You take care of everyone else. So, why aren't you taking care of yourself as a mother?
I know you know about putting your oxygen mask on first in an airplane. So, why are you putting yours on last? In the end you aren’t helping anyone.
Taking Care Of Yourself
Taking Care Of Yourself
How could this of happened? You have been married for a while, and you just got the news. Yes, your spouse is depressed. This is stressful on any relationship. How will you manage this? You still have to take care of the house and make lunches for the kids. Not to mention your own work. This doesn't leave a lot of room for yourself.
What to do to take care of yourself? Are you kidding me?
You are probably thinking that you can just forget about yourself. First of all, you need to know that you aren’t alone. More and more people are reporting that they are suffering from depression. Don’t try to hide this, make sure to talk to your friends and family, and seek out professional help.
There is hope, many people have been able to manage their depression and live a happy life. You will be able to get through this. But, it’s important that you don’t lose yourself in the process. That will only make you feel bitter and burnt out. You also won't feel like showing love to your partner.
Here are 9 tips to help you start taking care of yourself now:
- Set aside time for fun everyday. Even if you don’t know what it will be, just set aside time for it. Write down fun on the calendar, even when you think…
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You live in a fast paced world. You are taught that more is better. But, there is a cost. The cost is your physical and emotional health. It’s time to start putting yourself first. Now, don’t misunderstand me. This doesn’t mean fall short on your responsibilities. This means start setting boundaries.
Are you starting to wonder why you are feeling burnt out, and don’t enjoy your family anymore? If you answered yes, then you are definitely in the danger zone. If you don’t change now, you will definitely regret it. You could end up depressed or ridden with anxiety.
Here are 8 tips to help you start taking care of yourself as a mother:
- Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If…
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Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It’s easy to put yourself last on the list. You take care of your family and you prioritize work. This doesn’t leave much time for yourself.
So, the question is, are you taking care of yourself during a divorce?
Our bodies are like a car. They need fuel. Just like you need to fill your car up with fuel, you need to fill your body up with fuel. This starts with getting enough rest, eating nutrient rich foods and drinking plenty of water. And, don’t forget about hygiene. It’s easy to rush out of the house in the morning without a shower. This will help wake you up and have you smelling fresh. I’m sure your friends and family will appreciate this.
Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You should not feel guilty about it. It really is true, we can’t take care of anyone else unless we have taken care of ourselves. This will also help you enjoy life, a little more.
Here are 10 tips for taking care of yourself during a divorce:
- It will help your memory.We have become a sleep deprived culture. The cost is forgetfulness. Have you ever noticed when you haven’t had enough sleep, that you make more mistakes? This can affect your family…
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I’m sure, by now, you have heard of self care. So, the question is why aren’t you doing it? I know, you have a million things to do. You aren’t sure if you’ll ever get them done, but you are sure going to try. This could come with a cost. That cost, is you.
Why Aren’t You Taking Care Of Yourself ?
Nobody can do it all. But, you are lead to believe that you can. It’s alright to chip away at your to do list. Do a little today and then a little tomorrow, and so on. Make sure you listen to your body and take breaks when you need to.
Here are 10 signs you are not taking good care of yourself:
- You get sick a lot.
- You find yourself snapping for no reason, and are easily frustrated in your relationship.
- You are surprised at how easily frustrated you get. You are worried the wrong people are taking the hit.
- Your friends and loved ones are pulling away from you.
- You rely on caffeine, painkillers, wine or some other substance to get you through the day.
- You dread going to work. You are starting to abandon projects or give them little attention.
- You are fatigued, and can’t seem to snap out of it.
- You’re on edge and worry all the time. You feel squeezed from all…
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I’m sure by now you’ve heard of self care. This is something a lot of people are talking about these days. But, not a lot of people are practicing it. So, why not? I ask a lot of my clients what their self care plan looks like. And, the number one answer I get is, ‘What is that?’
Then they Google, Why Should I Take Care Of Myself?
Honestly, I think that is kind of sad. People are too busy working or taking care of others, to even think about taking care of themselves. This may come from a very old belief, that taking care of yourself is selfish. Believe it or not, when people Google self care they ask what it is rather than how to do it?
Many things play a part. Your gender, race and socioeconomic status. Believe it or not, some believe you must be rich to practice self care. That is total nonsense. There is no truth to it. Don’t believe the lie that self care isn’t for you. If you don’t have a self care plan, then you need to start one today.
It can be simple. Instead of rushing through your shower, slow down a little. Wash your hair with some nice shampoo, and take your time. Massage your scalp. Instead of being on your phone until the…
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