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Taking care of yourself after a breakup is the best thing you can do for yourself.

We've all been there. Maybe it was your idea to breakup, maybe it wasn't. It doesn't matter, right now you are feeling alone. You can't believe you are going through this, again. The first thing to remember is you aren't alone. 

Taking care of yourself after a breakup is the best thing you can do right now.

This is something a lot of people don't like to talk about. You may be in the bargaining stage of the loss. Wondering where you went wrong, or why you didn't see it coming? This is something everyone goes through after a breakup

Give yourself time to recover from the breakup. You may be feeling lonely. This may make you want to run into another relationship. This is called being on the rebound. You are searching for a partner based on feeling lonely. It's easy to make this mistake. Make sure you give yourself time to heal.

Here are 10 strategies for taking care of yourself after a breakup:

  • Write it out. Keeping a journal can help reduce stress. This will help get your feelings out. Nobody has to see it, so you can say what you want. If you’d like you can pick a subject write about, or write a poem.

  • Hug it out. If you are around a loved one, give them a hug or ask for a…

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Learn why reducing stress is important. Not only will this help you, but it will help your relationship.

More and more people are reporting feeling stressed out. It's important that you keep your stress level down. If you don't it will lead to burn out. This is when you don't enjoy the life that you have, and you feel overwhelmed. It can also feel like things keep getting worse.

You want to start by appreciating the small things. Like a roof over your head and food on the table. It may sound obvious, but it's easy to get caught up in the rat race and forget what is truly important. 

In this article you will learn why reducing stress is important for your relationship.

You may be thinking you have so much on your plate, how is it even possible? If you feel this way, you aren't alone. Start with the small stuff. Exercise is a great way to reduce stress. You can add a few more steps into your day by parking further away from the office building that you work at, or when you go to the grocery store. Small steps lead to big steps. Get up 10 minutes early and do some yoga. Take the dog for a walk, or play outside with your children.

Reducing stress isn't only good for your emotional and physical health, it is also good for your relationship.

Here are 8 reasons why reducing stress is…

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Learn how you can solve relationship problems without fighting. Start with understanding.

Even the best of relationships have problems. What's different is that couples learn how to repair after an argument. This means that you need to talk about it. I know this is not what everyone wants to hear. This is a great way to help build understanding in the relationship. "You must understand the problem before you can solve the problem." Gottman

Learn how to discuss relationship problems without fighting. 

The Gottman's research found that 69% of problems in a relationship aren't solvable. So, why don't you try to stop solving your relationship problems? Sounds simple, right? If you are in a relationship or have been in a relationship, then you know it's not always that simple. It starts with a conversation. This means one person is the speaker and one is the listener. You each get a turn at each role.

Here are 4 helpful tips on how to discuss relationship problems without fighting:

  • Work on understanding one another’s belief system. You didn’t just wake up one day and have your belief system. It started long ago in childhood. You learn your beliefs about relationships from your family of origin. How did your parents make decisions? Were you included in making decisions? The more you talk to one another about your belief system and where it came from, the more you will understand one another. This…

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Are you suffering from the wintertime blues? Learn that you are not alone, and what you can do to feel better.

Wintertime blues are more common that you think. Especially, if you live in an area that can go for weeks or even months without sunlight. It could also be a sign of brain overload. Which means you are doing too much. When was the last time you stopped and did nothing. Yes, you heard me right. Did nothing? Stop and take a breath, try this for ten minutes.

If you don't learn to slow down, the wintertime blues will only get worse. This could lead to depression.

What can happen, is that you just keep going and going. You don't realize you are even getting the wintertime blues. This is also known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Many people suffer from SAD, this means you aren't alone. Unfortunately, not everybody talks about it. This leaves you feeling alone and isolated. Isolation is the worst thing you can do for depression. 

Talk to friends and family. If that doesn't help, then talk to a professional. You don't have to go through this alone. The good news is there is help. Stay away from stereotypes. Those are based on very old beliefs. You are not crazy, and you can get through this.

Here are 7 tips to help you fight the wintertime blues:

  1. Don't isolate yourself. When you are feeling depressed you may feel more irritable. This may…

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Are you tired of having money and relationship problems. Here are five tips that can help with that.

Talking about money in a relationship, can be stressful. But, you really need to talk about this one. I know, no one likes to hear let's talk about the budget. When you go into a relationship, you each come from a different family of origin. This means that you each have a different language. I have found that many couples have a different language (aka-belief system) about money.

That is why money and relationship problems go together.

After a while, you are going to have to talk about money. This can start when you are dating. This is not a problem that will go away if you ignore it, or don't talk about it. That will actually make it worse in the long run. Make sure that you are gentle with this conversation. Some people are more traditional and feel the man should pay for everything. Although, times are changing and many people are alright going dutch. Whatever, you choose make sure you are comfortable with the decision. Also, make sure this is a decision that you both feel good about.

At the beginning of a relationship, you are developing the foundation for how you handle money in your relationship. It's important that you both know what is coming in and what is going out. This means you need to start talking about money. You also…

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