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Is your emotional bank account overdrawn?

When was the last time you took a look at your emotional bank account?

Have you ever looked at your relationship as a bank account? Like any bank account the more deposits you make, the more it grows. You can also make withdrawals. You need to be careful here. Like any bank account, if you make too many withdrawals without making any deposits, then your bank account will become overdrawn and is at risk of closing.

It’s important to make a lot of small deposits along the way. If you make a large deposit without making any small deposits, it won’t make a big difference. You also need to remember, that not every withdrawal or deposit is worth the same amount. Some withdrawals cost a lot more than others. Just as some deposits are worth more than others.

Here are 7 small deposits to make to your emotional bank account:

  1. Be grateful. Everyone wants to feel appreciated. Make sure to let your partner know that you are appreciative. Tell your partner, ‘Thank you,’ when he folds the towels without being asked. Tell your partner, ‘I appreciate,’ that you came home early from work to spend time with the family. After you have been married a while, it’s easy to forget about the small deposits to your emotional bank account. Make sure to make them a priority in…

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You can learn how to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage.

The dreaded news, that you didn’t want to hear. Yes, this really happened to you. You aren't sure how to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage.

Maybe, this was your first time being pregnant. The first stage is, ‘I can’t believe this is happening to me.’ This is actually exactly how you should feel. There is nothing wrong with your feelings.

Now, the anger is setting in. ‘WHY, WHY, WHY.’ Anger is a natural feeling to have. Everyone has it. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. You can’t sweep everything under the carpet. You ask yourself, ‘what could you have done differently?’ This is a normal question to ask after a miscarriage. It’s important not blame yourself or others after a miscarriage. It’s natural to want to place blame, but in the long run this will only make things worse.

This is also known at the grieving process. I have found that after a miscarriage, it can make your relationship stronger or it can make it worse. Sure, you have had problems. But, the question is do you want this to help create a stronger bond between you and your partner? And, do you want to try again?

Here are 7 ways to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage:

  1. Make a commitment to healing together.Everyone heals differently and at a different pace. If you…

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Learn what to do when you have relationship problems because of work.

You are led to believe that when you make more money, you will be happier. So, you work your ass off. But, now you have relationship problems because of work.

When you get a raise you are worried about the next raise. What this means, is that more money doesn’t mean you will be happy. You can also put your health at risk. When was the last time you had a good night’s sleep? Or, spent quality time with your family?

If this continues, your relationship will start to suffer. You don’t want to let work drive a wedge in your relationship. What happened to fun, or when you looked forward to seeing your partner at the end of the day? If you are willing to make some changes, then there is hope.

Here are 7 tips that will help you when you have relationship problems because of work:

  1. Start prioritizing your family. What is more important your family, or your next deadline at work? Now, I know you need to work. But, this doesn’t mean you need to put your family last. When was the last time you had fun with your family? This can be just simply laughing together.
  2. Cut back on your list.Are you a list person? If you are, then you probably have 7 or 8 things a day you feel you must…

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Learn how stress reducing activities for adults, can be simple and fun.

I’m sure you have experienced stress in your life. Whether is was a positive force driving you, like getting that next promotion at the office, or a negative force such as being stuck in traffic. Maybe, your heart starts racing or your palms get sweaty. Whatever the reason, stress is real and happens to everyone at one time or another.

Stress reducing activities for adults, doesn't have to be difficult. 

So, why all the stress? Studies have shown that Americans are more stressed out than ever. Americans are working more than they ever have, and the divorce rate is the highest it has ever been. What does this mean?

Here are 10 simple stress reducing activities for adults:

  1. Accept that there are events you can’t control. You can’t predict the future, and you can’t go backwards in life. The best you can do is learn. You can plan ahead, but don’t obsess over it. This means there are things in your life that you just need to let go of. If you don’t, they will hold you back.
  2. Learn to prioritize.This means you need to learn to manage your time. Don’t waste time doing things you don’t need to do, or that don’t serve your purpose. Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t have some down time or have some fun. Just make sure you have time to…

Read more: The 10 Best Stress Reducing Activities For Adults

You can learn to trust yourself, again.

I hear this a lot. You really like this guy, but you can’t help but wonder how seriously he takes you. You think about him all the time. You just can’t get him off your mind. You’ve been hurt in the past, so it’s hard to trust your instincts. That is a natural way to feel after a break up. But, eventually you need to pick up the pieces and move forward.

How long have you been seeing him? If it’s been a while, why would he have stuck around if he didn’t take you seriously? Have you thought about that? Are you overthinking the relationship? I see this a lot. Try to stay in the present. Here are 6 more tips that can help you know if your man takes you seriously:

  1. He smiles when you are around.You know by his body language and his tone, without a doubt, that he is into you. This is an important one. You want your partner to be excited when he finally see’s you at the end of the day. You want to be his favorite part of the day. Without him saying a word, you know. What an amazing feeling. When you know your partner loves you. This will definitely help get you through the difficult times. Like, when the plumbing suddenly breaks down, and you are…

Read more: How To Know If Your Man Takes You Seriously

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