You are told that money will make you happy. Maybe, you didn’t have much money growing up, or maybe you had everything. Whatever the case, you don’t want to let money define the relationship.
We live in a country that puts a high value on money. This can leave you feeling like you don’t have enough. You really can’t buy love. Money cannot replace the time you spend with your loved ones. It also can’t take back the past or predict the future.
The truth of the matter, is you need money to survive in this country. It will put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food on the table. This is something everybody needs. So, why is money the root of all evil? For many, money is power and status. You really need to be careful here. If you idolize people with money, you will not see them for who they really are.
I see a lot of couples in my practice, and a lot of them have issues with money. They have different beliefs about money. This can come from family of origin, society and gender roles. The first order of business is to start to understand your partner’s beliefs about money. Without understanding you won’t understand why money…
Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It’s easy to put yourself last on the list. You take care of your family and you prioritize work. This doesn’t leave much time for yourself.
Our bodies are like a car. They need fuel. Just like you need to fill your car up with fuel, you need to fill your body up with fuel. This starts with getting enough rest, eating nutrient rich foods and drinking plenty of water. And, don’t forget about hygiene. It’s easy to rush out of the house in the morning without a shower. This will help wake you up and have you smelling fresh. I’m sure your friends and family will appreciate this.
Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You should not feel guilty about it. It really is true, we can’t take care of anyone else unless we have taken care of ourselves. This will also help you enjoy life, a little more.
We all have that one person you call, “the one that got away.” In the beginning you thought he was great. You just couldn’t get him out of your head. But, when the time came to commit, you got cold feet.
Now it’s over, you wonder if he’s the one and you made a big mistake. You can’t go back, what’s done is done. Sitting around having regrets about the past, never does anyone any good. He’s gone and it’s time to move on.
At the beginning of a relationship, when everything is new. You can’t imagine you would ever have any kind of a challenge in your relationship. You can’t see your partner’s flaws. The relationship makes you feel wonderful.
But, eventually the honeymoon is over. You start to see your partner as a real human being. With flaws, like the rest of us.
The Gottman’s research has found, that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. This means, learn to understand your partner and your problems in the relationship. Nothing is as black and white as it seems.
I’m sure, by now, you have heard of self care. So, the question is why aren’t you doing it? I know, you have a million things to do. You aren’t sure if you’ll ever get them done, but you are sure going to try. This could come with a cost. That cost, is you.
Nobody can do it all. But, you are lead to believe that you can. It’s alright to chip away at your to do list. Do a little today and then a little tomorrow, and so on. Make sure you listen to your body and take breaks when you need to.