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Learn some simple strategies that will help you calm anxiety, now.

While some anxiety is not a bad thing, like feeling anxious before an exam. You don't want it to take over. If you don't stop feeling anxious after the exam, then you may want to bring in some stress reduction strategies to your life.

Learn how to calm anxiety.

Research has found that about 40 million Americans live with an anxiety disorder. This is more than the occasional anxiety or fear. This is when the anxiety doesn't stop. This can affect your sleep, and also your focus. If it goes untreated, it can affect your health.

It's important to look at treating your anxiety disorder with talk therapy and medication. But, everyone can benefit from other ways to reduce the stress and anxiety in their life.You need to take a look at your lifestyle. You need to eat a balanced diet, limit alcohol and caffeine, and take time for yourself.

Here are five strategies to help calm your anxiety:

  1. Breathe in and out. Start by taking a deep breathe. All you have to do is breath in and out. Whenever you feel like your thoughts just won't stop. Take ten deep breathes. This will help slow things down.
  2. Stay in one time zone. You are worried about the future. There isn't a lot you can do about it, so, stay in the present. It's alright…

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Learn what some of the most common relationship problems are, and what you can do about them.

Relationship problems are a fact of life. After the honeymoon phase is over, problems begin. This doesn't mean you have to give up. Take a close look at your relationship. Where do you spend most of your time? Are you caught up with the children, or focusing on work?

What are common relationship problems?

One of the most common problems I see in my practice, is an inability to manage conflict. Dr. John Gottman is a premier researcher on relationships. It's not surprising that he found all couples have conflict. What's important is that you repair after the conflict and learn to manage the conflict. He found that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable.

What does this mean? You need to understand the problem before you can solve it. There is nothing worse than feeling like your partner doesn't understand you. This is when you begin to feel emotionally isolated in the relationship. If you don't work on understanding, this can be the beginning to the end.

5 Common Relationship Problems You Can't Ignore:

  1. Negative Sentiment Override. This is when the negative overrides the positive. When couples are stuck in the negative sentiment override, they don't notice the positive 50% of the time. The negative sentiment override doesn't set in overnight. This can take years to set in. But, once it sets in it's not easy…

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You can solve relationship problems without breaking up. Here are a few simple tips.

There are times where your relationship will feel stressful. You may feel overwhelmed. Not only do you have your relationship to manage, you have outside stressors as well to manage.

All relationships go through highs and lows. What's important is that you can manage the lows in your relationship. Keep in mind that relationships go through cycles. Once you get over one bump, there will be a time that you come upon another one.

You can solve relationship problems without breaking up.

The good news is that you can learn from your mistakes. These are called lessons

Here are 5 tips that can help you solve relationship problems without breaking up.


  1. Talk it out. When you start to have problems, it's easy to avoid talking about them. When I see a couple, I will have one partner be the speaker and one be the listener. It's not only important that you talk about your problems, it's important that you are listening. This means you don't have interruptions and you don't have your cell phone. This is how your partner will feel like you are listening. This let's your partner know that you care and that you have your partner's back. Start the conversation with what's going right in the relationship. Then, tell your partner what you appreciate about your partner. This needs to be genuine. This is…

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You've been hurt in the past. Now, you've met this great guy. Learn how you can trust your gut again.

You're getting older. You are starting to feel it's time to settle down. But, how will you know for sure, if he's the one you want? Yeah, your friends and family like him. But, how do you feel about him?

It's easy to look at the more obvious things, like what kind of job he has or how he looks. You'll find in the long run those things can turn out to be superficial. This doesn't mean they aren't important, but there is more to a man. Meaning, more to the man that is for you.

He's the one you want. How will you know for sure?

My parents managed to stay together for nearly 59 years. I watched them go through a lot of highs and lows. But, in the end they had each other's back. That's what stood out to me the most.

Here are 7 subtle signs he's the one you want:

  1.  He doesn't try to change you. There is nothing worse than feeling like your partner is trying to change you. He know you love cats, and that is okay. He knows that you grew up with cats, and this has meaning to you. So, he will make sure there is always a cat in your life. He knows you inside and out, and he accepts you inside and out. This is…

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"How can I reduce my stress level?" It's actually not impossible. Here are a 10 simple tips.

This is a question I get a lot in my practice. Unfortunately, people are more stressed out these days than ever. I know you feel like you can't slow down. But, if you don't your body and your mind will eventually give out.

This can show up as physical problems or emotional problems. You may feel like you can't stop, even for 5-10 minutes. If you feel this way, then the stress in your life is taking over. If you don't stop now, it will get worse.

"How can I reduce my stress level?"

This question keeps going through your mind. It's actually a good thing that you are asking this question. 

Here are 10 simple tips to help you reduce your stress level:


  1. Get more sleep. Sleep deprivation is a huge problem. Studies have shown that you need 7-10 hours of sleep. You think you will get more done when you sleep less, and be more productive. But, you will actually make more mistakes. This will make you less productive. Make sure to turn off electronic gadgets an hour before bed, and avoid caffeine. Take a warm bath and read a relaxing book before bed.

  2. Try relaxation techniques. Start with 5 minutes of deep breathing. Go to a quiet place or outside where you won't be disturbed. You can also try progressive relaxation.…

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