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Are Your Relationship Problems Due To Depression?

I’m sure by now you’ve all heard about depression. You know how depression affects you when you are feeling depressed. But, do you know how depression affects others in your life?

Unfortunately, this is something people don’t talk a lot about. Recent research has found that nearly a third of Americans have or will experience some type of depression. There is one death by suicide every 12.8 minutes. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for people between the ages of 15 - 44.

If you haven’t experienced depression yourself, you may know someone or be close to someone that has depression. Some of the symptoms are: irritably for no apparent reason, prolonged sadness or crying spells, pessimism, indecisiveness, social withdrawal, and significant changes in appetite and sleep patterns. There can also be more symptoms.

If you or a loved one are experiencing any of these symptoms, it’s important to get help. You don’t have to go through this alone. Here are 5 tips to help you deal with relationship problems due to depression:


  1. Your emotions feel like the enemy.Although, it’s natural to have a range of emotions. You should be able to cope with them. This is one that can be taken out on your partner a lot. Since, you are usually closest to your partner and spend a lot of time together…

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Reduce Holiday Stress And Feel Good About It.

The Holiday season has begun. Do you look forward to it? Or, do you just hope and pray that you will get through it? It really doesn’t have to be that stressful. Remember, this is the season of being thankful, and spending time with loved ones.

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of the Holiday’s. Which Christmas party should you go to? Did you get the right gift for your child or spouse? Is there enough food? Is your niece allergic to dairy? If so, how should you make the mashed potatoes? And, all that other stuff. Don’t let this get in the way of enjoying the Holiday season.

Here are 5 tips that can help reduce stress during the holiday season:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings. It’s easy to put everyone else first during this time of year, and yourself last. When you do this you can feel tired and burnout. You may also start to feel resentful, and that others aren’t doing enough for you. It’s alright to let people know how you are feeling. Maybe, the holiday season makes you feel blue. Let your friends and family know that, and let them know why.
  2. Stick to a budget.There is so much out there to buy, and there are so many good sales. If you don’t plan ahead, you may end up in…

Read more: 5 Ideas For Reducing Stress For The Holiday’s

Release your stress and relax.

Don’t let stress and anxiety take the joy out of life. It can come out of nowhere and ruin everything. It’s unfortunate, but many people let stress get the best of them.

When was the last time you snapped at a co-worker for no reason? Slept through the alarm? Or, didn’t have anything to say? This is what can happen when you feel overwhelmed, or stressed out. Little things can set you off.

When you feel stressed, things can actually get worse rather than better. Here are 5 tips that will help you reduce the stress in your life, and relax:

  1. Learn positive self-talk. It’s easy to get stuck in your head. We all have a running dialogue in our head. It can either build you up, or bring you down. When you make a mistake, what do you say to yourself? Do you say you are a dummy for doing that? Or, do you say we all make mistakes, maybe in the long run you will learn from this. Start to replace your negative self-talk with positive self-talk. Start now, tell yourself that you deserve love and care. By doing this you are starting to retrain your brain.
  2. Teach yourself to self-soothe.When you are under a lot of stress and are faced with an anxiety provoking situation, it’s easy to go into fight or flight.…

Read more: 5 Tips That Will Help You Reduce Stress & Relax

Learn some great questions for a first date, that will lead to a great conversation.

Dating can be tricky. What should you wear? Where should you meet? Who should pay? Should you offer to pay? What should you eat? And, the list goes on.

How many questions for a first date can you have?

Try not to worry too much on a first date. Remember, this doesn’t have to be the person that you marry.

Look at the first date as an interview. You are getting to know someone new. Try to have fun and not be too serious. There are definitely a few rules to follow. Don’t talk on your cell phone. Don’t do all the talking. And, ask your date questions. This will help your date open up and feel that you are genuinely interested in them.

Here are 21 great questions for a first date:


  1. What do you like to do when you’re not working?
  2. What type of music are you into?
  3. Are you a cat person or a dog person?
  4. If you won the lottery tomorrow, what is the first thing you would buy?
  5. Do you have any siblings? If so, are you close with them?
  6. Do your parents still live in the house you grew up in?
  7. Do you ever cook?
  8. What is your social life like? Do you have a big group of friends or a small group?
  9. Do you like sports?
  10. Are you a movie person…

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You can find the “we” in money.

You are told that money will make you happy. Maybe, you didn’t have much money growing up, or maybe you had everything. Whatever the case, you need to define your relationship with money, and not let it control you.

We live in a country that puts a high value on money. This can leave you feeling like you don’t have enough. You really can’t buy love. Money cannot replace the time you spend with your loved ones. It also can’t take back the past or predict the future.

The truth of the matter, is you need money to survive in this country. It will put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food on the table. This is something everybody needs. So, why is money the root of all evils? For many, money is power and status. You really need to be careful here. If you idolize people with money, you will not see them for who they really are.

Here are 6 types of financial stress in a relationship:

  1. The comparison game.It’s easy to compare your relationship to others. Do you have as much money as them? What is their house like? Do their kids go to private schools? The list goes on. When you compare your relationship to others, you will always feel disappointed. The truth is everyone is at a…

Read more: How To Know If Financial Stress Is Affecting Your Relationship

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