Taking Care Of Yourself

Taking Care Of Yourself

Self-care is the big buzz word these days. But, what does it mean to really take care of yourself? There are so many other things that you need to do. The children need help with homework, the laundry is piling up, or you have a million calls to make at the office. Does this leave time for you?

I've found some of the simplest forms of self-care are the best. One of my favorites is my time in the morning, having a cup of coffee with my kitty sitting on my lap purring.  All I have to do is pet her. Despite what people say, kitties are great pets. They are actually loyal and there are many times my kitty greets me at the door. 

Here are 10 simple tips to take care of yourself:

  1. Go easy on yourself. I say this to many of my clients. Why is it that we are so hard on ourselves? I can't believe the things people tell themselves. If they said this to others, people would think they are crazy or they would hate them. 
  2. Focus on your strengths. We tend to do the opposite. We all have are strengths and our weaknesses. And, that's alright. Nobody is perfect. Make a list of ten of your strengths. Ten is not a big number. Start today, and then tell others…

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If you suffer from an anxiety disorder, you aren't alone. Anxiety disorders are one of the most common mental illness' in the United States. 40 million adults in the United States suffer from an anxiety disorder. This is 18% of the population.

If you have an anxiety disorder, you know it's no fun. Constantly in a state of worry or even fear. It's not that unusual to feel anxious before an exam or a big project at work. But, if you suffer from an anxiety disorder, then you know the anxiety doesn't go away.

Maybe, you've already seen a Psychiatrist and have tried medication. Or, you've seen a therapist and have tried to talk about it. There are also many helpful workbooks and websites. I find a combination of all of these can help. You can also add some self-care to the formula. Here are seven tips to help take care of yourself when you have anxiety:

  1. Try shifting your focus. Get up and go for a walk. The fresh air will help clear your mind. Take a good look at your surroundings. If there are flowers around, stop and look at them. Notice all the details of the flower. This will help take your mind off what you are having anxiety about.
  2. Keep a journal. Start to take note of what is happening when you…

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After spending time with family and friends, and at holiday festivities, you may find the holiday high is over. Maybe your bank account balance has fallen low after costly holiday gifts, and there is not another work holiday in sight. If you feel like this, you aren't alone. Many people experience a low in January after the holidays. 

At the beginning of The New Year, it's easy to look back at last year. This tends to be a time where we can beat ourselves up. 'I didn't get that promotion, I didn't move yet, or I haven't saved enough money.' This is a trap, you need to stay away from this kind of negative self talk. Now that the hectic holiday schedule is over, here are seven tips to keep the blues away as reality returns:

  1. Did your holiday schedule have you overbooked? Now is the time to get back on schedule. Go back to your support group, that helped make you feel better. Get back on a regular meal plan. Nutrition is important. Catch up on projects at work or get ahead at work, if things are slow. 
  2. Access the holiday financial damage. Did holiday shopping drain your bank account? If so, now is the time to start a savings plan and get back in control of your spending. Regaining a sense…

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Everybody is talking about gratitude these days, and there is a reason why. I really does help make people feel better. It's easy to focus on what you don't have or don't like in life. I'm asking you to challenge your thinking and change your mindset.

Maybe you weren't expecting this but I'm going to talk about depression in this article. Depression affects many people. The Centers for Disease Control estimates that 19 million Americans suffer from it. At some point in their life, 10%-25% of women will become depressed and 5%-12% of men will become depressed. Depression isn't fun and it can be debilitating. Here are five signs that you are depressed:

  1. You laugh and cry at times that don't call for it. In psychology this is also known as "inappropriate affect." This is when you over-react to insignificant sadness, and ignore major league bad news. Laughing when you lose your job is a good example of this.
  2. You have trouble accepting praise or goodwill. Martin Seligman, the psychologist that changed our thinking about depression. He studied the behavior of dogs that were given electrical shock. Eventually the dogs would just lie there. They wouldn't even respond to tugs on their leashes that could lead them to safety. The human paradigm, when you find yourself ignoring or discounting compliments, chances are you're depressed.
  3. You feel nothing.…

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Tired of the daily grind? Don't feel like you have enough time for yourself? If you answered yes to either of these questions, then you are like many people in our fast-paced society. We are always pushed to do more. Your best isn't good enough. Well, I got news for you, your best is good enough. You need to start believing you are enough.

It's 6:30 in the morning and your alarm starts blaring. All you want to do is hit the snooze button, but the alarm won't go away. You get up and the day begins. Wake up the children, make sure they are ready for school. You also have to get yourself ready. Then, you're off to the office. There are a million questions. Is the brief ready, did you schedule the conference room, etc.? The next thing you know the day is over and you didn't squeeze one minute in for yourself.

As human beings, we aren't designed to go all day without a break. If you watch children they will play until they collapse, if they are allowed to. Usually, a parent will stop them before that happens. As adults, it's up to us to slow down. We no longer have a parent to help us with that. If you continue at this pace, it will start to come out physically…

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