Taking Care Of Yourself

Taking Care Of Yourself

“Do not ever let anyone make you feel like you don’t matter, or like you don’t have a place in our American story - because you do. And you have the right to be exactly who you are.” Michelle Obama

Tired of long days at the office? Are you still working weekends, to try and get ahead? If you answered yes, you aren’t alone. We live in a workaholic society. Which means, many people spend a lot of time at the office.

There is a price for working too much. You stop having fun and taking care of yourself. This can lead to burn out. This can affect your mental health and your attitude. We are seeing more and more burn out these days. This means there are many people out there, that aren’t having fun and enjoying life.

We just can’t have that. It’s time to make yourself a priority. This doesn’t mean that you will lose your job or family. I know a lot of you fear this. This also doesn’t mean that you go around treating others poorly.

Here are five tips to help you take care of yourself, and still kick ass at the office:

  1. First you have to believe it.You can start by visualizing or writing out the life you would like to have. Make sure you include things…

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Spring is here, the birds are chirping and we have extra light. Don’t you love it. I’ve noticed that many people didn’t even notice that today was the first day of spring. This tells me they are way too busy.

More and more this is becoming the ‘norm’ in our culture. Whatever happened to take time and smell the roses? Instead, it’s take the kids to school, drive in bumper to bumper traffic, go all day and don’t stop for lunch. 

It’s time to slow down. You life depends on it. Your body needs to rest. It’s like a car. It’s important to take care of it, this means fuel it up and get the oil changed regularly. If you don’t take care of your car, it will break down. The same thing will happen to your body. 

Here are seven days of self care:

Monday: This is one of my favorite days of the week. I know, so many of you hate it. For most this is when the work week begins. I like to start Monday with a good workout at the gym. I go to one of my favorite cardio classes. I love to start Monday’s with a good sweat. This helps get me focused and positive. This is the perfect time to work on changing your mindset. Instead of saying…

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First of all there is nothing wrong with being single in your 40's. Whether your single because you are divorced or you have never married, you're not alone. There are more single people than ever these days. I know many great people who are single in their 40's. They are doing things they never imagined they would do in their 20's.

There is also nothing wrong with wanting or needing to be in a relationship, in your 40's. I'm actually glad that you do. As humans we are designed to need other people. This is the normal process of life. If you are single, this is a great time to get to know yourself better. You can try new things, and even travel to new places.

One of the first things you need to do is to stop criticizing yourself for being single. You also need to stop comparing yourself to all of your married friends. This is easy to do. But, the good news is you can stop. Here are seven reasons to start a relationship in your 40's:

  1. Men and women in their 40's are generally more self-assured. They know what they want, and they aren't afraid to ask for it. I think this is one of the best parts. You don't have to pretend anymore. You aren't scared if things don't work out. You…

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Self-care is the big buzz word these days. But, what does it mean to really take care of yourself? There are so many other things that you need to do. The children need help with homework, the laundry is piling up, or you have a million calls to make at the office. Does this leave time for you?

I've found some of the simplest forms of self-care are the best. One of my favorites is my time in the morning, having a cup of coffee with my kitty sitting on my lap purring.  All I have to do is pet her. Despite what people say, kitties are great pets. They are actually loyal and there are many times my kitty greets me at the door. 

Here are 10 simple tips to take care of yourself:

  1. Go easy on yourself. I say this to many of my clients. Why is it that we are so hard on ourselves? I can't believe the things people tell themselves. If they said this to others, people would think they are crazy or they would hate them. 
  2. Focus on your strengths. We tend to do the opposite. We all have are strengths and our weaknesses. And, that's alright. Nobody is perfect. Make a list of ten of your strengths. Ten is not a big number. Start today, and then tell others…

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If you suffer from an anxiety disorder, you aren't alone. Anxiety disorders are one of the most common mental illness' in the United States. 40 million adults in the United States suffer from an anxiety disorder. This is 18% of the population.

If you have an anxiety disorder, you know it's no fun. Constantly in a state of worry or even fear. It's not that unusual to feel anxious before an exam or a big project at work. But, if you suffer from an anxiety disorder, then you know the anxiety doesn't go away.

Maybe, you've already seen a Psychiatrist and have tried medication. Or, you've seen a therapist and have tried to talk about it. There are also many helpful workbooks and websites. I find a combination of all of these can help. You can also add some self-care to the formula. Here are seven tips to help take care of yourself when you have anxiety:

  1. Try shifting your focus. Get up and go for a walk. The fresh air will help clear your mind. Take a good look at your surroundings. If there are flowers around, stop and look at them. Notice all the details of the flower. This will help take your mind off what you are having anxiety about.
  2. Keep a journal. Start to take note of what is happening when you…

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