the past, or constantly worry about the future. When, in reality you don’t have control over either. It also keeps you away from this present moment.
Not to say that it’s not alright to learn from the past, but you need to let go. You can plan ahead, but don’t have anxiety over it. This will help keep your mind open for change. Change is constant. When you are more accepting of it, you will have less stress.
Here are 10 ways to practice emotional self-care: