Even the best of relationships have problems. What's different is that couples learn how to repair after an argument. This means that you need to talk about it. I know this is not what everyone wants to hear. This is a great way to help build understanding in the relationship. "You must understand the problem before you can solve the problem." Gottman
The Gottman's research found that 69% of problems in a relationship aren't solvable. So, why don't you try to stop solving your relationship problems? Sounds simple, right? If you are in a relationship or have been in a relationship, then you know it's not always that simple. It starts with a conversation. This means one person is the speaker and one is the listener. You each get a turn at each role.
Wintertime blues are more common that you think. Especially, if you live in an area that can go for weeks or even months without sunlight. It could also be a sign of brain overload. Which means you are doing too much. When was the last time you stopped and did nothing. Yes, you heard me right. Did nothing? Stop and take a breath, try this for ten minutes.
What can happen, is that you just keep going and going. You don't realize you are even getting the wintertime blues. This is also known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Many people suffer from SAD, this means you aren't alone. Unfortunately, not everybody talks about it. This leaves you feeling alone and isolated. Isolation is the worst thing you can do for depression.
Talk to friends and family. If that doesn't help, then talk to a professional. You don't have to go through this alone. The good news is there is help. Stay away from stereotypes. Those are based on very old beliefs. You are not crazy, and you can get through this.
Talking about money in a relationship, can be stressful. But, you really need to talk about this one. I know, no one likes to hear let's talk about the budget. When you go into a relationship, you each come from a different family of origin. This means that you each have a different language. I have found that many couples have a different language (aka-belief system) about money.
After a while, you are going to have to talk about money. This can start when you are dating. This is not a problem that will go away if you ignore it, or don't talk about it. That will actually make it worse in the long run. Make sure that you are gentle with this conversation. Some people are more traditional and feel the man should pay for everything. Although, times are changing and many people are alright going dutch. Whatever, you choose make sure you are comfortable with the decision. Also, make sure this is a decision that you both feel good about.
At the beginning of a relationship, you are developing the foundation for how you handle money in your relationship. It's important that you both know what is coming in and what is going out. This means you need to start talking about money. You also…
How could this of happened? You have been married for a while, and you just got the news. Yes, your spouse is depressed. This is stressful on any relationship. How will you manage this? You still have to take care of the house and make lunches for the kids. Not to mention your own work. This doesn't leave a lot of room for yourself.
You are probably thinking that you can just forget about yourself. First of all, you need to know that you aren’t alone. More and more people are reporting that they are suffering from depression. Don’t try to hide this, make sure to talk to your friends and family, and seek out professional help.
There is hope, many people have been able to manage their depression and live a happy life. You will be able to get through this. But, it’s important that you don’t lose yourself in the process. That will only make you feel bitter and burnt out. You also won't feel like showing love to your partner.
Your Emotional Bank Account is empty! What, how did this happen? Does this mean that one more withdrawal could make it overdrawn, or worse yet close it? This can definitely happen after you have been in a relationship for a while.
In the beginning you put your relationship first. But, now you have work, home and a family. This doesn’t leave much time for your relationship. What happened to date night? Can you remember the last time that you went out on a date with your partner? If the answer is no, then you are at risk of becoming overdrawn.
There are many ways to build back up your emotional bank account. It’s important that you start to prioritize your relationship, again. If you have been in a relationship for a while, then you know relationships are about giving and receiving.