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Is he the one who got away? Learn how you can tell the difference.

I know this isn't an easy question. 'Is He The One Who Got Away?'

You’ve been seeing this guy for a while, and he has been hinting that he is ready to take the relationship to the next level. But, you just aren’t sure if he is the one for you. It’s alright to question your relationship.

Maybe, it’s not the right time or you just aren’t feeling that emotional connection that you really need. You used to look forward to his phone calls at the end of the day, but now they just exhaust you. It used to be exciting to hear about every last detail of his life, but now it’s just boring. You’re not quite sure how this happened but it did.

Here are 6 tips that will help you make one of the most important decisions of your life:

 

  1. Do you wonder if he knows what matters most to you? You have been with him long enough, where he knows your belief system. He also knows why you have the belief system you have. For example, every Monday night you go out singing with some of your closest friends. You do this because you enjoy their company, but you also do this because it reminds you of when you were younger and were the lead singer in a band. If he doesn’t…

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You can reduce stress with effective planning. Take it day by day.

Effective planning, what does that mean? You have to work, a husband and a house to take care of. So, what does that mean for your kids? Everyone has told you that your kids are a gift. But, what if you are feeling overwhelmed with your family? I have worked with many kids and couples. Let me tell you, if you are feeling overwhelmed you aren’t alone.

Reducing stress with effective planning, is not only good for your it's good for your family.

In our society you are led to believe you are a bad person, if you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed out by being a parent. You are also led to believe that you can do it all. In reality, no one is superwoman. If you continue to think this way, it will lead to you feeling burn out.

In our fast paced society,, a lot of people don’t want to slow down. This creates stress. If you ask me, it creates a lot of unnecessary stress. You are so worried about getting ahead, that you forget to have fun. Fun is good for you. It can change your mood and your mindset. Parenting is an important job, but you don’t want to lose yourself in the process.

Here are 6 tips that can help you reduce stress in your life, now:

 

  1. Don’t believe the lie…

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Learn what you can do to if you can't decide if he's the one for you.

What will you do? You can’t decide if he’s the one. You’ve been hurt in the past, and you wonder if you can now pick a good one. You need to realize you have grown since your last relationship. You are more insightful. You have a better idea of what your red flags are. That is really a good thing.

'What to do if you can't decide he's the one for you?'

You don’t want to settle, and you don’t have to. You can trust your gut. You know what you don’t want.

It's actually a good thing that you are questioning the relationship. This means you take it seriously. I know you want this one to last. So, how will you know when you should take the next steps. Whether you want to move in together, or just go for it and walk down the aisle. Here are some helpful tips, when making that big decision.

What To Do If You Can’t Decide If He’s The One For You, Here are 7 Tips:

  1. He’s seen you at your worst, and hasn’t left. He stuck with you when you got fired from your job, and your roommate suddenly moved out. You really had a breakdown at that time. But, that didn’t scare him away. He was there for you. He listened to you. You could…

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Taking care of yourself as a mother, will not only help you but it will help your family.

You take care of everyone else. So, why aren't you taking care of yourself as a mother?

I know you know about putting your oxygen mask on first in an airplane. So, why are you putting yours on last? In the end you aren’t helping anyone.

You live in a fast paced world. You are taught that more is better. But, there is a cost. The cost is your physical and emotional health. It’s time to start putting yourself first. Now, don’t misunderstand me. This doesn’t mean fall short on your responsibilities. This means start setting boundaries.

Are you starting to wonder why you are feeling burnt out, and don’t enjoy your family anymore? If you answered yes, then you are definitely in the danger zone. If you don’t change now, you will definitely regret it. You could end up depressed or ridden with anxiety.

Here are 8 tips to help you start taking care of yourself as a mother:

  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If…

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Learn why money causes problems in your relationship, and what these problems are really about.

You are told that money will make you happy. Maybe, you didn’t have much money growing up, or maybe you had everything. Whatever the case, you don’t want to let money define the relationship.

Learn the truth about why money causes problems in your relationship.

We live in a country that puts a high value on money. This can leave you feeling like you don’t have enough. You really can’t buy love. Money cannot replace the time you spend with your loved ones. It also can’t take back the past or predict the future.

The truth of the matter, is you need money to survive in this country. It will put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food on the table. This is something everybody needs. So, why is money the root of all evil? For many, money is power and status. You really need to be careful here. If you idolize people with money, you will not see them for who they really are.

I see a lot of couples in my practice, and a lot of them have issues with money. They have different beliefs about money. This can come from family of origin, society and gender roles. The first order of business is to start to understand your partner’s beliefs about money. Without understanding you won’t understand why money…

Read more: 6 Ways Money Causes Problems In Your Relationship

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