The wedding was beautiful. You had the perfect ceremony, followed by the perfect reception. You were surrounded by friends and family, that were for you. Next the honeymoon, maybe you went somewhere far away. It was just the two of you day and night. The sparks were flying.

When you’re in the right relationship, it’s the best feeling. You know your partner gets you and has your back, at all times. For some people the first year of marriage is great, for others that’s not the case. 

They need to make adjustments and have a difficult time with it. Maybe, you didn’t land the job you wanted or you had to move. Inflation rose more than your salary. You didn’t know he liked to watch T.V. as much as he did. If you are married, then you know what I am talking about.

There is good news, you can get through the first year of marriage. You can be reasonably happy in your relationship. Here are 7 tips to help you out:

  1. Make sure you know one important thing about your partner’s day before you leave the house. Regardless, of how big or small you may think it is. It’s important you know what’s going on in your partner’s day when you aren’t there. Be supportive when your partner tells you about their day.…

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“Do not ever let anyone make you feel like you don’t matter, or like you don’t have a place in our American story - because you do. And you have the right to be exactly who you are.” Michelle Obama

Tired of long days at the office? Are you still working weekends, to try and get ahead? If you answered yes, you aren’t alone. We live in a workaholic society. Which means, many people spend a lot of time at the office.

There is a price for working too much. You stop having fun and taking care of yourself. This can lead to burn out. This can affect your mental health and your attitude. We are seeing more and more burn out these days. This means there are many people out there, that aren’t having fun and enjoying life.

We just can’t have that. It’s time to make yourself a priority. This doesn’t mean that you will lose your job or family. I know a lot of you fear this. This also doesn’t mean that you go around treating others poorly.

Here are five tips to help you take care of yourself, and still kick ass at the office:

  1. First you have to believe it.You can start by visualizing or writing out the life you would like to have. Make sure you include things…

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We've all been guilty of it. Whether you're beating yourself up about what happened yesterday, or constantly worrying about tomorrow. It's easy to do. You keep running the same old thought process through your head.

'I'm not smart enough, I'm not fit enough, I don't have enough friends or money.' As long as you think this way you will feel stressed out and anxious. A little worrying is alright and even natural. For example, feeling anxious before a big exam or a date with someone you really like.

What I'm trying to say, is you don't want your overthinking to paralyze you or stop you from achieving your dreams. I see so many people in my practice worrying about the same thing. I tell them, ' you can't go back and you can't predict the future.' Stay in the present. The present really is a gift. Enjoy the good times and learn from the bad times.

Here are 6 ways to stop overthinking:

  1. Ask yourself this one question. Is this even realistic? Maybe you shouldn't of said what you said at the meeting. But, does it mean you will be fired? Probably not, we've all done it. Either said too much or not enough.

  2. Replace the old script. After you have asked yourself, is this realistic? And, answered no, it's time to erase that old…

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Spring is here, the birds are chirping and we have extra light. Don’t you love it. I’ve noticed that many people didn’t even notice that today was the first day of spring. This tells me they are way too busy.

More and more this is becoming the ‘norm’ in our culture. Whatever happened to take time and smell the roses? Instead, it’s take the kids to school, drive in bumper to bumper traffic, go all day and don’t stop for lunch. 

It’s time to slow down. You life depends on it. Your body needs to rest. It’s like a car. It’s important to take care of it, this means fuel it up and get the oil changed regularly. If you don’t take care of your car, it will break down. The same thing will happen to your body. 

Here are seven days of self care:

Monday: This is one of my favorite days of the week. I know, so many of you hate it. For most this is when the work week begins. I like to start Monday with a good workout at the gym. I go to one of my favorite cardio classes. I love to start Monday’s with a good sweat. This helps get me focused and positive. This is the perfect time to work on changing your mindset. Instead of saying…

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A lot of people feel like dating in your 40’s is like being is hell. I have to say I disagree. Sure, there are advantages to dating when you are younger, but when you are in your 40’s you don’t have the pressure you did when you were younger.

Most likely you are more financially secure and in a career you like. You either have children or have given up on the idea of children. And, you aren’t in a rush. This is the time where you can really enjoy dating.

You also have a much better idea of what you want in a relationship. Meaning what you will put up with and what you won’t. As human beings we need to connect. If you feel this way then you are normal. Remember, it’s alright to say no and to wait for something better to come along.

Here are 12 questions to tell if he is a keeper or not.

  1. Why are you single?
  2. What is your biggest insecurity?
  3. Are you looking for something serious or casual?
  4. Are you thinking about making any major residential moves in the next year?
  5. Have you ever struggled with any mental health issues?
  6. Have you ever been arrested?
  7. Have you ever been in a serious relationship before?
  8. What memories have scarred you for life?
  9. Are you close with your…

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