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Learn how taking care of yourself during a divorce, will help you have more confidence.

Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It’s easy to put yourself last on the list. You take care of your family and you prioritize work. This doesn’t leave much time for yourself.

So, the question is, are you taking care of yourself during a divorce?

Our bodies are like a car. They need fuel. Just like you need to fill your car up with fuel, you need to fill your body up with fuel. This starts with getting enough rest, eating nutrient rich foods and drinking plenty of water. And, don’t forget about hygiene. It’s easy to rush out of the house in the morning without a shower. This will help wake you up and have you smelling fresh. I’m sure your friends and family will appreciate this.

Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You should not feel guilty about it. It really is true, we can’t take care of anyone else unless we have taken care of ourselves. This will also help you enjoy life, a little more.

Here are 10 tips for taking care of yourself during a divorce:

  1. It will help your memory.We have become a sleep deprived culture. The cost is forgetfulness. Have you ever noticed when you haven’t had enough sleep, that you make more mistakes? This can affect your family…

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Learn how to move on and feel good about it. Everyone goes through it, but not everyone talks about it.

We all have that one person you call, “the one that got away.” In the beginning you thought he was great. You just couldn’t get him out of your head. But, when the time came to commit, you got cold feet.

Perhaps, you just weren’t ready for a commitment and felt it was time to move on.

Now it’s over, you wonder if he’s the one and you made a big mistake. You can’t go back, what’s done is done. Sitting around having regrets about the past, never does anyone any good. He’s gone and it’s time to move on.

Here are 10 tips to help you move on, even if were the one that messed up:

  1. Stop the comparison game. The next time you are out with a new guy, clear your mind. It’s not fair to the new guy, to compare him to your ex. Give the new guy a chance. I know he’s not like your ex. But, there are tons of good qualities about this new guy. Go ahead and give him a chance.
  2. Give yourself time. This is one of the best things you can do. This will take time. You won’t get over it in one day. This is a great time to reflect on the past, and learn. What went wrong? Were you too intense? Give yourself time to…

Read more: How To Move On When You Messed Up

Are your relationship problems taking over? Learn what you can do.

At the beginning of a relationship, when everything is new. You can’t imagine you would ever have any kind of a challenge in your relationship. You can’t see your partner’s flaws. The relationship makes you feel wonderful.

But, eventually the honeymoon is over. You start to see your partner as a real human being. With flaws, like the rest of us.

Relationship problems are part of every relationship.

The Gottman’s research has found, that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. This means, learn to understand your partner and your problems in the relationship. Nothing is as black and white as it seems.

Here are 4 of the most common relationship problems:

  1. The sex isn’t always going to be hot. In the beginning you can’t wait to jump in the sack with your partner. It’s like a new adventure. You are getting to know your partner from the inside out. You’ve never felt this kind of chemistry. It must be right. We all know, after being married for a while that changes. Your list of responsibilities start to take over, and your relationship gets lower on the list. We have found that what keeps the spark going is a good friendship. It might be time to update your LoveMaps. This is where you really get to know your partner inside and out. Let go of any…

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Learn how to take better care of yourself. This will improve your relationship with your friends and family.

I’m sure, by now, you have heard of self care. So, the question is why aren’t you doing it? I know, you have a million things to do. You aren’t sure if you’ll ever get them done, but you are sure going to try. This could come with a cost. That cost, is you.

Why Aren’t You Taking Care Of Yourself ?

Nobody can do it all. But, you are lead to believe that you can. It’s alright to chip away at your to do list. Do a little today and then a little tomorrow, and so on. Make sure you listen to your body and take breaks when you need to.

Here are 10 signs you are not taking good care of yourself:

  1. You get sick a lot.
  2. You find yourself snapping for no reason, and are easily frustrated in your relationship.
  3. You are surprised at how easily frustrated you get. You are worried the wrong people are taking the hit.
  4. Your friends and loved ones are pulling away from you.
  5. You rely on caffeine, painkillers, wine or some other substance to get you through the day.
  6. You dread going to work. You are starting to abandon projects or give them little attention.
  7. You are fatigued, and can’t seem to snap out of it.
  8. You’re on edge and worry all the time. You feel squeezed from all…

Read more: 10 Signs You Are Not Taking Good Care Of Yourself And What To Do About It

Don't let stress get the best of you. Learn some effective ways to reduce stress now.

Are you overwhelmed by stress? If you said yes, then you are like many Americans. Research shows that 60% of people in poor health, have high levels of stress. So, what are you stressing about? Money, work, kids, relationships and the list goes on.

Reduce Stress and Improve Your Health.

I think the biggest lesson I have learned being a Marriage & Family Therapist is, we can’t go back and we can’t predict the future. If you stress about any of these things and you don’t stop. You are putting your health at risk.

What happened to faith? To something much more powerful than any human being. Why are we losing our faith, and letting stress take over? You focus on what you don’t have, rather than what you do have. The never enough syndrome. Once you buy a house, you want a bigger one and so on. It never stops. This leaves you feeling depleted and overwhelmed.

Here are 10 tips to help you reduce stress:

  1. Start in the morning. Rather than focusing on your to do list, start your day with three affirmations. They can be simple, I am enough is one of my favorites. Think of all the things you have done. Many people wake up in the morning and the stress begins. Slow down, have a cup of coffee and stay away from…

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