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Are your relationship problems taking over? Learn what you can do.

At the beginning of a relationship, when everything is new. You can’t imagine you would ever have any kind of a challenge in your relationship. You can’t see your partner’s flaws. The relationship makes you feel wonderful.

But, eventually the honeymoon is over. You start to see your partner as a real human being. With flaws, like the rest of us.

Relationship problems are part of every relationship.

The Gottman’s research has found, that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. This means, learn to understand your partner and your problems in the relationship. Nothing is as black and white as it seems.

Here are 4 of the most common relationship problems:

  1. The sex isn’t always going to be hot. In the beginning you can’t wait to jump in the sack with your partner. It’s like a new adventure. You are getting to know your partner from the inside out. You’ve never felt this kind of chemistry. It must be right. We all know, after being married for a while that changes. Your list of responsibilities start to take over, and your relationship gets lower on the list. We have found that what keeps the spark going is a good friendship. It might be time to update your LoveMaps. This is where you really get to know your partner inside and out. Let go of any…

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Learn how to take better care of yourself. This will improve your relationship with your friends and family.

I’m sure, by now, you have heard of self care. So, the question is why aren’t you doing it? I know, you have a million things to do. You aren’t sure if you’ll ever get them done, but you are sure going to try. This could come with a cost. That cost, is you.

Why Aren’t You Taking Care Of Yourself ?

Nobody can do it all. But, you are lead to believe that you can. It’s alright to chip away at your to do list. Do a little today and then a little tomorrow, and so on. Make sure you listen to your body and take breaks when you need to.

Here are 10 signs you are not taking good care of yourself:

  1. You get sick a lot.
  2. You find yourself snapping for no reason, and are easily frustrated in your relationship.
  3. You are surprised at how easily frustrated you get. You are worried the wrong people are taking the hit.
  4. Your friends and loved ones are pulling away from you.
  5. You rely on caffeine, painkillers, wine or some other substance to get you through the day.
  6. You dread going to work. You are starting to abandon projects or give them little attention.
  7. You are fatigued, and can’t seem to snap out of it.
  8. You’re on edge and worry all the time. You feel squeezed from all…

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Don't let stress get the best of you. Learn some effective ways to reduce stress now.

Are you overwhelmed by stress? If you said yes, then you are like many Americans. Research shows that 60% of people in poor health, have high levels of stress. So, what are you stressing about? Money, work, kids, relationships and the list goes on.

Reduce Stress and Improve Your Health.

I think the biggest lesson I have learned being a Marriage & Family Therapist is, we can’t go back and we can’t predict the future. If you stress about any of these things and you don’t stop. You are putting your health at risk.

What happened to faith? To something much more powerful than any human being. Why are we losing our faith, and letting stress take over? You focus on what you don’t have, rather than what you do have. The never enough syndrome. Once you buy a house, you want a bigger one and so on. It never stops. This leaves you feeling depleted and overwhelmed.

Here are 10 tips to help you reduce stress:

  1. Start in the morning. Rather than focusing on your to do list, start your day with three affirmations. They can be simple, I am enough is one of my favorites. Think of all the things you have done. Many people wake up in the morning and the stress begins. Slow down, have a cup of coffee and stay away from…

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Learn how to know if you're falling love and not in lust?

Love is a wonderful feeling. If you don’t have it, you want it. But, you need to be careful with your feelings. Sometimes, they play tricks on you. Especially when sex comes into the equation. It’s easy to get carried away.

So, how do you know if you’re falling in love and not in lust?

We’ve all made that mistake. This can cause you to not trust yourself. Which can prevent you from finding and falling in love. You feel happier when you know someone loves you and has your best interest at heart.

The first step is learning to trust yourself. You can make good choices for yourself. You have learned from the past. You know what your red flags are. That is a really good place to be. If you aren’t at that place, that’s alright. You will get there, just give it time.

Here are 5 signs that will help you know if you’re falling in love and not in lust:

  1. He shows affection, even when he knows it won’t lead to sex. If the person you are seeing, touches you without initiating sex. It’s likely he really likes you and enjoys spending time with you. You can experience an emotional connection by touching or holding hands. This is also known as loving touch. Whether it’s done privately or publicly, it’s done in a…

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You aren't the same person you were when you got married. So, why do you expect your spouse to be? Learn how to fix a broken marriage before it's too late.

It’s the worst feeling in the world, when you realize your marriage is broken. You never thought this would happen. In the beginning, you felt it would last forever. Of course, you were mesmerized by the newness of the relationship. You did not see any of your partner’s flaws.

At the beginning of your relationship you never thought you would have to worry about, how to fix a broken marriage.

All marriages go through highs and lows. But, it feels much worse when it is broken. You wonder if it can ever be fixed? Your heart is breaking. You wonder if you will ever get through this?

There is no magic wand here. I have seen many couples in my practice. By the time they come to see me, they are usually on the brink of divorce. They have lots of questions for me. ‘Can you fix us?’ ‘Is it worth it?’ And, so on. I tell them, I have no magical answers. I know you will need to make an investment in your relationship, again. The truth is some couples make it and some don’t.

Here are 7 tips on how to fix a broken marriage:

  1. What made you fall in love, in the first place?After being married for a while, it’s easy to forget what you like about your spouse. What…

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