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Learn what you can do to if you can't decide if he's the one for you.

What will you do? You can’t decide if he’s the one. You’ve been hurt in the past, and you wonder if you can now pick a good one. You need to realize you have grown since your last relationship. You are more insightful. You have a better idea of what your red flags are. That is really a good thing.

'What to do if you can't decide he's the one for you?'

You don’t want to settle, and you don’t have to. You can trust your gut. You know what you don’t want.

It's actually a good thing that you are questioning the relationship. This means you take it seriously. I know you want this one to last. So, how will you know when you should take the next steps. Whether you want to move in together, or just go for it and walk down the aisle. Here are some helpful tips, when making that big decision.

What To Do If You Can’t Decide If He’s The One For You, Here are 7 Tips:

  1. He’s seen you at your worst, and hasn’t left. He stuck with you when you got fired from your job, and your roommate suddenly moved out. You really had a breakdown at that time. But, that didn’t scare him away. He was there for you. He listened to you. You could…

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Taking care of yourself as a mother, will not only help you but it will help your family.

You take care of everyone else. So, why aren't you taking care of yourself as a mother?

I know you know about putting your oxygen mask on first in an airplane. So, why are you putting yours on last? In the end you aren’t helping anyone.

You live in a fast paced world. You are taught that more is better. But, there is a cost. The cost is your physical and emotional health. It’s time to start putting yourself first. Now, don’t misunderstand me. This doesn’t mean fall short on your responsibilities. This means start setting boundaries.

Are you starting to wonder why you are feeling burnt out, and don’t enjoy your family anymore? If you answered yes, then you are definitely in the danger zone. If you don’t change now, you will definitely regret it. You could end up depressed or ridden with anxiety.

Here are 8 tips to help you start taking care of yourself as a mother:

  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If…

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Learn why money causes problems in your relationship, and what these problems are really about.

You are told that money will make you happy. Maybe, you didn’t have much money growing up, or maybe you had everything. Whatever the case, you don’t want to let money define the relationship.

Learn the truth about why money causes problems in your relationship.

We live in a country that puts a high value on money. This can leave you feeling like you don’t have enough. You really can’t buy love. Money cannot replace the time you spend with your loved ones. It also can’t take back the past or predict the future.

The truth of the matter, is you need money to survive in this country. It will put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food on the table. This is something everybody needs. So, why is money the root of all evil? For many, money is power and status. You really need to be careful here. If you idolize people with money, you will not see them for who they really are.

I see a lot of couples in my practice, and a lot of them have issues with money. They have different beliefs about money. This can come from family of origin, society and gender roles. The first order of business is to start to understand your partner’s beliefs about money. Without understanding you won’t understand why money…

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Learn how taking care of yourself during a divorce, will help you have more confidence.

Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It’s easy to put yourself last on the list. You take care of your family and you prioritize work. This doesn’t leave much time for yourself.

So, the question is, are you taking care of yourself during a divorce?

Our bodies are like a car. They need fuel. Just like you need to fill your car up with fuel, you need to fill your body up with fuel. This starts with getting enough rest, eating nutrient rich foods and drinking plenty of water. And, don’t forget about hygiene. It’s easy to rush out of the house in the morning without a shower. This will help wake you up and have you smelling fresh. I’m sure your friends and family will appreciate this.

Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You should not feel guilty about it. It really is true, we can’t take care of anyone else unless we have taken care of ourselves. This will also help you enjoy life, a little more.

Here are 10 tips for taking care of yourself during a divorce:

  1. It will help your memory.We have become a sleep deprived culture. The cost is forgetfulness. Have you ever noticed when you haven’t had enough sleep, that you make more mistakes? This can affect your family…

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Learn how to move on and feel good about it. Everyone goes through it, but not everyone talks about it.

We all have that one person you call, “the one that got away.” In the beginning you thought he was great. You just couldn’t get him out of your head. But, when the time came to commit, you got cold feet.

Perhaps, you just weren’t ready for a commitment and felt it was time to move on.

Now it’s over, you wonder if he’s the one and you made a big mistake. You can’t go back, what’s done is done. Sitting around having regrets about the past, never does anyone any good. He’s gone and it’s time to move on.

Here are 10 tips to help you move on, even if were the one that messed up:

  1. Stop the comparison game. The next time you are out with a new guy, clear your mind. It’s not fair to the new guy, to compare him to your ex. Give the new guy a chance. I know he’s not like your ex. But, there are tons of good qualities about this new guy. Go ahead and give him a chance.
  2. Give yourself time. This is one of the best things you can do. This will take time. You won’t get over it in one day. This is a great time to reflect on the past, and learn. What went wrong? Were you too intense? Give yourself time to…

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