Hello and welcome back. You may have noticed that I took a long needed break during the Holiday season, to enjoy time with family and friends. It's hard to believe that 2013 is over and 2014 has begun. The year flew by and after I had surgery in September, it seemed like 2013 was over in the blink of an eye. I'm glad to say I'm feeling much better and I'm excited for the New Year. This can be an exciting time, a time of new beginnings, or it can be a time to reflect back on the past year. Here are four tips to help you for The New Year:
Now, the good news, you have been treated for breast cancer and have found out from your doctor that you are cancer free. You went through treatment single or now you have become single after being treated for breast cancer. You may feel apprehensive about meeting new people and dating. You may be nervous about telling people that you have had breast cancer or unsure when to give them this information. You may also feel anxious about starting a physical relationship.
Here are some tips on dealing with dating after breast cancer:
So many of my single clients ask me, 'why am I still single?' They feel they are doomed in relationships. I ask them, "are you truly being honest with yourself?" How open are they to their friends and family's constructive advice? How open are they to therapy and taking a closer look at themselves? Many of my clients complain that they repeat the same dating patterns. I have found that many single people, may be sabotaging their chances of happiness without realizing it. It's surprising how many single men and women feel they don't deserve a loving relationship.
I live and practice in the Bay Area, and many people complain it's hard to meet single people. I tell them, they are in charge of their attitude and they are responsible for how they come across to people. They need to understand they are responsible for their happiness and who they allow into their lives. This may be hard to read, but you need to read it. If you are always attracting people towards you that are non committal it may actually be "you" that has the fear of a relationship actually working out long term.
First Impressions and Things to Be Aware Of:
My single clients often ask me, 'will I ever find the one?' I tell them to focus on the process rather than the goal. What this means is, rather than focusing on how much you hate being single or making it a goal to find a life partner. Sit back and enjoy the process. Take this time to learn more about yourself and others. Here are three tips that will help you find love when you are single:
|"Single" is an opportunity to live life on your own
terms and not apologize." Mandy Hale
SO WHAT. I am not here to tell you anything stupid, like, "it must be lonely or you just don't get out enough." If you are over the age of 40 and single I am sure you have heard that and much more. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship, either. But, if you aren't, stop beating yourself up. Many single people are buying homes, traveling and spending quality time with friends. Here are 7 tips on how to enjoy being single when you are over the age of 40: