Going through a break up can be really stressful. You thought this was the one, but it didn’t work out. Whether you saw the break up coming or not. You are still left with the same feelings and questions. What did I do wrong? Will I ever meet the right person?

As human beings we are designed to need a relationship in our life. Not everybody can admit this, so, good for you if you can. But, relationships have highs and lows. Not every relationship can survive the lows. And that’s alright.

After ending a relationship, you go through a grieving process. You need to let yourself go through this. Try and learn something from the loss of the relationship. Lik, now you know what you don’t like.

Here are 5 tips for reducing stress after a break up:

  1. Give yourself 5 minutes a day of worry time. It’s easy to obsess about the relationship and worry if you will ever meet the right person. This can interfere with all the other things you need to do. It can also interfere with your play time. Set aside 5 minutes each day to worry or obsess over the loss of the relationship. You can set the time up for when you get home from work. Then, every time you think about the relationship remind yourself of the time…

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You know you need to take care of yourself. So, why aren’t you doing it? Is it because there are so many distractions? You have work you need to do, or the kids just won’t sit still. It seems there is always a good reason to put yourself last.

When you don’t take care of yourself, you will become resentful. This can lead to many problems: low self-esteem, anxiety or depression. You live in a fast paced world. You are told, ‘It’s never enough.’ This leaves you feeling empty and depleted.

You may end up getting ahead, but at what cost? You need to take time for yourself and sit back. Take a look at all the hard work you have done. This will not only help you appreciate yourself, it will help you appreciate others.

Here are 5 tips to help you start taking care of yourself now:

  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If you can’t think of anything, then invite them out…

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You want your child to be happy. Now, we know the definition of happiness varies. It’s easy to define happiness by how much money or material things you have. I always say, you can’t define happiness by your bank account. But, society tells us something different.

You need a new car or those new jeans. I have found that what children want most is your time. Maybe it’s cliche, but you really can’t buy love. After working with children in my practice for 14 years. I have found that the root of anxiety in a child, often comes from their relationship with their parents. There is actually a lot of research out there to back that up.

Here are 6 tips for raising a happy child:

 

  1. Add positive affirmations to your daily routine. Remember, your child is trying to find his/her place in this world. You know this is not easy. Many adults are still trying to find their place, as well. Affirm the positive choices your child makes. This is how they learn to navigate in the world they live in. You can do this with words or body language. A simple smile will let them know that you approve of their choices. Be open to your child’s ideas and let them try new things. Children love to think out loud. Make sure to…

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There is a ton of information out there on how anxiety impacts you physically and emotionally. But, what about how it impacts your relationship? Have you thought about how it impacts the people around you?

When you have anxiety you feel overwhelmed, and can have periods of panic. It may feel like you have them for no reason. This can leave you feeling confused. The first step is recognizing you have anxiety, and then letting your partner know.

I have seen many couples over the years. Whenever one person in the relationship has an anxiety disorder, it must be treated. If it is not treated, nothing in the relationship will change. And, it could even get worse.

Here are 5 major relationship problems due to anxiety:

  1. Anxiety crushes your true voice. When you have anxiety, it may be difficult to ask for your true needs. You may also feel like you have to talk about something or do something immediately. In order to get over the anxiety. This can come across as too pushy, and overwhelm your partner. This is also known as catastrophic thinking. You need to stop and gather the facts. It’s alright to take a break and talk about it later.
  2. Anxiety causes you to behave selfishly. Your worries and fears, cause you to focus too much on yourself. They are also causing you…

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Everyone has experienced stress at some point in their life. You are worried you will not get a good grade on your history final. You are worried you won’t have enough money to repair your car. You can’t get your boss to notice the extra work you have done. The list goes on.

Stress comes in and out of your life. At times, it is out of your control. The truth of the matter is, you can’t control anyone. What this means is, you need to learn how to reduce stress in your life. You can’t keep going. Your body and your mind need a break.

Here are 11 ways to reduce stress right now:

  1. Try some light yoga. With yoga you get the mind and body connection. This is a great way to reduce stress. Start with a few gentle poses. Simply rotating your neck can do wonders.
  2. Do an art project. This will change your focus. All you need are some pencils and paper. Pick an object to sketch, or sketch your pet. You can also color. I love all of the coloring books that are out now for adults.
  3. Write it out. Keeping a journal can help reduce stress. This will help get your feelings out. Nobody has to see it, so you can say what you want. If you’d like you can pick…

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