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Have fun and listen to music.

It’s been a long day. You weren’t able to take one break. What’s the best thing to do when you get home? Turn on some tunes and relax. Let the sounds sink in. Or, you are about half-way through the day, and you are starting to lose your focus. Take a break, put your headphones on and listen to some tunes.

What are some of your favorite songs? You can listen to sounds in nature, like the ocean or birds chirping. You can also listen to classical or the latest releases. Whatever you decide, just stop and listen to the music. This helps change the focus of your brain. Try to keep the music positive. Don’t listen to something that will make you cry through the whole song.

Here are 5 reasons that listening to music, can help reduce stress:

  1. Music will help you think more clearly.This is also known as, “The Mozart Effect.” The University of Irvine did a study, which showed students scores increased after listening to Mozart. This might be because the processing of music shares some of the same pathways in the brain. But, don’t stops with Mozart. Make music a part of your day, everyday. I know for me, music can instantly cheer me up. Whether I am listening to music alone or with a friend, I absolutely love it.…

Read more: 5 Reasons Why Reducing Stress By Listening To Music Works

parenting expectations vs reality- getting honest about what's really going on with your kids

Maybe, you planned for your baby. You had it all figured out. You had the perfect furniture for the nursery. You felt supported by all your family and friends. Everything was going to be perfect. Or, maybe you didn’t plan for your baby. You had no idea how you were going to get through it.

Either way, after you had the baby you know things don’t always go as planned. You may have had many sleepless night. Maybe, your spouse wasn’t as supportive as you had expected. It took you longer than expected to recover from the pregnancy.

The best you thing you can do at this point, is let go of control. Learn to embrace the chaos. Your life has changed, drastically. Things usually have a way of working out. Try to go with the flow.

Here are 5 myths about parenting:

  1. You should let your baby cry it out.The truth is you can’t spoil a newborn. When they are born, their vision isn’t very well developed. They get used to your scent and your touch. It’s important that your baby knows you are there for them. They know this when you are holding your baby. I know this can affect your sleep, but it will make a world of difference in the future. Especially with how they attach to others. When your baby knows…

Read more: Parenting Expectations VS. Reality: It's Time To Tell The Truth

You can fall in love with taking care of yourself.

The New Year is here. Where did 2017 go? It was gone in the blink of an eye. You did a great job of taking care of everyone else. You made sure the kids lunches were made and got them to school. You rocked your last presentation at the office. And, you did all of this on little to no sleep.

You need to start taking care of yourself.

Now, these are all great things. But, what happened to putting yourself first? You did all of this and now you are feeling burnt out. You don’t understand why it is such a big deal. You can barely take a compliment, without wondering why you are feeling so down all the time.

Your brain is always going. You are always at least two or three steps ahead. You feel like you will never catch up. When did life become all work and no fun? Everybody talks about setting goals for The New Year. They are usually about work and family, and they don’t involve having fun. For The New Year I want you to set goals about having fun.

Here are 6 tips for taking care of yourself:

 

  1. Set aside time for fun everyday.Even if you don’t know what it will be, just set aside time for it. Write down fun on the calendar, even when you think…

Read more: How To Fall In Love With Taking Care Of Yourself. Mind. Body. Spirit.

Tips For Taking Care Of Yourself As A Parent

Parenting is no easy job. You don’t have any PTO that you can store up and use. It’s something you have to learn to get through. After a while, you end up putting yourself last on the list. This can lead to resentment and burnout.

I know you need to do the dishes, take the kids to school and go to the grocery store. You’re thinking how can I fit anytime in for me? Or, my husband never helps out around the house anymore, and the house still needs to be taken care of. So, you must do all the chores. Again, how can you carve out a few minutes for yourself?

The best way, is to just start. First on your list should be getting enough rest. Here are 11 tips for taking care of yourself:

  1. Stop, and take a deep breathe. This can help reduce cortisol levels, which can help reduce stress and anxiety. If you can, close your eyes and try to clear your mind. Just focus on your breath. Pay attention to where it is in your body and follow it. This will help keep you in the present.
  2. Listen to music.Research has shown that listening to music can help reduce stress. Listen to music with positive lyrics that has a soothing sound. Try not to think about what is stressing you…

Read more: 11 Tips For Taking Care Of Yourself As A Parent

Learn how self care can help you when you are depressed.

It can happen to anyone, when you least expect it. Depression is nothing to feel ashamed about. There are many different reasons, why you can feel depressed. It could be situational. Maybe, you are struggling in your marriage, you lost your job or you have an illness. It could be genetic. Maybe, depression runs in your family. It could also be chemical. The good news is depression is treatable.

You will be able to get through it, but you will need some help. The first step is reaching out to others. Talk to friends and family. If that’s not enough, then seek help from a professional. When you feel depressed, you may feel more irritable. You may not enjoy doing the same things that you used to. It may also be difficult to sleep, or you may sleep a lot and still feel tired. These are few of the symptoms, there can also be more.

Here are 5 tips for taking care of yourself when you’re depressed:

  1. Start by taking care of the basics.You need at least 8 hours of sleep every night. You need to drink plenty of water, and eat nutrient rich foods. Make exercise a habit in your life. Make sure you get some natural light, if possible. I know this sounds obvious, but it’s easy to overlook. I know it’s more convenient…

Read more: 5 Tips For Taking Care Of Yourself When You're Depressed

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