When is the last time you spent talking to your partner about their life dreams? Do you know your partner's life dreams? If the answer is no, then it's time for a talk. And, yes, dreams can change. We live in a fast-paced world and can get caught up in the busyness. Not only can we forget what our partner's dreams are, we can forget what our own dreams are.
Take a sincere interest in your partner's dreams. Know every detail of their dreams and their plans to make their life dreams come true. It's important to validate one another about your dreams. Start by accepting each other's influence even if you thing their dreams sound unrealistic. This is also known as, compromise. All dreams are important, regardless of how big or small they may seem. And, this doesn't mean you give up on your own dreams.
Now, it's time to start creating shared meaning in your relationship. There is no time better than the present to start creating shared dreams for your relationship. That is why the present is a "present." Set aside time in the New Year to discuss your own dreams and how you can support one another, and at the same time create shared dreams. Remember, each person in the relationship gets a turn being the listener and the speaker.
When you start the conversation it's important to create a plan that will build rituals around your shared dreams and also discuss the legacy you would like to leave behind. It's important to be flexible and accepting of one another's dreams. Not only will this nurture the friendship in the relationship it will also build love and respect.
Find your inner flirt. I often hear couples complain that their relationship is boring and they feel stuck. They miss the passion. I usually ask how the beginning of the relationship was. Are they still dating and having fun together? This is very important. Remember to spend magical time with one another.
Break this into "The Magic Five and One-half Hours a Week." Don't part in the morning without knowing one important fact about your partner's day. Kiss for a minimum of six seconds before departing for the day from one another. Two minutes a day x five working days = 10 minutes.
When reuniting at the end of the day have another six second kiss and the stress reducing conversation that lasts 10 minutes. Make sure to give support to one another and listen to one another. Twenty minutes a day x five days = 1 hour 40 minutes.
Find some way every day to genuinely communicate appreciation to your partner. This should be five minutes a day x seven days = 35 minutes.
Play with one another. Kiss, hold, grab and touch each other. Make sure to kiss one another before going to sleep. Make the six-second kiss last, five minutes a day x seven days = 35 minutes.
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It’s important when you are in a relationship to build rituals of emotional connection into your daily life. When you discuss your day with your partner tell them three things you appreciate about your partner. I would say you really are a great friend, I appreciate how generous you are, I love your imagination or I appreciate how dependable you are.
It’s also important to tell your partner what you are thankful for in your relationship. For example: I love your style, I like how you are playful with me, I am thankful for your sense of humor and you have a beautiful complexion. Stay in touch with one another during the day. Call your partner and think about your partner during the day. Take weekend outings such as; going to a park or going for a drive. Go on an overnight romantic outing (without the kids).…