Taking Care Of Yourself

Taking Care Of Yourself

Tips For Taking Care Of Yourself As A Parent

Parenting is no easy job. You don’t have any PTO that you can store up and use. It’s something you have to learn to get through. After a while, you end up putting yourself last on the list. This can lead to resentment and burnout.

I know you need to do the dishes, take the kids to school and go to the grocery store. You’re thinking how can I fit anytime in for me? Or, my husband never helps out around the house anymore, and the house still needs to be taken care of. So, you must do all the chores. Again, how can you carve out a few minutes for yourself?

The best way, is to just start. First on your list should be getting enough rest. Here are 11 tips for taking care of yourself:

  1. Stop, and take a deep breathe. This can help reduce cortisol levels, which can help reduce stress and anxiety. If you can, close your eyes and try to clear your mind. Just focus on your breath. Pay attention to where it is in your body and follow it. This will help keep you in the present.
  2. Listen to music.Research has shown that listening to music can help reduce stress. Listen to music with positive lyrics that has a soothing sound. Try not to think about what is stressing you…

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Learn how self care can help you when you are depressed.

It can happen to anyone, when you least expect it. Depression is nothing to feel ashamed about. There are many different reasons, why you can feel depressed. It could be situational. Maybe, you are struggling in your marriage, you lost your job or you have an illness. It could be genetic. Maybe, depression runs in your family. It could also be chemical. The good news is depression is treatable.

You will be able to get through it, but you will need some help. The first step is reaching out to others. Talk to friends and family. If that’s not enough, then seek help from a professional. When you feel depressed, you may feel more irritable. You may not enjoy doing the same things that you used to. It may also be difficult to sleep, or you may sleep a lot and still feel tired. These are few of the symptoms, there can also be more.

Here are 5 tips for taking care of yourself when you’re depressed:

  1. Start by taking care of the basics.You need at least 8 hours of sleep every night. You need to drink plenty of water, and eat nutrient rich foods. Make exercise a habit in your life. Make sure you get some natural light, if possible. I know this sounds obvious, but it’s easy to overlook. I know it’s more convenient…

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It’s not selfish to put yourself first.

Self care, I’m sure you’ve heard about it. People are talking it about it more and more. The reason people are talking about it, is because people are more stressed out than ever before. You want to get ahead, you want to be a great parent, etc.

But, there is a cost. And, the cost is you. You aren’t meant to go all day, and then all night. You need to slow down and take breaks. Once you start, you won’t be able to stop. When was the last time you did something for yourself, without guilt? Why do you feel guilty when you take care of yourself? What is your mindset like? Where did you learn it from?

It’s easy to stay stuck in and old mindset, that you learned as a child. What you may not realize is that you are hurting yourself, in the long run. I want you to take a look at your mindset, right now. Why is it, that you always put yourself last? Did you grow up in a home with a parent that put everyone else first? Were you constantly told to put others first? Whatever the reason, you need to start making some changes. If you don’t, you will suffer physically and emotionally.

Here are 10 ways to fall in love with taking care of yourself:

  1. Start…

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Learn how letting go will help you feel better about yourself.

You take care of everybody else. So, why aren’t your taking care of yourself? Do you feel it’s selfish? Or, you just don’t have the time. Whatever, the reason, taking care of yourself is a priority. If you don’t, you will grow angry and resentful.

Part of emotional self-care is staying in the present. It’s easy to focus on your regrets about the past, or constantly worry about the future. When, in reality you don’t have control over either. It also keeps you away from this present moment.

Not to say that it’s not alright to learn from the past, but you need to let go. You can plan ahead, but don’t have anxiety over it. This will help keep your mind open for change. Change is constant. When you are more accepting of it, you will have less stress.

Here are 10 ways to practice emotional self-care:

  1. Be true to yourself. This means, don’t say yes when you mean no. This is also known as setting boundaries. There will be a big payoff to this.
  2. Develop an attitude of gratitude. Write down 25 things you are grateful for. Start with a roof over your head, and a warm bed to sleep in.
  3. Allow yourself to make mistakes. No one is perfect. This is an unrealistic expectation. You will always feel disappointed. Make sure the people around…

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Believe it or not, emotionally strong people feel the same emotions that you do. So, what’s the difference? They learn how to cope with their emotions and move on. They have many of the same setbacks and challenges in life that you do.

They don’t view themselves as a victim in the situation. They know they have choices, and they know what choices they need to make. Believe me, I know. It’s probably been 20 or more years since I was that emotionally dependent person.

You can sit around and complain that life isn’t fair, or drown yourself in your sorrows. This will only keep you stuck, and it won’t change anything. The best lesson I got from going from emotionally dependent to being emotionally strong was: that as I change the people around me change. People actually started to treat me differently.

Here are 5 tips to help you become an emotionally strong person:

  1. Let go of control. Life is unpredictable. You can’t go back and you can’t predict the future. But, you are constantly worried about the future and filled with regrets about the past. You can’t do anything about them. This keeps you from enjoying and embracing the present. The next time you go for a walk and see a flower, I want you to stop and examine every part of it. Take a…

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