Taking Care Of Yourself

Taking Care Of Yourself

Believe it or not, emotionally strong people feel the same emotions that you do. So, what’s the difference? They learn how to cope with their emotions and move on. They have many of the same setbacks and challenges in life that you do.

They don’t view themselves as a victim in the situation. They know they have choices, and they know what choices they need to make. Believe me, I know. It’s probably been 20 or more years since I was that emotionally dependent person.

You can sit around and complain that life isn’t fair, or drown yourself in your sorrows. This will only keep you stuck, and it won’t change anything. The best lesson I got from going from emotionally dependent to being emotionally strong was: that as I change the people around me change. People actually started to treat me differently.

Here are 5 tips to help you become an emotionally strong person:

  1. Let go of control. Life is unpredictable. You can’t go back and you can’t predict the future. But, you are constantly worried about the future and filled with regrets about the past. You can’t do anything about them. This keeps you from enjoying and embracing the present. The next time you go for a walk and see a flower, I want you to stop and examine every part of it. Take a…

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You need to believe that you deserve to be happy.

The key to happiness — as cliché as it sounds — can't be found in other people. Happiness begins and ends with you. So take some time to go out and create your own bliss. Happiness is right around the corner!

Here are 10 ways to be happy:

  1. Choose yourself. Even if it may upset others. This may mean setting better boundaries with friends — or even your boss. This may help you sleep better and feel better about yourself. It's easy to put ourselves last. Many things get in the way, like work or family. Start to put yourself first on the list.It really is true: we can't take care of anyone else unless we take care of ourselves.
  2. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Give yourself permission to slip up every once in a while. No one is perfect, we are human and we all make mistakes. This is giving yourself a pass, just like you would to a friend or family member. It's easy to give others a second chance but hard to do it for ourselves. Stop putting the expectation of being perfect on yourself.
  3. Allow yourself to dream BIG.Remember when you were a child and you had so many dreams? What happened to them? Don't focus on whether or not…

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I’m sure, by now, you have heard of self care. So, the question is why aren’t you doing it? I know, you have a million things to do. You aren’t sure if you’ll ever get them done, but you are sure going to try. This could come with a cost. That cost, is you.

Nobody can do it all. But, you are lead to believe that you can. It’s alright to chip away at your to do list. Do a little today and then a little tomorrow, and so on. Make sure you listen to your body and take breaks when you need to.

Here are 10 signs you are not taking good care of yourself:

  1. You can’t remember the last time you treated yourself to anything.
  2. You are fatigued, and can’t seem to snap out of it.
  3. You rely on caffeine, painkillers, wine or some other substance to get you through the day.
  4. You are surprised at how easily frustrated you get. You are worried the wrong people are taking the hit.
  5. You get sick a lot.
  6. You find yourself snapping for no reason, and are easily frustrated in your relationship.
  7. Your friends and loved ones are pulling away from you.
  8. You dread going to work. You are starting to abandon projects or give them little attention.
  9. You’re on edge and worry all the time. You…

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You know you need to take care of yourself. So, why aren’t you doing it? Is it because there are so many distractions? You have work you need to do, or the kids just won’t sit still. It seems there is always a good reason to put yourself last.

When you don’t take care of yourself, you will become resentful. This can lead to many problems: low self-esteem, anxiety or depression. You live in a fast paced world. You are told, ‘It’s never enough.’ This leaves you feeling empty and depleted.

You may end up getting ahead, but at what cost? You need to take time for yourself and sit back. Take a look at all the hard work you have done. This will not only help you appreciate yourself, it will help you appreciate others.

Here are 5 tips to help you start taking care of yourself now:

  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If you can’t think of anything, then invite them out…

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We’ve all been there: had a bad day at work, the kids won’t stop screaming and there is nothing in the fridge for dinner. It never ends. You feel like you will never catch up. Life is full of surprises. We can’t go back and we can’t predict the future.

It could be you are going through a tough time. A recent break-up or a sudden move. You may also be struggling with anxiety or depression. If that is the case, it’s best to talk to a professional and get it properly treated. Causes for anxiety or depression can vary from environmental to chemical.

Self-care is not something you do once in awhile. You need to get into the practice of taking care of yourself everyday. This will help prevent burnout. When you take care of yourself you feel better about yourself, and it shows. Your family and friends will also notice.

Here are 21 suggestions for taking care of yourself, so you won’t shut down:

  1. Develop a morning ritual for yourself. My favorite is having a cup of coffee with my kitty. She sits on my lap and purrs. It’s a great way to start the day.
  2. Allow yourself to cry. If you need to.
  3. Go to the park. Sit in the sun on a blanket and read your favorite book.
  4. Spend a little money on…

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