He loves me, he loves me not. This is one of the most important decisions that you will ever make in your life.
It’s actually a good thing that you are questioning the relationship. How do your friends and family feel about him? Would you bring him around your friends and family? I’m sure you know where I’m going with this. But, there is still much more to this. Is this the guy you want to grow old with?
Now, I’m not talking about how much money he makes or where he went to college. What does your gut tell you? This isn’t about those nice to have qualities. This is about the qualities that he MUST have.
I know you know about putting your oxygen mask on first in an airplane. So, why are you putting yours on last? In the end you aren’t helping anyone.
Are you starting to wonder why you are feeling burnt out, and don’t enjoy your family anymore? If you answered yes, then you are definitely in the danger zone. If you don’t change now, you will definitely regret it. You could end up depressed or ridden with anxiety.
Unfortunately, you can't find many reasons not to love yourself. You aren’t pretty enough, rich enough, tall enough, and many more. How much time do you spend criticizing yourself? I think as human beings you are prone to criticize yourself. Is this because you compare yourself to others, all the time? This is always a set up for disaster. If it doesn’t stop, you can end up with anxiety or depression.
One thing I always tell my clients, is that you can’t go back and you can’t really predict the future. So, what does this mean? Live in the present. If you are filled with regrets about the past or are constantly worried about the future, then you miss out on the present moment. What about that beautiful smile your child just gave you or the birds chirping. What a beautiful sight and a beautiful sound. Stop comparing yourself to other and stop criticizing yourself.
This means it’s time to be good to yourself. There is nobody else like you. This means you are special. This is not the same as being self-absorbed. This means you don’t hate yourself. When you love yourself, you will attract people into your life that respect you and love you for the person you are.
Most of the time you show love the way you receive love. For example, if you like to touch, then you may hold your partners hand. If you like to receive compliments, then you may compliment your partner on how smart they are.
There are many ways to show love. What’s important is that your partner gets that you are showing and expressing love towards them. If you have been in a relationship for a while, then you know relationships are about giving and receiving.
That really is the question. How often do you come across somebody that doesn’t want to make more money? I’m sure you probably want to make more money yourself. But, then what happens? You no sooner start making more money, and it’s not enough. Perfect example of money causing problems.
So, how does this play out in your relationship? Whether both people in a relationship work outside the home, or one works outside the home. Money matters will always come up in a relationship. Let me just say, if you have decided to stay home with the children and take care of the house, then you have a full time job. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Unfortunately, in our society money equals power. It’s been that way for a long time. So, if you are the one staying home or you make less than your partner, then it may be used against you. If that’s the case, then you will need to speak up for yourself. Don’t be shy, let your partner know how hard you work, and what your worth is.
You don’t want to sweep the subject of money under the carpet, either. Often times, the job of making sure the bills are paid is put on the…