Relationship and marital problems are not that uncommon. They come in all shapes and sizes. If you are feeling disconnected or alone in your relationship, you are not alone. The divorce rate is almost 50%. This should tell you something.

As a Marriage & Family Therapist and a trained Gottman Couples Therapist. I can tell you I have seen a lot of problems. My knowledge has allowed me to help many couples through difficult times. I have found that the small things make a BIG difference in a relationship.

So, the question is why do so many of you get away from that? I see it all the time. Work, children and the house take over. This means your relationship gets further down on the list. When you start putting your partner last, your relationship is in big trouble.

 Here are 7 types of relationship challenges:

  1. Perceived lack of concern, care and attentiveness. Feeling like the relationship is one-sided. Alright, you decided to stay home while the kids were young. You wanted to be there to see them grow and change. You sacrificed a lot to do this. You had a thriving career and great friends. Now, he is away at work all day. He has been promoted and works late most of the time. His travel schedule is crazy. This leaves you with all the responsibilities…

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Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for your health. And, I’m not just talking physically. I’m talking mentally, as well. Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You should not feel guilty about it.

It really is true, you can’t take care of anybody else unless you have taken care of yourself. I see it all the time, you will burn out when you don’t take care of yourself. Why do so many of you put yourself last on the list to be taken care of? Is it an old mindset? There is really no good reason to put yourself last.

 

Here are 10 signs you are not taking care of yourself:

 

  1. Your actions don’t line up with your desires and dreams.
  2. You are abandoning your desires and dreams. And, instead put your partner’s (and everyone else’s) first.
  3. You don’t feel creative and are lacking inspiration. You no longer want to try new things.
  4. You worry all the time, you’re on edge and easily agitated. You feel squeezed or compressed from all angles.
  5. You’re easily frustrated in your relationships. You find yourself getting mad or snapping at others for no reason. You’re even surprised at how irritable you’ve become, and you worry the wrong people are taking the hit.
  6. You’re more tired than energized throughout the day.…

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Parenting is no easy job, and shouldn’t be taken lightly. For those of you that have chosen it, you should congratulate yourself. You are making a big difference in helping the next generation.

 

Parenting and children have changed drastically. Personally, I think video games and the internet are a big part of it. Plus, all the name brands. How do you keep up? It’s important not to compare yourself to others. I know this is easy to do. I honestly, think we are wired to do this. But, it is self defeating and no one benefits.

 

You don’t have to be perfect. Your child doesn’t expect perfection, and you shouldn’t either. What children need more than anything is to feel loved. They need this more than material things.

 

Here are 10 ways to nurture a happy child:

 

  1. Trust your mommy gut. You know your child better than anyone else. If you think there is something wrong, it’s alright to question it. If they are quiet when they come home one day, when they are usually loud. Ask your child what is wrong. If they insist nothing is wrong, it may be time to check-in with the teacher  to see how things are going at school.
  2. Show affection to your spouse in front of your kids. This means kiss, hug and touch. Your marriage…

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It’s a very simple word. But, yet so many people have a really hard time saying it. Why is this? Does it mean you have to admit you are wrong? I’m sure you know, the answer is yes. This is one of the best things you can do for your relationship.

 

All relationships go through highs and lows. What’s important is you learn to repair, when you have made a mistake. It’s also important when your partner gives you a sincere apology, that you receive it.

 

Even if you think you had a small part in the argument. It’s important to fess up to it and say, ‘I’m sorry.” Now, wasn’t that easy. I think if more people did this, we wouldn’t need aspirin. If you don’t repair, then you stay stuck. This can lead to all kinds of other problems.

 

Here are 5 of the most sincerest stories of saying, ‘I’m sorry.’

 

  1. First, you must accept responsibility. You probably are feeling hurt. This can cloud your perception of the situation. Start by saying, ‘I’m truly sorry, that really came out wrong.’ ‘I’m sorry I hurt you.’ There are many ways to say it, what’s important is that it’s sincere. This will let your partner know that you are taking responsibility for your part in the argument. It’s important that you hold your space,…

Read more: Why Is Saying I'm Sorry So Difficult?

I have to admit, I really wanted write this article. Almost 50% of the population in the United States is single. There a lot of people that think there is something wrong with you, if you are single. This comes from very old stereotypes.

I have found that there are a lot of people out there, that actually like being single. There can be many different reasons for this. You could of been in a bad relationship in the past, you want to focus on your career, or secretly the thought of being tied down is horrifying to you. You are also aware that the divorce rate is nearly 50%.

Whatever the reason, it’s alright. Being single doesn’t have to suck. This is a time where you can explore the things you like. Take that class you have always wanted to take, travel or even write a book.

Here are 7 things nobody told you about being single.

  1. In the back of your mind you are constantly wondering, “Am I too picky?” Perhaps you’ve been told this. Over the years dating has changed, drastically. If you are single, you probably already know this. I’m hear to tell you, being picky is alright. You may wish you were a little pickier when you were younger. It’s important you know what your deal breakers are.
  2. The question is, “Do…

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