After spending time with family and friends, and at holiday festivities, you may find the holiday high is over. Maybe your bank account balance has fallen low after costly holiday gifts, and there is not another work holiday in sight. If you feel like this, you aren't alone. Many people experience a low in January after the holidays.
At the beginning of The New Year, it's easy to look back at last year. This tends to be a time where we can beat ourselves up. 'I didn't get that promotion, I didn't move yet, or I haven't saved enough money.' This is a trap, you need to stay away from this kind of negative self talk. Now that the hectic holiday schedule is over, here are seven tips to keep the blues away as reality returns:
Everybody is talking about gratitude these days, and there is a reason why. I really does help make people feel better. It's easy to focus on what you don't have or don't like in life. I'm asking you to challenge your thinking and change your mindset.
Maybe you weren't expecting this but I'm going to talk about depression in this article. Depression affects many people. The Centers for Disease Control estimates that 19 million Americans suffer from it. At some point in their life, 10%-25% of women will become depressed and 5%-12% of men will become depressed. Depression isn't fun and it can be debilitating. Here are five signs that you are depressed:
Tired of the daily grind? Don't feel like you have enough time for yourself? If you answered yes to either of these questions, then you are like many people in our fast-paced society. We are always pushed to do more. Your best isn't good enough. Well, I got news for you, your best is good enough. You need to start believing you are enough.
It's 6:30 in the morning and your alarm starts blaring. All you want to do is hit the snooze button, but the alarm won't go away. You get up and the day begins. Wake up the children, make sure they are ready for school. You also have to get yourself ready. Then, you're off to the office. There are a million questions. Is the brief ready, did you schedule the conference room, etc.? The next thing you know the day is over and you didn't squeeze one minute in for yourself.
As human beings, we aren't designed to go all day without a break. If you watch children they will play until they collapse, if they are allowed to. Usually, a parent will stop them before that happens. As adults, it's up to us to slow down. We no longer have a parent to help us with that. If you continue at this pace, it will start to come out physically…
"Life is a balance of holding on and letting go." Rum
It's no secret - managing all the things you have to do as an adult is a challenge. I hear this all the time in my practice, 'I wish I had more balance in my life.' It's easy to put yourself last on the list when you have a spouse, children, work and a house. But, like a car you need to fuel up, now and then, or you will run out of gas. Here are some tips to help get your life back in order.
"Love is the miracle cure. Loving myself works miracles in my life." Louise Hay
Everyone's heard this self-help platitude: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. This may be true but we learn self-love by being loved, especially in the places where we feel most unsure and most vulnerable. If you show vulnerability in a relationship and it is met with disinterest or criticism, something inside of us starts to shrivel and we may think twice about ever sharing that part again. This actually starts in childhood.
Having said that, when you love yourself you are better able to receive love. It's easy to pick the parts you don't like about yourself. I hear it all the time in my practice. If I were to ask my clients three things they hate about themselves, the question would be easy to answer. But, when I ask them to tell me three things they love about themselves, they often sit there in silence. I tell them, three is a small number, there are many more great things about themselves.
Why do people in our society struggle so much with loving themselves? We are human, we are not perfect and we all make mistakes. Stop hating yourself and start loving yourself. The psychological rewards will amaze you. You will have better health and better…